Cancelled our IVF appointment.....

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Cancelled our IVF appointment.....
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Sat, 11-24-2012 - 1:34pm

So ladies, we cancelled our IVF appointment because..........

An opportunity for adoption came up and we pushing forward with it. DH's cousin in Mexico "abandoned" her newborn at the hospital. She was born at 7 months, she was very tiny, only about 4 pounds at the most. She became very very sick and almost lost her life. The hospital was wonderful and brought her back. Her grandmother came to visit her when she was in the hospital and that was when she found out that her daughter and her husband abandoned her. So her grandmother said she would take the baby home, and she did. She had her for about a week when the baby got sick again and someone called DIF which investigated and found out the conditions that the grandmother was living in was not suitable for a newborn, and she's too old to raise a newborn by herself. They also looked into the husbands parents and found that they were pretty much crazy, and abusive towards the daughter that they wouldn't leave the baby there. (I guess before this baby the daughter was pregnant and the mother in law shoved her down the stairs at 6 months along and she lost the baby) any way So DIF took the baby, and the grandmother asked what would happen to the baby, and they told her they would look for a suitable family member to take her and if they couldn't find one that the baby would be put up for adoption to anyone. And that's when DH aunt (grandmother) said that she had a nephew up in the states that could take her. They considered it, and kept in touch with the grandmother. DH called his aunt and asked about the baby, and that's when she gave him the number to the lady at DIF. We called her and explained that we were a stable family and ready to take her. After talking to her for about 15 minutes, the final conclusion was, they want us to take her, but by law they have to give the mother and father 2 months to straighten up. BUT the grandmother has a secret about her daughter and son in law that will actually make it so the baby never goes back with them, and it could possibly put the parents in jail. We don't know the secret is, but she said if after the 2 months they straighten up she will tell DIF and it will happen, they will take the baby back and they will never get her back. Here's another thing, IF that happens, they have a 2 year old daughter also.  So there is a possibility that two kids could be coming our way! I've been counting down the 2 months, we just pasted two weeks. We were hoping to get them or at least the baby by Christmas, but if it happens after the new year, that will work too! 

So that is why we cancelled the appointment. DH and I talked, and we decided, we had a wonderful opportunity for IVF come up, family wants to help we were on the right track. And then this wonderful opportunity comes up to get 1 or possibly 2 beautiful girls and we can't give up on them! We can take loosing two months IF they let the girls stay with their parents. But it sounds like the baby at least is coming our way and I can't just give up on her. We figured we would save $2000 to see if we can get them both and if not, if we can get the one baby then we would go IVF about 6 months after. If we get both, we will be good and stop everything and maybe just maybe by some miracle we can get pregnant on our own. But we won't push it :) We will be complete with the two girls! :) 

Well that's where we are! :) If you're friends with me on FB please don't post anything, we are not telling anyone about it, AND that's another reason we would love to have one or both by Christmas, what a wonderful Christmas present to my parents! :) Surprise! :) 

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 3:23pm
Aww Shana I am sorry the adoption did not work out. Good luck with the IVF process and FX'ed for a BFP in Feb! Keep us updated, I really want to see a BFP post from you.

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 4:35pm
Shana, I'm so happy to hear an update from you! I'm sorry the adoption didn't work out, but so excited that you're moving forward with IVF! Hoping all goes well and you have a little one to dress up next Halloween!
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 7:55pm

How did everything go? I have been thinking about you and praying you get a BFP.

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