New here and undecided..

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Registered: 07-04-2009
New here and undecided..
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Sat, 07-04-2009 - 6:54pm

Hi!


I'm new to this board...I turned 40 earlier this year.

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Registered: 07-14-2009
Thu, 07-16-2009 - 12:55am
Hi,
Found your post very interesting in that your hubby was the one who mentioned kids. It seems it's usually the woman who hears her biological clock ticking first.
We have 2 children, 12 and 8 and it seemed fine for a while. Then my younger one started asking for a baby brother. Surprised the heck out of me. She was the one to hear my clock ticking! Soon I realized I wanted my kids to have more than just each other after their parents are gone. I have always felt so blessed to be one of five siblings. I would like them to have another sibling in their lives.
Anyways, we have been TTC this year. I also have been quickly learning all the pregnancy and fertility terminology online. Never bothered before with my first 2 kids, but this time I'm much older and feel unsure about things. It all seems so scary but I am so encouraged by all the positive stories I see for women over 40. I would have TTC sooner if I had not just listened to all the doom and gloom in the medical community about "advanced maternal age"!
Hope you find what ur looking for. Best wishes to you.
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Registered: 07-10-2008
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 10:29pm
Welcome to the board!!!

Jessica

Me - 44, DH-47     

 

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Registered: 12-26-2007
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 1:42pm

Hi and welcome.


I'll try to find the abreviation threads and bump them to the top of the list.

Susan L.

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 12:50am
Welcome here. Krista is right, the biggest thing is the drop in fertility after 40, but even then it is a drop not a complete write off. There are many things that can be done to help. I actually had a harder time conceiving before I turned 40, my only unassisted baby was conceived when I was 42! She is now 2 1/2 yrs old, and I have been pregnant twice without assistance in the past year, but sadly I m/c'd both babies. Yes, there are other risk factors for the baby, but the odds of having a healthy child is still very much in your favour. I agree that going to see your dr first is a good thing, you can get some of the facts about the risks as well as find out more about your own fertility and what your dr would recommend. Having a child can be a roller coaster journey, but well worth it all.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 8:38pm
I think a checkup is a good idea -- and they can do some very basic hormone tests and perhaps a pap test or U/S. It's good to get a clean bill of health, for sure. Then your gyn can decide if he/she thinks a referral to an RE might be needed.
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Registered: 07-04-2009
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 6:40pm
Do you think a person should go to her ob/gyn before they start trying to get checked out and see what the doctor may say?
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Registered: 04-07-2009
Sat, 07-04-2009 - 9:53pm

Welcome, sister. The one thing to keep in mind is that PG and childbirth have risks at any age. SOme risks increase with age, but most do not. The biggest risk at 40 is that it is just more difficult to get PG. Not for everyone, but fertility does decline, so it might take some time (then again, lots of over 40s have gotten PG the first time they DTD w/o birth control).


Once you turn 40, they do offer a multitude of testing and genetic counselling if you choose to take advantage of that. You will find the women here will be a great source of information. If you are ready, I say go for it and good luck.


Welcome to the TTC journey.

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