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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 11:08am
Hi everyone. I'm new here. I'm 43, soon to be 44 (3/9/04). I'm on my third day of Clomid and I'm feeling very anxious about my prospects. I have one daugter,2 1/2 and I'm trying to get preg with a second child. My DH has days when he wants another one and days that he doesn't which is frustrating for me. This is hard enough without the curveball of uncertainty thrown in (i.e. Are we sure this is what we want?).

I have to say that I do have mixed emotions. I went to an RE basically because I was so angry with the way I was treated at the ob/gyn's office. Am I the only one that has to endure stares when I tell people that I'm trying to conceive at my age? It's as if I had four heads.

I'm moving forward because I feel this is the way to go. It's almost as if I'm on auto-pilot. I don't want my daughter to be an only child. If it's meant to be that she is than so be it. I feel like I want to do this for her.

I really could use the support of other women in my age bracket who are going through the same feelings, tests, procedures as me. Thanks for being here!

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Registered: 05-28-2003
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:47pm

Hello and welcome to the board.

Cathie

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Registered: 02-05-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 12:10am
welcome Hopefulmom04,

I'm 41 ttc #1, I did 2 cycles of clomid (50mg)-1st with my OBGyn and 2nd with my RE, My RE did an ultrasound so I know I developed 1 follicle with the 2nd tx. Had the HCG shot, major BD'ing, but no luck that month. I didn't really feel many symptoms with clomid, however my friend did get the emotional and physical symtoms. I've heard it really varies from woman to woman. I hope your tx goes well, and it does the trick. How many mg are you taking daily? And are you being monitored for follicle development and/or getting the HCG shot to trigger ovulation?

That's too bad that you didn't have a good experience with you OBGyn, I hope your RE is good. I was fortunate, my OBGyn wanted to send me to an RE even before we were really trying (because of my age and some of my cycle symptoms.) I actually had most of the Infertility workup done by my OBGyn so it gave me a running start with my RE. And my RE explains everything so clearly.

Are you having your FSH drawn every month? At our age, that is very critical as it is a reflection of ovarian function. Starting 2 yrs ago, my OBGyn and my regular Dr would draw my FSH occasionally, well it fell in the normal range. However, it can bounce up and down, and when it starts to rise, it may slowly trend upward. That is why my RE says I'll need to have mine drawn monthly.

Also, have you had a HSG to check for any uterine and fallopian tube problems?

Welcome again, and I'll keep the fingers crossed for you,

JnAnB
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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 8:44am
I went thru the same thing with my OBGYN doc - she did not want to do anything for me until I had been trying for a year (I was 42). so i switched docs. i work for a physician group/hospital so i knew the entire OB/GYN staff before i started going for fertility help. it makes such a difference to have the whole office trying their best to help and support you. unfortunately i suffered a mc at 5 weeks. my ob doc was in surgery so i ended up in the ER with my boss holding my hand! (fast forward a few days and imagine standing on the lunch line with the ER doc, ER nurse and Xray techs who told were with you during the MC.......it's not easy working in a hospital!) I went through 4 cycles of clomid - suffered the hot flashes and bloating - about to go on a really high dose but my insurance co refused to pay for that cycle ($300) since they only "allow" 3 cycles per year. then i found out that clomid would not help me at all.

eventually my doc told me that there really wasn't much they could do for me, as i'm >42 and their RE doesn't recommend anything but donor eggs for my age group, and once my FSH level went high it meant i was in perimenopause and my "ovaries were tired". Sigh...

so i am seeking alternative methods (herbs and accupuncture) and slowly coming to the realization that this may not happen for me. luckily i have a son who's about to turn 4 and a very supportive husband and friends.

Good luck to you and don't lose hope! I've been trying for exactly 2 years and no matter how much i research and learn, i can't seem to give up. everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to be it'll happen.

Lsill

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Registered: 02-05-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 9:29pm
Hi lsill

do you mind if I ask what your FSH levels are? I'm curious to know what other Dr's consider high.

thanks

JnAnB
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Registered: 02-20-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 12:04pm
Hi,

Sorry it took me so long to write back. To answer some of your questions I did have an HSG before my daughter was conceived. At the time I was seeing an RE prior to conceiving naturally. Everything was normal although I was told I had a slightly tilted cervix which might hurt my chances for conception. Fortunately I was able to conceive naturally a couple of months later. However, I did lift my legs high in the air after intercourse to make sure those fish swam downstream :O).

So here I am trying for #2. I just went this morning for my checkup after my clomid cycle. No activity yet. I was told to come back Thursday. I haven't been given the HCG yet because this is my first try with Clomid although I understand they plan to use the HCG to bring on the ovulation prior to the insemination. Also, since I had to take progresterone supplements with child #1, they're going to prescribe these supplements for #2 as well.

I just found out this morning that my FSH level is 8.3 which I was told was good. I don't have a frame of reference so I'm taking the RN's word for it. Up to this point I didn't even know that. It's amazing the things our doctors don't tell us until we ask.

I'm sorry I don't know what tx means? Can you fill me in.

Talk to you soon,

Hugs, Kisses & Baby Dust

Barbara

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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 7:13pm
My FSH level was 10 (last check in October).

I was using an OPK and it rarely said I was ovulating, combined with the FSH level they felt I wasn't ovulating regularly and didn't recommend any treatment due to my age :-(

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Registered: 02-20-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 7:58pm
Did you get a second opinion? Have you tried clomid? I wouldn't accept one's doctor's opinion. Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: hopefulmom04
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:55am
This was actually my "third" opinion, though I did not go back to an RE after the last "tired ovary" diagnosis. I have tried clomid - did get pg but mc at 5 wks. Have not tried clomid since because I was told and read articles that said clomid wouldn't help in my case. Thanks for the wishes of luck, I hope it works out for you too :-)