Trying to conceive at 47

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Trying to conceive at 47
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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 4:58pm

Just turned 47 last month. Going to try for the next 6 months and if nothing occurs, we are letting it go. I was on the Pregnant over 40 board 18 months ago. Second marriage, not planning on having any kids. He had never had any and I got pregnant by accident at 45 and delivered at almost 46.

If it had not been for my son who is now 18 months old, we would probably not want another. But, he really has brought us much more joy that we could have anticipated. I realize the odds are very slim; no misconceptions at all. Have spoken to my OB/GYN and she thinks I am crazy. My family physician is also concerned about this decision. So, I contacted a fertility specialist. His secretary told me at my age, the only way to conceive would be using a donor egg. We really do not want to do anything invasive. All I really wanted was some Clomid or Pergonal, but he said they don't give it out to women my age. I have not entered into any signs of peri-menopause yet. I still have periods every 30-31 days.

Any suggestions? Herbs I might try, etc... LOL Thanks.

Rachelle

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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 6:24pm

Welcome and congrats on your DS.

Susan L.



Robert Edward Xavier Lin - Born July 31, 2010 at 5:56AM, 6 pounds 4 ounces and 19 inches long. He spent 2 weeks in the NICU but he's doing great now!
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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 7:00pm

Thanks, Susan! Yes, I had no intervention. I remember Carol !! She was pregnant when I was with my DS over on the the over 40 board. I was perusing the other day and saw her and the moderator had conceived again! It made me so happy for them. I know with the last one she stated she had used Clomid. It was for that reason, I wanted to try to use it. But, not sure why the reason is that 47 is too old to use it? Any feedback, anyone?

Nonetheless, I also remember someone saying their Dr. had them taking a supplement of some type and they were sure it got them pregnant...Some one told me the other day to try Wild Yam. Does anyone know anything about that. I have also heard acupuncture can help. I am totally new to this, so any input would be most useful !! Thanks again!

Rachelle

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Thu, 03-11-2010 - 10:18pm

I took DHEA before my IVF protocol. Some people swear it helps -- others, not so much. Some doctors say it may help (mine did) and the others think it's bad for you. Check with your doctor.

Good luck.

Susan

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Robert Edward Xavier Lin - Born July 31, 2010 at 5:56AM, 6 pounds 4 ounces and 19 inches long. He spent 2 weeks in the NICU but he's doing great now!
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 12:44am

I was just reading your blog about how you arrived at your 17 wk. BFP. BTW - CONGRATULATIONS !!! How wonderful after trying for 2.5 yrs. I am really impressed that your Dr. used your own eggs. That is amazing and awesome rolled into one. I have been under the impression that most fertility specialists normally will not do this without donor eggs. So, good for you !! What a great success story!

Rachelle

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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 10:54am

hi, Rachelle,
before you start taking chemicals like clomid, DHEA, vitex and the like, I would ask for some tests to determine just exactly where your body is. FSH level and AMH level. You never know -- your body could still have a chance. But, if you find out that even though your body is still having periods your ovaries are out of gas, maybe you won't want to ask for all of the stimulation procedures and go through the countless ultrasounds, etc. Don't mean to rain on your parade. I just think that tests and levels can help you gauge what your chances are realistically. I know that the tone of this board is to hope for the long shot and I'm all for long shots. I would just suggest that you might want to know if you have a realistic chance at a long shot or a million in one chance at a long shot.... Given your history, you actually might have levels that could justify trying some of the things you suggest. The tests might even sway your doctor.

Just some thoughts,

-martha

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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 12:07pm

Thanks, Martha. I would love to check my FSH levels, but my OB/GYN won't do it for me. I think I am going to ask my family physician, though. He might, he seems more reasonable. I still go to this OB/GYN for GYNO stuff, b/c she is really good for that.

But, while I was pregnant, she was aghast that I was even thinking about having a baby at 45. She insisted I get get an amnio and said she would drop me as a patient if I did not. I think she was always afraid of getting sued by the way she talked. She didn't want to mess with anything "high-risk". Even though, I never was. All the things she predicted, never came true. She said I would have a low birth weight baby b/c of my age. My son weighed 9lbs., 6 oz.

She said I would go into labor 2 weeks early b/c of my age. I actually went overdue and had to be induced. She kept saying she wanted me on a diet for gestational diabetes, even though I passed the 1 hr. - she insisted I take the 3 hr. so I appeased her and I passed that, too. I told her NO on the GD diet. And I changed OB's in the 8th month b/c she was stressing me out. It was a colleage of hers and he was very laid back.

She is a lesbian and has no children. She said, "Women over 40 who even think of getting pregnant are crazy. There are too many risk factors." I had a completely normal pregnancy. Both of my grandmothers had their last baby's at 43 and 44. So, it might be in the genes. Who knows? But, that is a good starting point. Thanks for the advice !!




Edited 3/12/2010 12:09 pm ET by baby4uandme09
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Fri, 03-12-2010 - 12:18pm

You know, while on this subject, just wondering if anybody else has come up against resistance to have a baby at our ages? My own mother told me the other day, she wants no part of me trying for another and wants to hear nothing about it. She said, "You were just lucky this last time. The next time, you might die."

Anybody else getting negative responses from Dr.'s, friends or family?

Rachelle

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Sun, 03-14-2010 - 11:51pm

I thought I'd chime in with some surprising support from some professionals.

 

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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 9:46am

I dont even tell people that I am having unprotected sex with my fiance. I am 42 and he is 51. EVERYBODY would be against it. We have 6 kids together but his are older and mine are growing fast. I dont want to hear the judgments.


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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 1:03pm

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