Should we or shouldn't we????
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Should we or shouldn't we????
| Wed, 06-03-2009 - 1:34pm |
Hello everyone, I am 39 and my DH is 37. We have 3 boys, 1DS 4 me and 2 DSS for him. They are ages 10,12, and 14. The 12 yo is mine and lives with us all the time. The other two come once a week and 2 weekends a month.
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DH (48)
DD (21)
DD (6)
DGD (1-1/2)
DGS (edd 7/29)
Welcome.
Having a child is something you and your DH need to decide on together.
Susan L.
Susan V
Welcome here! There are lots of things to consider, that is true, but you have to really look at your heart and ask yourself what you will regret more, having another child at this point in your life; trying but not succeeding; or NOT trying at all.
We have four children, 13 (almost 14), 10 (almost 11), 4 and 2. I had our 4yr old just a couple of weeks before I turned 40, and my 2 yr old when I was 42. Yes, it is tiring, but I wouldn't change it for the world. My DH especially worries about the age factor 18 yrs from now, and for that reason it took him awhile to come around to actively trying again. That is also the reason that we have put a time limit on how long we will try, it isn't open ended. (It was a little easier for him before, since the first 3 are boys and we both really wanted a girl!) I am just praying that if I don't have another baby that God will give me peace to be content with the children I already have.
I really don't think age has anything to do with being embarrassed by parents, it has a lot more to do with the personality of each of them. My Mum was 36 when I was born, and while she may have been older than some of the other moms, I was never the slightest bit embarrassed. In fact, she was one of the most popular chaperones on our field trips, some of the students from back then still greet her affectionately! She was way more cool than the stuffy younger moms! Lol! Plus I think your MIL and SIL's relationship shows you first hand that it can all be pretty good, no matter what your age.
And don't worry about being the only older mom as your child grows up, there are getting to be more and more all the time, you certainly won't be alone.
Regardless of what you decide, you have to do it because that is what you and your DH want. TTCing is a tough road at times, but then you already know that since you tried for a year. If you do decide to try, the ladies here are great, lots of support for a difficult journey.
Michelle
Loving Mom to three
Michelle
Loving Mom to three rambunctious
Michael & Renee
10/29/83
DS25,DS23,DD21,DD16
TL 2/93
TLR 10/99
DD8,DS6,DS4
M/C @7 wks 3/03, M/C @13 wks
Buttercup - Who you calling old?!