TTC at 44

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Registered: 04-23-2004
TTC at 44
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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:24pm
Hi to all of you!

I found this board a week ago, but it was the one about miscarriage...

Here is my story.. I am 44 yrs old, have 4 children from a previous marriage ages range from 21 to 9. Got married 1 1/2 yrs ago, my DH doesn't have children of his own his ex couldn't have children. We tried for some months last year but nothing happened,then I got pregnant in march... I was over the moon I thought I had finally reached the dream of giving my DH the child he never had although he stayed on the fence, he was scared that the baby would not be right due to our age he is 48. well last week i had a miscarriage, it was the worst thing i've ever experienced... I had a scheduled u/s the same day I started spotting and when I go in there was no heartbeat and the size of the sac was only 6 wks old,I was 9weeks pregnant... On friday I passed everything naturally but with a inmense pain in my heart.

now I am more determined than ever to get ppg again although I know that the odds are against me. I have a friend of mine she had her #3 at 46 naturally and unexpected.. so maybe there is still hope????

It's been only a week after m/c but I am already thinking to TTC again. does anybody know if I could conceive before A/F comes again and if it is safe to do so? At this point I don't want to waste any precious time that I've got left...

Even though my DH says that he is fine with my kids I know deep in my heart that having his own child would be a dream. On the other hand he is not the type that would like me to go through IVF or things like that. But if it helps I would go through clomid or something like that to increase chances. i am from Canada and here the health care system is different than in US.

is there anybody in a similar situation TTC at this age? and with people telling you.. why do you want to have another child you have already 4!

Thank you all for the support you guys give to this board!

Send you all baby dust and good thoughts, collective prayer is known to help!!!

Lots of hugs!

Pat
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Registered: 06-17-2003
In reply to: patofeliz43
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:20pm
Hi, in answer to your question regarding trying to conceive after a miscarriage, I have some personal experience I can share. When I was 32 and first trying to conceive, I experienced 2 micarriages within months of each other. The first was a blighted ovum, and I had a D&C. My Dr. said to wait 3 months before trying to conceive again. I did, immediately became pregnant after the wait, and that time had a very early mc at about 5 1/2 weeks. It was like a late period. After that time, I did not wait but became immediately pregnant before AF came. That pregnancy was a keeper and he is 10 years old now. One of my infertility books at the time went against conventional wisdom and said due to elevated horomonal levels, becoming pregnant soon after a miscarriage could actually increase your chances of a healthy pregnancy. I would check with your Dr. but in my particular case it worked out well. Probably after a D&C it would be wise to wait a few months but with a natural mc I don't know if there is a good reason to wait.

I have read that Clomid does not work as well on us over-40 ladies. My RE said it can cause drying of cervical mucus. I was on Clomid for 7 cycles in my mid-30's and had no results. However, I did become pregnant with injectibles and regular BD'ing. My RE did not even recommend IUI (DH had a great count).

Best wishes. I am 44 also and totally understand the desire to have another child. I have three between 3 and 10 and on some days I wonder if I've taken leave of my senses. But I totally understand. I haven't shared my desire with anyone but my husband and I even keep that to a minimium because he is not exactly gung-ho.

Best wishes and regards,

Julie

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: patofeliz43
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 2:48pm
dear julie!

thank you for your reply, my question is if clomid is not good what are the injectables? FSH hormone?

You gave me some hope.. and I will TTC very soon since I had a natural m/c

thank you again,

Pat
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Registered: 06-17-2003
In reply to: patofeliz43
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 5:00pm
My infertility information is outdated because I saw my RE in 1996. Back then, the injectible I used was called Metrodin with HCG as a trigger shot(to cause release of the egg). The injectibles are FSH (folicle-stimulating horomone). I am sure the injectibles are called something different today. I haven't kept up with the lastest infertility info since I have decided this go-round to just try naturally. I am sure some of the knowledgable ladies on this board could help you with the specifics. The idea is to use the injectibles to create more and better follicles. If you dh's count is good nothing more may be needed. Some REs do IUI (intrauterine inseminations) which places the sperm closer to the egg/s. IVF is much more high tech and expensive (althought the injectibles can cost a lot). With injectibles you would need to be monitored with sonars to monitor the growth of the follicles as well as have frequent blood work. Is infertility treatment covered under Canada's health care system?

I wish you much luck and success. Lots of baby dust and cyberhugs!

Julie

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Registered: 02-05-2004
In reply to: patofeliz43
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 11:43pm
Hi Pat

welcome to the board!

FSH is Follicle stimulating hormone, our pituitary produces it and LH (luteinizing hormone) to promote development of ovarian follicles. As we age and our ovaries begin to slow down and/or egg quality decreases, the ovaries don't respond as well to the FSH. So the pituitary produces more FSH to try to kickstart the ovaries. My RE explained it like this: in a new car, you just need to press lightly on the gas to get it up to speed limit. However, in an older car you need to press harder on the gas to it up to the same speed. Likewise, the pituitary in a woman with decreasing ovarian reserve may rev up the FSH to get the ovaries to produce what they used to on lower levels. This is why our levels increase as we get closer to perimenopause and menopause. FSH levels fluctuate which is why some Drs say it should be monitored on cd 3 every month.

Clomid is usually the first drug to try because it's easy to take-pills, and inexpensive compared to injectibles. There is also a low multiple birth rate, approx 10% twins. There are side effects however, such as decreased cervical mucus and some women develop cysts. If clomid doesn't work, then an RE may prescribe injectibles. Clomid acts indirectly to increase follicle development. Injectibles are either 'FSH' or 'FSH + LH', so they work directly to increase follicles. There is greater risk of OHSS-ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome so Drs will usually monitor you more than with clomid. And there are higher risk of multiples. Some RE offices will cancel a cycle if a woman has developed too many follicles. My RE cancels anything over 5 follies.

Hope this helps, there are lots of website that have more information. A few that I've found helpful are:

www.ivillage.com/topics/pregbaby/0,,166256,00.html

www.inciid.com

www.webmd.com

good luck, alot of the women on this board have been ttc for awhile, so I've sure others will add info too.

God bless!

JnAnB

ps: sorry this is so long

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Registered: 05-28-2003
In reply to: patofeliz43
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 10:48am

Sounds like you got some very useful information from the ladies.

Cathie

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Registered: 12-26-2003
In reply to: patofeliz43
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:27pm
Hi Pat,

Welcome to the board!! I am glad you found us!! I am so sorry for your loss. I experienced the exact same thing last summer, same growth, time frame & all. I know it is devestating. Anything we can do to help, just give us a post. Your best bet is to go in for some tests with your OB/GYN or an RE.

(((((HUGS)))))

Lisa
Lilypie Baby Days
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Registered: 10-12-2003
In reply to: patofeliz43
Sat, 05-08-2004 - 10:27pm
Pat

I am also 44. I just finished my round of injectables 2 vials follistim and 2 vials Reponex. IUI last Tuesday-so I am in the waiting period. I had 1 good follicle and 1 ok one. dh contribution was great. Let me know how things go for you.

Karen