New here and I've tried it all . . .

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Registered: 03-28-2003
New here and I've tried it all . . .
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 2:18pm

Hello everyone,

I turned 40 in February and am blessed with an almost 3 year old daughter, Alicia Rose. She was conceived with a medicated IUI. My first IUI resulted in a blighted ovum pregnancy and miscarriage. My 2nd gave me Alicia. I then became pregnant for the first and only time without medical help, but sadly, miscarried at 6 weeks. My 3rd IUI last May was unsuccessful. I am planning to try IUI a 4th time, but the specialist required myself and husband to repeat all our tests, so we're on hold medically until the results come in.

Honestly, I'm very tired and depressed right now which is why I came here for support and encouragement. I have been trying to get pregnant for 10 years. I am so thankful for my daughter and my heart and prayers go out out especially strong to those of you ttc #1. I know that empty feeling and longing. Now, my focus has shifted to my daughter. I want so very desperately to give her a sister or brother so that when my husband and I are gone, they will have each other. The only reason I was sad to turn 40 is because I'm so worried about my "old eggs" and being an "older" Mommy. Sometimes, I think I should just accept my blessing and give up, but I can't do that.

I've tried almost everything out there to get pregnant, so if you have any questions, just ask. I'm a big fan of the clear blue easy fertility monitor. It works perfectly for me identifying when I ovulate. Unfortunately, my body just hasn't cooperated.

Hugs to everyone


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Registered: 05-06-2004
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 11:08pm


I would strongly encourage you not to give up. Get The Infertility Cure, by Randine Lewis. Call their clinic in Houston and get a referal for and acupuncturist in your area and start on taking herbs. Once you read the book, you will understand how this can help you have improved healthy eggs and an improved healthy cycle to conceive. I am 40 trying to conceive also, but I decided to give myself a few months, even thought it is hard, to get as healthy as I can. I am taking a lot of vitamins and have for about 10 months as well as the herbs. I have a twin son who is 15, his brother passed away, a 7 year old son, and I lost a son early in my pregnancy soon after my 40th birthday. I really suggest that you read this book and if you have the money, go on one of their fertility retreats. I am sure you will be writing soon that you have successfully conceived. Don't give up and I won't either.


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Registered: 05-05-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:47pm

Hi Mary,

This book sounds too good to be true, but I'll definitely give it a try. Tell me, what can this book do for women who may be experiencing diminishing ovarian reserve? I thought that there was nothing medical science good do for "old eggs"?


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Registered: 05-15-2005
Fri, 05-20-2005 - 10:37pm
hi lora, i had my last baby at 42 after an herbal lady told me to try primrose oil and red raspberry leaf tea...i used them for a while and finally conceived. i am now 48 and #4 is six years old. he is the last of the mohicans at home and how neat it would be to give him a brother or sister...he insists he doesn't want one but i would love it. my husband is silently best to you. janet