Newbie mom wannabe 42
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|Sun, 01-09-2005 - 1:33pm|
Hi, I'm new here. I am not sure if this is the right place to be but I'm over 40 and I have decided to turn my life towards having a child. I know the desire to have a baby is very hormonal at this age, and my sisters (who are all passing this benchmark) roll their eyes at me. Saying the feeling will pass. (All except for one sister who supports me 100% :)). Well, so what if it passes? If I try and fail at least I will have given it my best and if I succeed then I change my life towards something I've always wanted.
I do believe I have quite a few hurdles to jump through though. First of all, I'm 42, and until about a year ago, I was an overweight virgin who had never had a relationship in my life. At this point, I'd love the mom, dad, child perfect family, but with divorce rates the way they are, I don't think that is a prerequisite. I have 4 siblings and 5 nieces & nephews. This child of mine will have plenty of support around him/her. So, that leaves me looking for a father for my child, one who doesn't necessarily have to be part of our lives. Where would I find such a man? Do they exist?
As far as my health--I am a believer in alternative medicine--up to and including spiritual techniques to prepare my body for a child. I will begin chinese herbs immediately to help sort out any deficiencies and regulate my cycle. I'll be reading up on the Ivillage articles and message boards. Looking forward to getting to know you all.
Well! That's me in a nutshell. Any advice, comments, rants, are welcome. :)