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Sat, 05-16-2009 - 3:56am

Hi all! I have been kind of avoiding this board until we finally made a decision, but now the decision has been made, and I am here! Yay!

A little about me. I am 44 yrs old, and have 4 children, ages 13, 10, 4 and 2. We have dealt with infertility problems (PCOS) from day one, waiting 8 yrs for our first, adopting our second, waiting 9 yrs for a second successful pregnancy (third child), and then our fourth only two years later. I have been on clomid, pergonal and fertinorm, have lost 6 babies as well as one tube and ovary. I have been pregnant 9 times, 5 of those with fertility meds and 4 without any meds after losing one ovary. Most of my losses have been early on, usually by about 6 weeks.

My last pregnancy was unexpected, but we were thrilled. I lost that baby at the end of January. I should have been almost 13 weeks, but the baby had died at just over 9 weeks. Just before I found out I was pregnant, we were both thinking that maybe our family was complete, although I was still leaning toward wanting another one. DH is 45 and feeling his age, not so much now, but thinking down the road to when our youngest would be 18, so he was ready to be done. After losing the baby though, we really needed to make a decision, because time is definitely running out. It took until last week for my DH, but we are finally agreed to try again!!! Yay!

I am at the beginning of this cycle, but I think we may wait until next cycle to actively try. I have a doctor appointment on the 27th, which would likely be around ovulation. I think I should see him first, as there are a couple of things that should be looked into. One is that I had GD with my last baby and my sugars have not completely settled down since then. I am not on any meds, but when we lost the baby he said that if we wanted to try again we should get that under control first, and I think he is probably right. He had also mentioned putting me on clomid even though I am already ovulating, he said they have found that it helps the eggs to be healthier and would give us a better chance. Have any of you heard this before? Since it is too late to get either of these in place for this month, I think we will wait. That is so hard to do though! We are planning to put a time limit on trying, so losing a month is a hard thing to do, but might still be the wisest route.

So that is my story, and I thought I would come and join you all. Since I am going to be away from Sunday to Tuesday I was going to wait to post, but then I joined in on a couple of threads and so I thought I should probably introduce myself! If you have any questions please feel free to ask, and if you have any suggestions I would love to hear them. I am looking forward to getting to know you all, and hope to see many of you graduate from TTCing! :-)

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: bearbliss
Sat, 05-16-2009 - 11:14am
Welcome Michelle and thank you for sharing your story!

 

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Registered: 12-26-2007
In reply to: bearbliss
Sat, 05-16-2009 - 7:40pm

Michelle:

Welcome. Thank you for your story. It's always good to learn about new people to this board. YOu will find lots of very helpful women here. Someone always has some words of encouragement or helpful information.

By way of introduction - I'm 45 and we have been TTC#1 for more than 2 years now. I was pregnant once, a long time ago, but I do not have any children. Neither does my DH. We are still hopeful. We're doing one final IUI this cycle and then, if we're not pregnant we'll move on to an IVF - we may only have the money to do one so I'm hoping this IUI is successful. I've been on DHEA for 6 months so if it does help create better quality eggs they should be ready to go by now!

Susan L.

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Registered: 03-05-2008
In reply to: bearbliss
Sat, 05-16-2009 - 10:26pm

Hello, Michelle!

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Registered: 07-10-2008
In reply to: bearbliss
Sat, 05-16-2009 - 10:38pm
Hello and Welcome!

Jessica

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 2:13am
Thanks Ruth, I had to laugh at your lock and loaded comment! I hope you are right!

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 2:18am
Thanks Susan, I hope your IUI is successful, waiting to get pregnant is so hard. I knew when we got married that it would likely be difficult for us given how my cycle worked (or rather didn't work!) but that never made it any easier. Although my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage it also gave me hope that it could happen again, something I didn't have much of before that time. Two years is a long time, I hope your wait if over soon.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 2:26am
Hi Joan, I am glad to see you haven't given up yet, I wasn't sure where you were at with trying these days. Since you are diabetic, what do you think? Should I wait until my fasting level is down where it should be before trying? I just hate losing a month when my time is so limited! Wouldn't be so bad if I had unlimited time to work with. Ah well, I guess if it is meant to be it will be, I just need to be patient.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 05-31-2004
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 2:28am
Thanks Jessica, I need all the encouragement I can get! Lol!

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 04-07-2009
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 9:20am
Welcome, Michelle. Thanks for sharing your story with the board. I am a lurker at PG Over 40 so I recognized you from there. Good Luck, I hope #5 is on the way soon.
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Registered: 05-28-2008
In reply to: bearbliss
Sun, 05-17-2009 - 10:34am

Hi Michelle,

I wanted to welcome you to the board. it's a great place for support!!! I am Lynda and I recently turned 44. We have three children with our last being a bit of a surprise. a great surprise that has left us wanting one more. i have been fortunate enough to get pregnant 2x in the last year - and both on clomid. but i have have had the misfortune of m/cing both those pregnancies.

i am taking DHEA for improved egg quality. and my last bfp came after one month on the DHEA and clomid. I am on my third cycle post m/c and it is appearing to be back to normal. I am taking clomid again and still on the DHEA. Hoping for a sticky bfp this cycle!!!

i think husband's seem to be able to get to the "we're done" phase easier than the women are. my dh said he would be happy with what we have or would be ok with one more. so we are trying naturally and have decided we would not do anything more than what we are currently doing. we hope God decides to bless us one more time!!!

I hope he blesses you too!!

Lynda



 

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