New here & curious about your ages

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Registered: 09-03-2009
New here & curious about your ages
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Sun, 09-13-2009 - 10:59pm

I've been reading this board -- the good, bad and neutral about TTC at 40+. I'll be 43 in a few weeks, am re-married (for 12 years now) and have decided to try for a baby before it's too late. Or is it too late? Reading some of your posts scares me.

I had an unexpected pregnancy at age 27, married and got divorced 18 months later. He's 15 1/2 now. I've always had regular periods and had no problems with my first pregnancy. I'm hoping that is the case with conceiving this time around (15 years later). It's so foreign to be planning it -- looking at CDs, reading about EWCM, O days, BDing, etc. LOL!

I've never had to try and am a little worried now that we've made the decision. Still, this is my first AF since we decided to go for it (doc ok'd it, too). I'm on CD 1 as of today. I have thyroid disease but keep it regulated pretty tightly with Synthroid and Cytomel.

I think the general words of wisdom are just relax and let nature take its course. I will not go the fertility treatment route if we're unsuccessful at conceiving a child together, so I hope I'm not setting myself up for heartbreak. I am really grateful to have carried a child but hope to have one more healthy baby before menopause kicks in.

Would appreciate intros and words of wisdom.

TIA! 8-)

~Melissa

~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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Registered: 09-25-2008
Sat, 09-26-2009 - 1:31am

Melissa,
Welcome to the board! I was married at 39 (first marriage)...got pregnant on our honeymoon...have a 2 1/2 dd.

Last November had a chemical pregnancy (very early m/c), had a ruptured cyst on my ovary in April, diagnosed with insulin resistance/pre-diabetes in April too (though I'm in excellent health and fit)...

Take pre-natals, extra folic acid, eat a balanced low carb diet (not by choice, miss potatoes and bread!!)

My doctor, that delivered my dd was the one that encouraged me to try for another baby. She has told me lots of stories of patients in their mid to later 40's that had healthy babies....says if you're a good mother you should have children - the world needs more "good people" in it.

About 4 weeks ago discovered I was pregnant...now almost 9 weeks.
Best wishes to you with your ttc journey. The women on this board will get you through it...with lots of support! Cath xx

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Registered: 08-26-2009
Sat, 09-26-2009 - 11:24am

Hi ladies, mind if I join in?

I'm 42, will be 43 in January. Like Cath I got married when I was 39 and we started trying six months later. I've always wanted children, but life, grad school, work etc got in the way and I thought there'd be all the time in the world.... Now two years on, we've been through two miscarriages and I'm starting to despair of ever having a bio child.

My husband's only 36 (I read that age affects male fertility too, so that's something!) and we have had tons of testing done, everything seems a-OK. Husband's SA was OK, I'm ovulating fine (had the CD 21 progesterone check in July). We live in the UK and so are not eligible for IF treatments on the national health service because of my age and because we don't technically have fertility problems; my ticking clock however is threatening to explode! It's possible we could do IVF thru private insurance but I'm kind of feeling that I have a lower chance of success w/ IVF at my age compared to trying naturally, given the statistics?

I'm in excellent health, have never smoked, I exercise, meditate, take prenatal vitamins and chart my temperature; this cycle I started using OPKs and cough syrup. Yuck! But worth if it works, right?

Cath, I love your doc for saying that! My midwife here has been really supportive too--the first thing she said to us when we went in for pre-conception counseling was that she'd just delivered a first baby to a 49-year-old woman, so "not to worry." So that's what I try to hold onto!

Anyway, that's my story, thanks for letting me chime in!

Rebekkah

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/282756

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 7:34pm

I have 2 beautiful babies born after I was 40. The first one was born when I was 43...2 years after my husband had a vasectomy reversal. I also have a beautiful 7 month old...I am 47!!!! I did have a miscarriage 3 months before I concieved the 7 months old. We didn't do anything special. Just put it in God's hands. You are younger than you think and Miracles happen every day!!!

Good Luck,

TLC

I am 25 weeks and started t
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Registered: 07-14-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 8:18pm
Wow Catherine,
You are so lucky to have such an encouraging doc. What a lovely thing for the doc to say! A far cry from the usual doom and gloom we usually hear.
Taylor
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Registered: 09-25-2008
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 11:53pm

Taylor,
My doctor is older too...it's a mother/daughter practice...use to go to the daughter until she stopped delivering babies. The mom/my dr. must be in her late 60's...but she loves what she does...came to see me and my dd 1-2X a day everyday we were in the hospital. The woman must never sleep...I've never seen someone work as much as she does.

When I was pregnant with dd, not once did she ever make me feel old...I felt like I was a 25 year old patient...she never pushed testing, scared me with complications because of my age, etc. It was actually the opposite...I was treated just like any other expectant woman.

This time around I was the one questioning if I was too old to try for #2...she looked at me like I was crazy...that 42 was actually very young...told me the sweetest story of a 46 year old patient who had a healthy baby boy...her first too...my doctor LOVES delivering babies. She gave my dd a special little pin from Paris the day she was born...

I'm fortunate to have her...and all doctors should make their patients feel young.....we want to be mothers...and should be!!

Best wishes to you!
Cath xx

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Registered: 09-03-2009
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 1:30am
That's wonderful, Cath. {hearts floating}

~Melissa

42, soon to be 43 -- would love a BFP for my birthday in October!
TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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