Not sure where I belong

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Not sure where I belong
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 10:00am

Hi,

My name is Melody and I will be 41 in Feb. At this point its been 52 days, two cycles over due for flo. I've taken wayyy too many hpt and all ngative. My first signs was increased vaginal moisture, and englarged breast noticed by my dh. Next I experienced naseau, heartburn, tired all the time, increased urination. at about 5 wks od my dh asked what the little pimply bumps on my breast were. at 7 wks od I felt fluttery, kinda muslcey spasm like feelings in my lower abdomin. Last night as I was sitting in the bath tub I notice al ight streak emerging from my pelvic area reaching half way to my naval. My stomach has taken on a roundness to it and I have gained a few pounds. My last period was 10/14 but the 9/19 cycle was not regular.. it lasted longer but was lighter and often a browninsh blood drying look to it.

So you see my body believes that I am pregnant. I took a blood test last week and am waiting to get the results. I pray to God that I am pregnant. Not only am I eager to be but my husband and his family are sooooooo excited.

The nurse said I could be experienceing perimenopause.. come on you mean it comes on and hits you like a tom of lead? Where's the hot flashes, hair growing everywhere? where is the horror I've heard women talking about for years?

Sorry, just a bit anxious I guess. I just dont know what to think and cant fathom the thought of letting my dh and his family down.

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 1:27pm
It was negative and we just cant believe it.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:04pm

Oh honey I am so sorry.

Cathie

adopted our son from Guatemala

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Registered: 11-12-2004
Thu, 12-09-2004 - 12:13pm

So i just got back from my obgyn. As stated Monday the blood test came back negative. So today she gave me thr results of the other tests she did on my blood; thyroid, petaturity, periomenapause.... all normal! She did an exam today.. everything looks normal.. sending in cuture. She asked me if I wanted to a hormone to stimulate my period and I asked her if I was indeed pregnant, becuase my body seems to be giving me more signs then the negative tests, and although I know the testing is scientific, I'd rather figure out whats going on with my body to be fooling me like this, and if pregnant I dont want to do anything that will protentially hurt a baby. She said the hormones, progesterone (which I had already researched) is used to help some woman ovulate when trying to conceive and it has no effect on the baby. Then I asked about cysts and them causing the body to think its pregnant and she said yes that happens, do you want an ultrasound to see if thats possible?

We decided to do the ultrasound tomorrow, that way it will show either baby or cysts and allow us to move on from there. Either way I am very happy with this obgyn. She seems to listen to me and my concerns and do what I need for peace of mind.

I am going to a womans clinic where they specialize in woman issues. I think this may be part of the reason they are so willing to work with me. We had a bit of difference of opionion on a comment that "God decides" where she attempted to correct me with "nature" but I didnt acknowledge it, understaning she is a woman of science.

So, still no firm answer, but getting closer. One thing I would suggest to all you whose doctors wont work with you, find one who will. These are our bodies, we know them better then anyone else, so why not find someone whose willing to listen to what we are going through. After all, dont you think it would be a bit of a challange to a doctor if you showed up to an appointment and just sat there offering no info about what your going through and let them try to diagnose you. If they arent willing to listen then they arent doing their job effectivly.