Cancelled our IVF appointment.....

Avatar for mrscarta914
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2003
Cancelled our IVF appointment.....
13
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 1:34pm

So ladies, we cancelled our IVF appointment because..........

An opportunity for adoption came up and we pushing forward with it. DH's cousin in Mexico "abandoned" her newborn at the hospital. She was born at 7 months, she was very tiny, only about 4 pounds at the most. She became very very sick and almost lost her life. The hospital was wonderful and brought her back. Her grandmother came to visit her when she was in the hospital and that was when she found out that her daughter and her husband abandoned her. So her grandmother said she would take the baby home, and she did. She had her for about a week when the baby got sick again and someone called DIF which investigated and found out the conditions that the grandmother was living in was not suitable for a newborn, and she's too old to raise a newborn by herself. They also looked into the husbands parents and found that they were pretty much crazy, and abusive towards the daughter that they wouldn't leave the baby there. (I guess before this baby the daughter was pregnant and the mother in law shoved her down the stairs at 6 months along and she lost the baby) any way So DIF took the baby, and the grandmother asked what would happen to the baby, and they told her they would look for a suitable family member to take her and if they couldn't find one that the baby would be put up for adoption to anyone. And that's when DH aunt (grandmother) said that she had a nephew up in the states that could take her. They considered it, and kept in touch with the grandmother. DH called his aunt and asked about the baby, and that's when she gave him the number to the lady at DIF. We called her and explained that we were a stable family and ready to take her. After talking to her for about 15 minutes, the final conclusion was, they want us to take her, but by law they have to give the mother and father 2 months to straighten up. BUT the grandmother has a secret about her daughter and son in law that will actually make it so the baby never goes back with them, and it could possibly put the parents in jail. We don't know the secret is, but she said if after the 2 months they straighten up she will tell DIF and it will happen, they will take the baby back and they will never get her back. Here's another thing, IF that happens, they have a 2 year old daughter also.  So there is a possibility that two kids could be coming our way! I've been counting down the 2 months, we just pasted two weeks. We were hoping to get them or at least the baby by Christmas, but if it happens after the new year, that will work too! 

So that is why we cancelled the appointment. DH and I talked, and we decided, we had a wonderful opportunity for IVF come up, family wants to help we were on the right track. And then this wonderful opportunity comes up to get 1 or possibly 2 beautiful girls and we can't give up on them! We can take loosing two months IF they let the girls stay with their parents. But it sounds like the baby at least is coming our way and I can't just give up on her. We figured we would save $2000 to see if we can get them both and if not, if we can get the one baby then we would go IVF about 6 months after. If we get both, we will be good and stop everything and maybe just maybe by some miracle we can get pregnant on our own. But we won't push it :) We will be complete with the two girls! :) 

Well that's where we are! :) If you're friends with me on FB please don't post anything, we are not telling anyone about it, AND that's another reason we would love to have one or both by Christmas, what a wonderful Christmas present to my parents! :) Surprise! :) 

Loves

Photobucket <a href="http://me

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2005
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 7:55pm

How did everything go? I have been thinking about you and praying you get a BFP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 01-14-2013 - 4:35pm
Shana, I'm so happy to hear an update from you! I'm sorry the adoption didn't work out, but so excited that you're moving forward with IVF! Hoping all goes well and you have a little one to dress up next Halloween!
Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2005
Mon, 01-14-2013 - 3:23pm
Aww Shana I am sorry the adoption did not work out. Good luck with the IVF process and FX'ed for a BFP in Feb! Keep us updated, I really want to see a BFP post from you.

Avatar for Cmmelissa
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 01-14-2013 - 1:27pm
Shana, I'm sorry that adoption wasn't able to happen :( Sending you lots of P&PTs for your upcoming IVF cycle, it sounds like you have everything in place. I'm very excited for you!

Avatar for mrscarta914
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2003
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 11:15pm

Well hello ladies :) long time no talky talky... That's because I'm trying to prep myself.... keep myself grounded because.......

We start our IVF meds the end of January.  :)

We found out a few day's before Christmas that we weren't going to be able to get the baby from Mexico. Bittersweet moment for us. But we pushed forward with the decision to do IVF and we aren't looking back. I've ordered my medications, saved us $3500 by ordering over in Europe. We also had some friends in our ward do IVF last month and they got pregnant and froze their remaining good eggs, but they had medication left over so they just gave it to us. We offered to pay but they said if we weren't doing IVF it would just go in the garage because they didn't need it. So we were super excited about that.  I started my birth control on New Years Day, woot woot. I take the 3 weeks worth of active pills and then I don't have to take the sugar pills (white pills)but my period should start between 3-5 days after the last active pill. Which I know that last pill will be taken on January 21. Then just depending on when my period starts, on day 3 after it does I start my hormones, and the ultrasounds, and other kinds of meds and monitoring, and around the last week of February we will take the blood test and hope to hear the high numbers to confirm a pregnancy. :)  And then 2 weeks after that we go in to see how many there are and hear the heart beat(s) they will be implanting at the most two eggs. We are hoping to get a few good eggs left over so that we can freeze. And we will do it again a few years down the road. I used to say I wanted to be 30 and done having kids, now I'll push the age at 33-35 and be done. DH thinks that once we do this, and if it works that we will get pregnant naturally afterwards. I love his optimism, but I just don't think that is in the cards for us. But the good news is, if we get to freeze some eggs, the process of IVF again will be around $1,500-$3,000 because I won't have to go through all the meds again. The eggs will be ready they just thaw them and then put them in :) 

I'm overly excited and border line nervous. I keep thinking, we could have a baby or babies by Halloween this year. How exciting. DH said last year that he really wanted a little dude for Christmas this year. So that looks like it could very well become true :)

So that's my update. I'll try and check in in the process of it all, but you may or may not hear from me until we get confirmation or see confirmation. It's all going so quickly I can't believe it! 

Good luck ladies!

Loves

Photobucket <a href="http://me

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2011
Wed, 01-02-2013 - 3:31pm
shana, update please! thinking about you and hoping things are progressing for you and you're looking forward to some big changes happening soon! let us know how things are going! :)

Diane

Expecting #1 (a boy!) on January 16, 2013

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2011
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 11:40am

OMG Shana I just saw your post!  Update!  Update!!

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2005
Sat, 12-01-2012 - 2:26pm

I am so happy for you!! FX'ed the cousin says she wants the baby to come to the US and live with you and your DH!

Avatar for mrscarta914
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2003
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 9:37pm

Thanks ladies! :) Dh told me I couldn't tell anyone about the situation but we went to a friends baptism last weekend and DH told the dad so I thought I should be able to tell someone too :) You ladies popped into my head because we really are wanting to keep it a surprise for our families.

DH has been trying to get a hold of DIF for a few day's now, and finally yesterday we were able to get through. There was another rock we have to get over however, and we are seriously praying for his cousin to soften her heart. But apparently, in order for the baby to come our way, the cousin has to say she wants her to come to us. Otherwise we go to the back of the "waiting" line and I'm tired of this waiting line so we have been trying to get a hold of the aunt again to talk to her daughter but unfortunently, since this daughter of her has been married she's kinda "disowned" her, and they don't talk very much because the husband is a jerk and rude and Diego's aunt doesn't like him. But she talks to them because of the kids, but we pretty much have to beg or make his cousin see that we are the people who the baby needs to be with, because if DIF takes her away completely and the cousin doesn't say she wants her to be with us someone else gets her, and that would make me so sad! Happy that the baby is out of that situation, but so sad that she wouldn't be coming to us. His aunt hasn't told the secret yet, but she's afraid that if she tells and the cousin doesn't mention us both kids will go somewhere else :( So we are just praying right now that her heart is softened and she will come to terms with herself and stop listening to her husbands family that tells her they need to get the baby back anyway they can. But if they don't to it right we could all loose her :( But my spirits are still high. I keep a picture of her on my computer desktop and every time I pull it up I get tears in my eyes and just want to hug her. Hopefully soon!

Loves

Photobucket <a href="http://me

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2011
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 2:20pm
holy CRAP shana, that's so exciting! i'm so excited to swing by this board again and find some happy news here!! please keep us all posted on the progress. best of luck to you... it seems as though you may be a mama in no time. woo hoo!!!!!

Diane

Expecting #1 (a boy!) on January 16, 2013

Pages