New here & curious about your ages

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Registered: 09-03-2009
New here & curious about your ages
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Sun, 09-13-2009 - 10:59pm

I've been reading this board -- the good, bad and neutral about TTC at 40+. I'll be 43 in a few weeks, am re-married (for 12 years now) and have decided to try for a baby before it's too late. Or is it too late? Reading some of your posts scares me.

I had an unexpected pregnancy at age 27, married and got divorced 18 months later. He's 15 1/2 now. I've always had regular periods and had no problems with my first pregnancy. I'm hoping that is the case with conceiving this time around (15 years later). It's so foreign to be planning it -- looking at CDs, reading about EWCM, O days, BDing, etc. LOL!

I've never had to try and am a little worried now that we've made the decision. Still, this is my first AF since we decided to go for it (doc ok'd it, too). I'm on CD 1 as of today. I have thyroid disease but keep it regulated pretty tightly with Synthroid and Cytomel.

I think the general words of wisdom are just relax and let nature take its course. I will not go the fertility treatment route if we're unsuccessful at conceiving a child together, so I hope I'm not setting myself up for heartbreak. I am really grateful to have carried a child but hope to have one more healthy baby before menopause kicks in.

Would appreciate intros and words of wisdom.

TIA! 8-)

~Melissa

~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:45pm
Hi Melissa. In answer to your question MFI is male factor infertility -- translation: all hubby's fault, lol.
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Registered: 05-31-2004
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 7:15pm
Hi Melissa, welcome! I am 44 and haven't given up hope yet. We have dealt with infertility for many years before this, and I have actually gotten pregnant easier with age! Lol! I know, it makes no sense! (Well, maybe it does since I have PCOS and lost an ovary with an ectopic pregnancy) I had our 3rd DS just a few weeks before my 40th birthday, and our DD when I was 42, plus I have been pregnant twice since then, although I sadly miscarried both times. Miscarriage is not new to me, seems to be a recurring problem, so I am not at all convinced that it has anything to do with age. We are only actively TTCing until the end of the year, although the door will always be open. Right now it is just a month at a time, thought I might quit this month but we decided to have another go at it. The only fertility treatment that we will do is to take clomid in hopes of giving any pregnancy a better chance, but won't go anything past that. Did some of that before, just don't feel it is right for us at this time. Bottom line for us is that it is all in God's hands, and we will just wait and see what He has in store for us.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


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Registered: 09-03-2009
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 7:39pm

I feel the same way you do, Michelle. If we're meant to have a baby together, it will happen. I'm not going to intervene with infertility treatments. That just doesn't feel right for me, but I support everyone's choice to do what she needs to do.

~Melissa

42, soon to be 43 -- would love a BFP for my birthday in October!
TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2
~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:32am

It is interesting that you used the phrase that it doesn't feel right to you. For years I struggled with any intervention whatsoever because it just didn't feel right, until I finally realized one thing. If it were any other part of my body I would not hesitate to doing what I needed to do to get it functioning properly. So for me, after realizing that, I decided that I would go that far with intervention, simply trying to get my body working as it was designed to work. In my case, I was not ovulating at all, so that was where we started. Fortunately, even though there were a few issues with DH, we never had to do anything further, it just took time. At this point I will use the clomid but it is only to improve how I am functioning, anything beyond that I do not feel comfortable with for myself. I understand and support others who decide to go to another level, it just isn't right for us.

Now that is totally different from your own situation, since you already know you are ovulating, and I certainly did not intend to tell you what to do or anything, I just thought it was interesting and thought I would share. :-)

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 2:31am

Thanks for your candid response, Michelle. I'm curious, though. Isn't it possible to have normal periods but not ovulate? This whole world of planning a pregnancy is utterly foreign to me. I've learnt more about my reproductive system in the past three weeks than in my lifetime. 8-)

I'm hoping for the best -- a BFP in my birthday month (October). It certainly has boosted our sex life if nothing else.

I think I would be willing to do two things if we don't conceive in 3 months' time:

1) Have my husband see a urologist to check his motility/sperm production.
2) Find out if I am, in fact, ovulating (I have no idea what this entails). I believe I am ovulating though, because I get mild mid-cycle cramping on the side that's releasing the egg.

I believe I would take Clomid if I found out I wasn't ovulating, but I am not willing to do any invasive procedures (other than to check plumbing) and correct anything that might be wrong, like cysts I've read about here, etc.

This has been a good exercise in discovering what I am willing to do to conceive. I may change my mind though -- who knows?

For now, we're just having fun BDing and dreaming of bringing a new life into the world. It has certainly put a pep in our step. 8-)

Baby dust to all!
~Melissa

42, soon to be 43 -- would love a BFP for my birthday in October!
TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2
~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:19am
Yes, it is possible to have regular periods without ovulating. Or ovulate but have blocked tubes. If you are taking your temp every day and you see a good pattern, then you are most likely ovulating. You would need some tests to check the plumbing though. And going through this whole TTC thing can be quite a learning curve to say the least. I have learnt so much over the years, especially when I had to go on injectibles to ovulate, fascinating. When I came here I have learnt so much more in regard to all of this, the ladies here are great. I am glad TTC has been good for you so far, hope it stays that way for you.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 09-17-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:01pm

Hello!! New here, I'm 44 and my DE transfer on Sat!!!
Husband is "perfect", I'm suffering from "old lady syndrome"! Have 2 nat children from a pervious marriage DD~23..DS~19...Love them both!!!

Good Luck everyone!!!

Sharon
44yrs old
2 Nat Children
DD~23 & DS~19

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Registered: 08-22-2008
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 4:26pm
Hi! My name is Renee. I will be 44 yrs on 10/15. My signature pretty much tells of my fertility journey. I'm currently dealing with a m/c right now.While today I feel a bit down fallen.I plan to dust my hope off and get right back up! Hey, its not over til its over! I do not chart or use and fertility treatments. I just watch my calendar and body signs. Course I am blessed with regular cycles so that makes a difference. I think next mo tho I am gonna try so OPK's and see what type of response I get. I've never used them before, but curious. I also plan to take my vitamins more regularly. Other than that its in God's hands. The support I gain on this board makes ALLLL the difference for me too. Keeps me positive and focused. I pray you get your blessing!!!
Renee

Michael & Renee


10/29/83


DS25,DS23,DD21,DD16


TL 2/93


TLR 10/99


DD8,DS6,DS4


M/C @7 wks 3/03, M/C @13 wks

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 10:06pm

HI Melissa-

I will be 40 in February (I know I'm the youngster here) This is cycle #10 of our ttc journey.. Dh and I have been married 19 years, I had two girls in my 20's, a son @ 29 we thought we were done, surprise our baby James came along @ 36. Once again we thought we were done but being older and having so much more patience we soon realized how blessed we would feel/be to have another child... I had my IUD removed (i wish I never got one) and have been trying ever since.

Here's hoping we all see a BFP in our near future:)...









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Registered: 04-11-2008
Fri, 09-25-2009 - 10:12pm

Hi


I am almost 44, and we are currently trying for number two.