TTC at 50!

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Registered: 10-14-2003
TTC at 50!
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 3:08pm
I've been lurking for a while, and thought I should post. We have been trying since my miscarriage on Valentine's day - I was 8 weeks pregnant. It was a blighted ovum.

Since then we have had 2 chemical pregnancies the last two cycles - just 4w2d. DH is 44y, I turned 50 in May. This will be DH's first child, I have 3 grown children from a previous marriage.

We haven't told anyone yet that we are TTC, we didn't get a good reaction from my son when we told him about our last pregnancy - which was unplanned (but not unwanted!)

~*~ Catherine



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Registered: 11-20-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 7:17pm
You go girl just keep trying and if it is meant to be it will happen. My prayers are with you
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Registered: 07-16-2004
In reply to: witch_power_
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 11:00am
I am 48 so is my husband we are going to try to get pregnant. Tues-7/20 is our first consultation with the doctor. I am very excited but also very nervous. This is not my first pregnancy, four others in a previous marriage, all are grown and on their own. I had a tubal back in 1988. Any suggestions? about what I should expect?
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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 7:22am
After several + HPT, I started spotting yesterday. DH is still hopeful, he feels sure that I will be surprised. But I am discouraged and afraid it is just another chemical pregnancy. That's the 3rd one in three months. While I feel so fortunate that we are so incredibly fertile, it seems so pointless if I can't hang onto one little baby...

~*~ Catherine



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Registered: 06-17-2004
In reply to: witch_power_
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 11:22pm
Cathrine,

my best friends mother in law got pregnant at 53 naturally..had no test taken during the pregnancy , and had a beautiful healthy baby girl...so don't give up...

Patty

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 12:30pm
Since my temps are starting to look triphasic - I took a HPT test this morning. It tests at 20 mIU - I am 10 DPO. I got a very light line - just like the last two cycles. I'm not getting excited yet though, since both cycles ended in chemical pregnancies...

I am trying to feel happy about this now, but mostly I just feel scared...

With both chemical pregnancies my temps started dropping at 13-14 dpo, and I started spotting at 15 DPO. But I guess I won't really feel safe until I am 14 weeks, since that's when I miscarried the latest.

~*~ Catherine



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Registered: 04-09-2004
In reply to: witch_power_
Sat, 06-26-2004 - 12:36am
Catberine,

Wow! You are a woman after my own heart. I just really want to acknowledge you for being a fabulously modern courageous woman who won't stop even when there is no agreement out there.

Everything that you shared is such valuable information especially to all of those women out there over 40 who have been told by everyone that they waited too late. I, like you, believe that I have some good eggs in me(I am 43 and have had 4 miscarriages and no live births as of yet) and I am going to do everything in my power to have a baby naturally. I believe I will!

I totally agree with you that statistics are just that: statistics. And they are very often pretty skewed. I happen to believe that there are probably many more women over 45 and into their 50's having babies than we hear about.

The woman I spoke of who was 53 did go on to have a healthy baby. It was her only one but had she given up like most other women do over 45, she never would have come across this particular doctor who was simply there to help her body do what it was made to do, with a little help from nature's allys.

I am sure that I speak for a lot of other women out there who will find you as a source of inspiration mainly because of your attitude and spirit. I just want to hug you!!!

Best to you,

Jadu

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 8:19am
Thanks! We are just using herbs & vitamins (Maca, Vitex, Green tea, Siberian Ginseng, Gingko Bilboa, EPO pre-O, Flax post-O, B100 complex, Vit E, and a high-potency multi-vitamin). We won't be using any medical intervention since my cycles are still regular as clockwork. My temp rises at ovulation are obvious, I still make lots of fertile CM, and my lutel phase 13-14 days long.

I've never had a real problem getting pregnant, and I had all the testing done when I was younger. Everything came back normal - nothing wrong with me. Considering we have gotten pregnant 3 times in the last six months - I do believe a successful pregnancy is possible - even at my age!

However, I had 5 miscarriages trying to concieve my three children, as well as possibly more chemical pregnancies. So I knew it wasn't going to be a simple matter of trying and getting pregnant. Since I have been miscarrying since I was 18, I refuse to be told that it is now because of my age. We just have to find that good egg!

It is hard sometimes to believe we can actually do this...

Someone posted to me on another board that no-one over 45 will ever get pregnant with her own eggs. That donor eggs are the only option. It made me feel sad, and discouraged. But I set that aside as her feelings due to her own age, and not gospel. After-all I've read of other women getting pregnant naturally over 45!

Then I read that getting pregnant over 50 is incredibly rare. There are over 3,000,000 babies born a year in the US and in the year 2000 only 534 of those babies were born to moms over 50. Who did I think I was to beat 1 in 5,618 odds??

But then I started thinking about it, so I looked up the census records and in 2000, there were only 9,049,000 women in the US between the ages of 50 and 54.

At least 3/4 of the women over 50 have already gone through menopause. That leaves 2,262,250 women.

And I am willing to bet 49.95% of those remaining are using some sort of birth control, and do not want to be pregnant! So 0.05% would be 1,131 women. Well, my calculations are probably wrong, but that gives me a 1 in 2 chance! I like those odds much better!

~*~ Catherine



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Registered: 04-09-2004
In reply to: witch_power_
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 12:42am
YOU GO GIRL!!!

I am so impressed with your attitude. And don't give up no matter what anyone says.

By the way, I am currently seeing a naturapath who treated a woman who was 53 and she got pregnant with her own eggs and no other help aside from herbs, supplements and homeopathy. How bout them apples?

I am so looking foward to seeing your post that you are happily pregant again with a big belly!.

Lots of baby dust to you!

Best

Jadu

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Registered: 10-14-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Thu, 06-24-2004 - 1:43pm
Thanks for the welcome!

I'm on 6 dpo, and feeling symptoms already! Do you think it's possible to feel symptoms earlier, if you were pregnant (& miscarried) last cycle? Otherwise, I guess I am just imagining it...

My post-O temps seem so high this month. Even though we are currently sleeping on a unheated waterbed, my waking temp this morning was 98.6F (37.0C) at 4AM. I hope that's a good sign!

~*~ Catherine



~*~ Catherine, mom to three grown men - Jason, Michael & Joshua and Granma to Christopher & Leia.


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Registered: 05-28-2003
In reply to: witch_power_
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 1:12pm

Welcome to the board and glad you found us


Hugs and baby dust

Cathie

Cathie

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