TTC #1 (Boy) at 41-Advice?

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TTC #1 (Boy) at 41-Advice?
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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 2:30am

Just got married last year at 40 on 8/8/08, trying to conceive a boy (hopefully, husband has 2 girls). Any advice? OB says my ovulation is fine, good egg reserve. I use Answer ovulation kit every month and have about 2-3 days of double lines (positive) usually starting on CD 12. We usually have intercourse during the days I have double lines, is this correct? OB said to try 6 months and then come back if we need help. This month will be the sixth month to try, and then what?

Me, Lisa (42); DH, Howard (52); DSD, Laura (13); DSD, Juliana (7); DS, Alexander (6 months) Enjoying my #1 (born 11-2-2009 when I was 42) BFP #2 4-15-10 MC 4-21-10
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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 8:13am
Hi Sarasota, welcome to the board.
 


 


Susan V

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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 9:06am

Hello and welcome.


I live in Florida too, and am thinking about ttc another boy! (I had a mc in Nov. and lost a boy at 9 weeks so it just seems like I need to try for another boy) Really, I'd love either just to have a new baby in the house. I have 3 days of + OPK. The first day is light, the second day is the darker than test line, and the 3rd day is light. It sounds like you're doing everything right, it just might take time to find the right egg? Have you tried DHEA? I was just on pre-natal vit when I got pg last fall, but added the DHEA because there has been so much success. I also hear it improves egg quality.


You should probably consider a RE to get all your bloodwork done, this can give clues as to areas you may need to tweak. It's really very comforting and informative to go! I wish you such gl and keep us posted!

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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 12:59pm

Hi and welcome.


Have you been on the website in-gender? There are forums there for people trying to sway for gender specific. I work with a girl who is following lots of the concepts to try for a boy.



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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 7:02pm
If having a biological child is important to you, my advice would be to forget about trying to sex select and do everything you can just to maximize your chance of getting pg at all. Your doc will probably recommend testing and then if everything is OK, IUI with injects or IVF. If having a boy is super important, you could go straight to IVF and do PGD, and only implant boy embryos. If you do ICSI that does make it slightly more likely you'll get a boy, even if you don't do PGD. Good luck, and RUN, don't walk to an RE.
-Jenna, 40, DH 37 TTC our first since September '06 with MFI. 3 failed natural IUI's, I failed IUI with injectibles, IVF #1: BFN, 1 FET ending in early m/c. IVF #2: m/c. Donor Sperm IUI with injects: probable chem pg. 1 failed unmedicated DS/IUI. IVF #3: Started BCPS 7/30, started Lupron injections 8/18 for IVF #3, started stims 8/29. ER 9/10/08. ET 9/15/08. Beta 9/24, results 9/25. BFP. Twins. Lost 1st twin at 9-10 weeks, lost 2nd twin at 16 weeks Dec 17, 2008.
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- Jenna
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Tue, 02-17-2009 - 10:26pm
Hi and welcome to the board!! We love newbies here!!! As the PP stated at our age it is a bit more difficult just to get PG so I would skip the gender selection unless there are specific reasons. I will say the male sperm swim faster but dont live as long so if you have sex right on top of ovulation you increase your chances for a boy! Girl sperm swim slower and live longer so if you have sex before ovulation you up your chances for a girl! Agai welcome and i wish you speedy success!


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Wed, 02-18-2009 - 2:05am

Hi Susan,


Not sure of the name of the test, but it said my egg reserves are good. It was a blood test, that's all I know. What is an RE, I guess it's a doctor? I do go to an OB/GYN who specializes in women over 40. As for the gender selection, I am not really that worked up about it. A boy would be wonderful but I know I would love a girl just the same. It's hard to understand all the abbreviations used on this message board, is there a cheat sheet?!!


Lisa

Me, Lisa (42); DH, Howard (52); DSD, Laura (13); DSD, Juliana (7); DS, Alexander (6 months) Enjoying my #1 (born 11-2-2009 when I was 42) BFP #2 4-15-10 MC 4-21-10
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Wed, 02-18-2009 - 9:50am
Hey Lisa, yes, there is a cheat sheet.
 


 


Susan V

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Fri, 02-20-2009 - 7:16pm

Dear sarasota,


We tried for a specific gender when I was in my early 40's. We had a DD and then had 3 DS's and really wanted to have another baby...but hopefully it would be a girl. I joined the gender determination board while ttc and learned many techniques in swaying gender

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Sat, 02-21-2009 - 7:26pm

Debra,


Thanks for the input. Actually, since I do not have any children of my own yet, I would just be grateful for either gender. Prefer a boy just because we have 2 lovely daughters already (my husband's). Also, I grew up in a family of all girls so I would like some testosterone in my life....This is our last month to try on our own (my OB/GYN) said to try 6 months and then come to him for help.


What type of help do you think he means? I ovulate regularly, took a test that said I have good egg reserves. My husband presumably still has ok sperm (at least as of 6 years ago when he fathered his last daughter). What type of help could the Dr. give us? I think we may not be conceiving due to stress...


Lisa

Me, Lisa (42); DH, Howard (52); DSD, Laura (13); DSD, Juliana (7); DS, Alexander (6 months) Enjoying my #1 (born 11-2-2009 when I was 42) BFP #2 4-15-10 MC 4-21-10