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|Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:41am|
AF arrived last night. I am counting today as day 1. I emailed the clinic and told them I started and that if my ovulation cramps were an indication of ovulation this last cycle, I had them on day 11 meaning if I had to guess I will ovulate on day 10 or 11 this time around which is a weekend of course (Sept 29-30). So I asked what they wanted me to do if I should go ahead and set up an ultrasound for those days or what. I know the IVF clinic is in its uptime still during that weekend so they have to have an ultrasound person and lab people there for IVF clients so I think it should all be fine but who knows.
We still haven't picked a donor but at this point it won't ship til Monday regardless since it ships overnight but not weekend delivery and it wouldn't go out today even if I ordered today. So I just MUST make a decision TONIGHT!
Here is the current status of top 4 choices:
Donor A - 6'8" dude seemed perfect but I somehow missed the page that showed his mother has high blood pressure and luekemia, yet she is listed in good health on another page. So I think that takes him out of the running despite his good features since health is our #1 priority.
Donor B - Brown eyes. This is the main reason I didn't use him before, I want a chance at having a blue eyed baby like DH even though its unlikely since I have brown eyes. Donor seems really healthy and smart but also seems like a major @$$ for lack of a better term. DH said while reading the profile he wanted to punch the guy. He listed a favorite food as salad and tofu!? Whose favorite food is salad and tofu?! But then when DH got done reading it he said 'this is our guy. He's conceited but maybe he has reason to be.' He wrote that he was a gifted child and doing long division at 5 and DH just likes that he's smart. His grandparents all died in ages 89-95 from strokes or heart attacks. Other than that clean bill of health. His parents are 79 and 80 at the time he filled this out so he's an older guy.
Donor C - Irish guy. We used this one for our previous IUIs. Great counts. Clean bill of health on his family but his grandparents are all dead and passed from 'natural causes' in late 70s and 80s which bothered me that he wasn't specific or he didn't know and if he didn't know that what else didn't he know? Since my grandparents are all alive in 90s or 80s (except paternal grandfather who died in accident way before i was born) to me that is not good even thought they all aren't in the best health. Also I fear he's ugly, but honestly they could all be really ugly, how would I know? This guy was a semi-pro baseball player and now works as a team supervisor, we think. They whited out a bunch of his stuff because he obviously put the team or company name and he shouldn't have done that. So it simply says supervisor. His answers to the questions make him seem like a really nice guy.
Donor D - Guy we used for IVF. He is CMV positive for the antibody. With IVF that didn't really matter but with IUI it might even though there are no known cases of contracting CMV from someone with the antibody. But that's still a slight concern. This guy was our initial photo match from the bank. We sent pictures of DH and they told us this guy was a good match. But we initially didn't use him because of CMV status. He also has curly hair but so do I and dimples and a strong cleft in his chin (we do not have those). I told DH that in my head I was picturing Corey from Boy Meets World meets Gaston from Beauty and the Beast. lol Everyone in his family is healthy and still alive but oldest grandparent is 76. This guy is an executive level recruiter. i don't know what his counts were with IVF but only 5 of my 7 mature eggs fertilized I don't know if that's his fault or mine. Another nice guy answers wise.
We will probably just buy one vial this time because shipping is *only* $100 and I may change my mind again. lol If I was really set on one of these guys I would buy more than one.
Also DH and I were talking last night and he's realizing I really don't want to do IVF again (and this may change) and he is totally okay with me just doing a bunch more IUIs. But I don't know. Part of me just wants to do another IVF and get it over with but the other part of me is like WHY am I doing IVFs. No one ever said I had to do IVF. I wanted to do it even before because I secretly hoped DH would change his mind and provide a sample and there would be at least a few to ICSI. DH said he spoke to the lab about his one sperm when he was telling them not to freeze just one again and he claims they told him if he only had one it likely won't survive the thaw. But that's what I would do it for if we do it again. Financially the IUIs would be better too assuming it worked in the next 4-5 times. Otherwise with the cost of sperm after 4-5 more tries it would start being a greater cost than IVF, but DH pointed out that at least I wouldn't have all the drugs and shots. But then...they never FOUND my ectopic so I don't know if it was in a tube or where it was but if it WAS in the tube could I have a blocked tube now? Do I need another HSG? Ugh. Then I wonder if financially we should just wait and pay some things down before doing this again since essentially IUI or IVF its all going to a charge card. So while IVF is 'cheaper' if I do it this year since it needs to be charged is it really cheaper than if we saved up or could at least afford to make larger credit card payments. So I need to figure it out.
Regardless we are definitely doing IUI THIS cycle (as long as ultrasound gives us the okay and I don't miss it).
Here's hoping the 3rd time is a charm!