Need some perspective

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Registered: 07-31-2000
Need some perspective
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Thu, 04-19-2012 - 11:34am

Hi all,

I am 39 - about to turn 40 this June -

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Registered: 04-21-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 2:30pm

BEEBES, I think we have met before but welcome to the board. I just want to say congrats on the 12 month old.

I am so sorry you are going through a loss. There are too many horror stories out there but there are also happy stories of births over 40. I know you saw at TTCAM, age wasn't really a factor in losses there. It can happen to any of us at any age. The only way any of us would be guaranteed not to m/c would be to never get pregnant.

I can't tell you what you should do but I can say that you should listen to your heart and try to ignore some of the negative.

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Registered: 03-28-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 2:44pm

Hey there! I am 44 & 7 mos. ago (when I was 43), DH and I decided to start trying.

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 3:24pm

(((HUGS))) Beebes, I'm so sorry about your miscarriage :(

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Registered: 07-31-2000
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 5:51pm
Thanks, and you guys are right - there are lots of success stories. I do think about Dani. She had just gotten her BFP when I was leaving the PAL board so I lurked and watched her get all the way to the finish line. I was extremely happy for her. And stories like that does give me hope. I guess it is SO easy to be sad right now because of the let down. I really haven't talked to anyone about it because I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant. I was just trying to figure out how to tell my husband. Unfortunately I had to tell him after the fact which stunk. But it all came and went so fast. If I hadn't tested Sat I would have missed it all together and just would have had a big ? mark over whether I was getting irregular because of my age.

Thanks for the encouraging words!

Beebes
R