New here, many questions!

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Registered: 05-01-2003
New here, many questions!
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 1:20am

Hello all, I'm new to the board and I have some general questions - would love any input from ladies who have btdt! I pray for each one of you that are trying to have a child and hope that this post doesn't get taken the wrong way. I've not had to have any treatment to have children but now find myself seriously considering one more pregnancy. I am 41 and have 4 children ages 19, 16, and 3 1/2 (one set of twins) and am getting remarried soon. Stepfather to be would like us to consider having a child together.

The last medical test I had done when I was experiencing heavy bleeding last spring was a u/s which showed I was about to ovulate twice.

My questions are these, thank you in advance for any advice on any of them!

1- How spendy is genetic counseling? Is it worth it? We're concerned about my age. He's 40, no kids. My twins were conceived at 38 and were perfectly healthy, as was the pregnancy, to term.

2- How risky and accurate are early tests such as chorionic villus sampling?

3- What is the likelihood I'd conceive twins again without hormones? We wouldn't mind but don't want to take drugs in case we'd have way more than two. Are there any 'old wives remedies' I can begin taking soon to increase the likelihood of 2 eggs being released? I desperately hope this isn't taken to be a stupid question!!

4- What are the odds at this age of defects? Is Down's Syndrome the only defect due to age or are there more?

Sorry to ask so much and I fully realize I won't get all the answers I'm looking for but if any of you have ideas of where to go to (efficiently) research the above I would greatly appreciate it!

Good luck to all of you! Thank you for reading!

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 10:38am

Hi Jane and welcome to the board. This is the right place to ask all those questions, so I am sure your post won't be taken the wrong way.

I can't answer all of your questions, but can answer some since I had my one and only child at 38 -- risks are different under 40. I have noticed that women who are PG Over 40 don't usually have genetic counselling unless there is a history of risk (other than AMA). A lot of women do choose CVS over Amnio and I am not sure if some women have both. My friends IRL who have had genetic counselling usually have done so only after they have their NT Scans or CVS/amnio with uncertain results. There are a few women here who have BTDT in terms of the testing so I hope they will chime in here. A lot of the ladies here also know about the various odds of risks for both pregnancy and testing.

My feeling is that, in all likelihood, you can conceive w/o the use of hormones -- seeing as you have done it so recently.

The thing to keep in mind is that the vast majority of women who have babies over 40 have healthy, uneventful pregnancies and normal, healthy babies.

Good Luck to you in your TTC journey.



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Registered: 09-13-2007
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 11:00am
Hi Jane, welcome to the board.


Susan V

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Registered: 02-17-2009
Thu, 06-25-2009 - 7:03pm

Hi Jane,

I just went thru this process starting at age 40. I have a very good Dr. and had a good experience. Prior to conception, all I had was an FSH to see what my egg supply was. You may not need that because you have already conceived recently. This was my first attempt to get pg.

I did become pg and then opted not to do CVS. I think the risk is slightly higher than amnio and the results are not as certain. So, I just did an amnio instead. It was a yucky procedure but I was glad I did it when I got normal results and can stop worrying for the next few months (I am due in Nov when I will be 42).

Good luck to you!


Me, Lisa, 41 1/2, DH, Howard, 51

TTC #1 (for me, DH has 2 DD) since 8/8/08 (wedding day)

Pg (Confirmed by Dr. on 3/11/2009), first day of last period was 2/4/2009

U/S 3/12/2009, shows small black mass in uterus w/yolk, tech said there were 2 eggs but just one fertilized (guess DH

Me, Lisa (42); DH, Howard (52); DSD, Laura (13); DSD, Juliana (7); DS, Alexander (6 months) Enjoying my #1 (born 11-2-2009 when I was 42) BFP #2 4-15-10 MC 4-21-10
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 06-26-2009 - 11:17am
I became pr naturally in Jan 08 at age 41.
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Registered: 07-10-2008
Sat, 06-27-2009 - 9:54pm
Welcome to the board Jane!


Me - 44, DH-47