Newcomer with lots of questions and looking for support....

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Registered: 01-27-2011
Newcomer with lots of questions and looking for support....
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Thu, 01-27-2011 - 3:58pm

Hello. I'm 28 years old and have been happily married for 2 years. I got off birth control in July 2009 after being on it for 10 years, and have been having irregular periods ever since (random spotting, long periods which don't end for weeks, etc..). My husband and I just started trying to conceive in December 2010, which I'm aware is still a relatively short amount of time. I've had numerous tests done to asses the cause of my bleeding including blood work, sonograms (internal and external) and even a uterine biopsy- and everything came back "normal". The cause of the spotting and irregular periods is still a mystery. I'm at a complete loss and don't know what else to do. I guess my main question is, can I even get pregnant while I'm spotting?? I guess I'm just really frustrated and more so scared. My husband is being really supportive but I don't think anyone quite understands what this feels like except for other women experiencing it. I'm trying to trust my body and relax but that can only take me so far. If anyone has any advice or input I would really appreciate it. My OB/GYN suggested two options at this point (1) going back on the pill (there's no way I'm going to go back on it so that's out of the question) and (2) making an appointment with a fertility specialist (which I don't understand b/c there's nothing "wrong" per se). I feel defeated and keep blaming myself and thinking that I could have somehow prevented this. I had normal periods before going on the pill but that was a long time ago. Again, any advice, information or support would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Hopeful,

nyc508

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Registered: 09-29-2010

Hi there! You've come to the right place for support. I, too, was on the pill for over a decade. Not being a dr, I don't have any answers on why you're having these problems. Personally, I would suggest something in between your OB's 2 suggestions. I'd buy a fertility monitor (clearblue easy fm amazon) and a BBT thermometer, and start tracking your cycles / temps. If, after a few months, it doesn't appear that you're ovulating, go ahead and pull out the big guns with a specialist appt. You could have some tests done and get some piece of mind that nothing is wrong, or deal with whatever they find.

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Registered: 01-27-2011

Hi chi_gal10! Thank you so much for your response. It's really comforting hearing about other women's experiences with trying to conceive. I have an appointment with my OB/GYN in two weeks- no exams or tests, just time to sit down and talk. Making an appointment with a fertility specialist is really intimidating but if all else fails then I guess that's the next best step. Was your period regular when you first got off the pill?

Thanks again!

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Registered: 01-17-2008

Hi! I used to have very irregular periods and was on BCP because of it, but luckily they went back to

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My period came back after a couple months (2 or 3). Try checking your ovulation on your own, but don't be scared if you decide to see a specialist. They're not going to send you down the path of IVF right away!!

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Registered: 07-06-2010

Welcome!

I agree with Chi-Gal, you should start temping and tracking your cycles. That way you can see if you are O'ing every month. Temping has helped me figure out my cycles and I've found it very helpful.

I was on bc for about 6 years. When I came off it took a couple cycles before they became regular again but after about 3 months my cycles were back to normal. I'm not sure why you would be having bleeding and spotting. Maybe seeing the fertility specialist would help.

Whatever you decide to do, don't blame yourself! We all have struggles and it's nothing you did or didn't do. We're all here if you need us, feel free to ask away! :smileyhappy:

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Hi There,

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Welcome to the board! I'm glad you found us because this is such a supportive place to be when you're ttc your first child. We all have varying experiences but all ultimately want the same thing in the end.

I was on BCP for a number of years and when I went off, my cycles returned to how they were pre-BCP...which unfortunately for me means long and anovulatory! Your cycles should return to how they were pre-bcp within about 6 months of coming off. I'm not sure what the spotting means but that should absolutely be something your dr can help you with. I'm honestly surprised that your dr would send you to a fertility specialist right now...just because you want to get pg, if there is an underlying cause related to your body, that should be something your doc should be looking into. If you're not getting the care you deserve, seek someone else.

Try not to blame yourself (which I know is easier said than done) and do what's best for you. I hope you find someone who can help you with this soon so you can really get into ttc. (And ditto to everyone on temping!) Throwing loads of baby dust your way!
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Thank you so much to all the women who have responded to my first

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TCOYF is like the ttc bible! It has ridiculous amounts of information and is extremely eye-opening. There are some pictures in there that can be deemd graphic (such as cervical mucus) but I found it very helpful.
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Hi - I hope you don't even end up needing the appt! But either way, I'm sure it'll end up giving a ton of information.

We're in a similar position it seems. My husband and I gave it our first real after my Dec AF - and I went off the pill July/August. My cycles have really been all over the place in a way, too. They were like clockwork before I went on the pill, so it really makes me sad that this is happening. But hey, this isn't our fault! And they'll get back to normal and we'll both get our BFPs!!

Welcome to the board!

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