TTC but where's the SEX?
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TTC but where's the SEX?
| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 10:04pm |
Probably not the best way to introduce myself on this board, but somehow with women my own age (40) I feel less squeemish about this question.
When we started TTC our sex life went south. With IUI and IVF sex barely on the radar unless we are "told" to do it as a back up by the doctor.
Anyone else have this problem.
I don't know if it's becuase there's a purpose behind it so it feels like a chore. Maybe the depression for both of us as we face month after month of disappointment. Whatever the reason, I miss my carefree, fun sex life!
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Yeah, sex while TTC is not the magical experience I always dreamed it would be.
The irony! Combine that with how long I spent in my life worrying that I might get pregnant, hoping I wasn't pregnant, spending money on means of avoiding preganancy, taking the pill....
Life. It's funny.
Emily (Ada's maman since 3/14/04)
Hi!
Isn't it amazing that we have a place where we can just put it out there!?!
I have to say that DH & I are in the other boat. We are pretty physical. Yes, the scheduling sometimes causes some stress (and some jokes)... but we try to make sure that the in between days are also sexual. We are similar in our drives and desires, so I guess we are both well suited and lucky.
Libby
Edited 5/1/2007 4:26 pm ET by kingmaker_inc
When we first decided to TTC again it was exciting thinking of making a baby from that sex. But now, almost 2 years later, 4 losses, and no baby, it often becomes "just one more thing to do today". And when I'm not fertile, I hate to say it, sex is almost worthless sometimes. It never used to be that way, and I hope it changes, but probably not until I get pg or else quite a while from now.
Désirée, mom to Steven, Juliana, Andrew, Carina, Michaela, and Daniel, ages 19 to 4, and all homebirthed - Hoping for a tiebreaker soon!
One of the ironies of all the fertility meds I was on when I was doing IVF/IUIs is that they lessened my sex drive. What kind of cruel freaking joke is that? You have to BD on command trying to have a baby and I would've rather read a book! Ugh.
Yes, the TTC thing is really odd. It's really stressful and I'll say that my DH has been an incredibly good sport about all this. He mentioned after I miscarried the last time that we never had sex anymore. We had sex TTC, then I got pregnant and since ALL my pregnancies are high risk pregnancies (due to my age, 45 now; and the fact that I miscarry every time I'm pregnant) we don't BD during my pregnancies. And I've always been so sick when I'm pregnant to even think about doing things to make him happy, you know what I mean? (Of course you know what I mean! I'm being about as subtle as a sledgehammer!)