Using FAM at 41

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Using FAM at 41
Thu, 04-29-2004 - 5:21pm
DH and I just started trying to conceive this month. I was reading information on FAM and was thinking about buying Toni Weschler's book, Taking Charge of your Fertility. I'm 41 and DH is 46. Is this method something we should avoid taking into account our respective ages? Is this book better for younger couples TTC? We don't want to waste any precious time and valuable cycles. Should we just see an RE instead? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
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Registered: 09-27-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:02pm
Dear Shuvee,

Just my opinion, but if I were you I would go straight to an RE. Toni Wechler's book is great and will help you understand cycles in general, which will be useful in collaborating with an RE, but I truly think at 41 there is no time to waste.

Take it from me, dh and I started in July (I had just turned 42) and I didn't see an RE until October. We had many reasons why we did not start sooner, but I wish we had been able to. If you read the statistics, from 41 to 42 is a big difference, and 42 to 43 is even more so, etc. (not to scare anyone on this board--I think we all know these stats anyway!)

Obviously it is your decision, and I know everyone on the board will support you whichever path you take. I wish you the best!

Lisa (42)

TTC #1 since July 2003

Injectibles cycle #4

Cycle day 17 (IUI tomorrow)

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Registered: 12-26-2003
Fri, 04-30-2004 - 7:38pm

Welcome to the board!! I am glad you found us!! I have been TTC for over 3 years now & have become a big believer in being proactive & finding out as much as possible. I haven't read the book you are reffering to so can't help you with that but I see no harm in reading it and taking what you can from it. They say Yoga is excellent & acupuncture as well. A good diet with hormone free products & organic fruits & vegetables can only help & there are many herbs & vitamins that are very helpful too but you really have to be careful which herbs you use especially if you go into a program like IUI or IVF. A great book to read is The Infertility Cure by Randine Lewis. I have read 5 books on fertility to date & they all recommend the same things she does but hers is more intricate & through. I also think that yes it would be a good idea to see an RE and have some tests done. If you need tests many of them have to be done at a certain time during the cycle so it takes time. A good idea to get the ball rolling & cross things off your to do list!

Hope this helps!!!

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