Over 50??

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Over 50??
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Fri, 01-02-2009 - 8:19pm

Is there anyone here that is over 50 and wants to conceive? I have questions !! My husband is younger and today informed me he would like to see if we can have a baby and what our options are and where to start. Can someone give me some advice?

Eve

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Registered: 03-16-2005
In reply to: jabecca
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 9:15pm

Hi!

I am not 50+, but rather 43... nonetheless, I beoieve I have some information that can assist you.

There are a number of tests you need to take and answers you need before you can determine your options:

I would say you need a full sweep of fertility hormones. FSH and Estriol on CD3, LH mid-cycle and Progesterone on CD20-22. These results will tell you if your hormones can produce a pregnancy.

You should probably have a hysteroscopy to check to see if your uterus is in proper shape for sustaining a pregnancy.

Lastly, you should have an ovarian reserve test done to check on your remaining supply of eggs.

IF you have been on the pill for long periods of your life, you may well have preserved your egg supply longer than normal.

A RE will likely automatically move to the Donor Eggs option. That is a valid choice and at 50 a probable outcome if this is where you want to go. The risk of Down's at 50 is quite high, so donor eggs *may* be the way to go... but only if you want to got that way.

Good luck!

Libby

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Registered: 05-28-2008
In reply to: jabecca
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 10:54pm

Not to derail your thread - but OOH Libby, I didn't know that about being on the pill and reserving eggs that way. Really?



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 03-16-2005
In reply to: jabecca
Fri, 01-02-2009 - 11:03pm

Really.

See, I am still good for something!!

Libby

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In reply to: jabecca
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 2:49am

Libby, thank you for the information. Egg donor is what we were thinking. I guess I need to find a clinic and start from there. I live in San Antonio, Tx. Anyone close by have any suggestions? We just retired from the military and are new to the area. We're so new to this and just don't know where to start.


Thanks, Eve

Eve

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: jabecca
Sat, 01-03-2009 - 9:20am

Hello and welcome!

Sorry, I don't have any advice on clinics in that area. There are clinics out there that will treat women in their fifties. I'd suggest calling around and asking some questions. Yes, egg donor is probably your best option.

Keep us posted!

Deb



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Registered: 03-17-2008
In reply to: jabecca
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 9:00am

Hi:

I am Active Duty military so I may be able to help...Ft. Sam Houston does do IVF but they normally don't like to do DE. However, there is always a chance that someone is doing a DE research project and may consider taking you on. As a retiree, you are still eligible for that clinic's services. I would call a TRicare rep and ask for a referral (don't bother to go into great detail, it will just confuse them). If there is nothing available on the IVF program (it sometimes has a waiting list), they will refer you to an RE in the San Antonio community.

The only draw back is that the IVF is cheaper on the Army's side of the house because it is a training program. i'm at Ft. Bragg and they quoted me $5,000 vs the my last IVF's cost of $10,000 in the community.

Best wishes,
Gabrielle


IVF 1# ICSI & AH-BFN


Waiting for DH to come home to try again!


In the meantime, herbs and prayers


Check out my fertility blogs at http://soldierinstirrups.blogspot.com/

Franklin and Callan

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Registered: 01-02-2009
In reply to: jabecca
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 10:48am

Hi,


Thank you so much for the information. Gabrielle, I didn't even know that some of the cost might be handled by Tricare. So I just call and ask for a referral to an outside Dr? We have been living oversees for most of our duty time and haven't used Tricare here in the States, so it's still a bit confusing.

Eve

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Registered: 12-21-2008
In reply to: jabecca
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 2:20pm

Eve,


I completely understand the desire to provide that amazing experience of parenthood, for your husband.


I am 42.2 and getting married in March, having been a widow for 14 years and raising two daughters on my own. My fiancee has never had children &

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Registered: 01-02-2009
In reply to: jabecca
Sun, 01-04-2009 - 4:50pm

Hi, Dani,


Thanks for you note. I know just what you are feeling. I sure don't want to disappoint him. He has been so good to me and my children and to see the look of hope in his eyes when he asked me, well, you know what that feels like. He assured me if we couldn't, it would be all right, but I know how disappointed he will be. I'm going to start at the military hospital here and at the San Antonio Fertility Clinic that they work with and see what happens. Does anyone know if you can pick your own egg donor or if you have to use one through a clinic? We discussed a little of using one of my daughters eggs. The baby would then be a part of me also. Does that sound crazy? Right now, everything sounds crazy!


Eve

Eve

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Registered: 03-17-2008
In reply to: jabecca
Mon, 01-05-2009 - 9:18am

HI Eve:


The military will not cover the IVF or DE but they will cover the cost for appointments. The only medications Tricare does cover are the ones used for actual sex (e.g clomid, femara, viagra, etc...). Your local Tricare appointment line will be able to give you a referral to an RE (they may want you to see a regular DR first and have him put in the referral). The best thing to do is to google Tricare and then look up the number for the central region. You can also call Ft. Sam and see if you can get an appointment in OB/GYN. Just tell the person who answers the phone you want to be seen for, "fertility." Do not go into details.


Ft. Sam does do IVF but they expect you to pay out of pocket for the IVF. Most military IVF clinics do not want to get involved at all with donor eggs (unless someone is doing a study, it never hurts to ask). DEs cost about $25,000+ if you are using a DE agency. If you have a friend or relative who is willing to donate it can be free, except that you will pay for all their meds and yours during the DE cycle. Most REs won't work with known donors without an attorney and counseling sessions for both the donor and recipient and they ideally would like the donor to be in her 20s or early 30s. The meds for a typical IVF cycle run about $2000 -3000 out of pocket so double that for a donor. Now I am not sure if you use an agency if the cost of the meds are included in the large price tag. The other major disadvantage is the DE are not always successful. I would also advise that DH get a semen analysis done (free from tricare-someone just has to put in the orders for the labs).


Good luck!


Gabrielle


IVF 1# ICSI & AH-BFN


Waiting for DH to come home to try again!


In the meantime, herbs and prayers


Check out my fertility blogs at http://soldierinstirrups.blogspot.com/

Franklin and Callan

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