Any good excuses for not drinking???

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Any good excuses for not drinking???
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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 3:16pm

Hi everyone,

I was just wondering if any of you had any good excuses for not drinking when out socially with friends?

I work on a boat and also socialize with the people on the boat and we are coming to the end of a extremely busy charter season and we have been working about 60 days straight with 6 more days to go and all everyone can talk about it going out partying at the end of it. I am giving up alcohol while we are TTC just in case and especially over the next couple of weeks as AF is due on Sept 4 and I won't be able to test until at least then but the first couple of days of Sept is when everyone is going to want to go out.

I can't use the designated driver excuse as none of us have cars and I can't use the other plans excuse as we are constantly moving around so it is not like I could be going out with other friends or something. I have been trying to think of a plausible excuse for the last couple of weeks as I knew this was going to happen but so far the best I can come up with is that I am tired and head home early but then there is still dinner to get through without any drinks. I am not a huge drinker anyway so it is not like it is really out of character for me but I do often have a drink or two with dinner so they will wonder why especially since we will all be celebrating.

I am worried that someone might guess that we are TTC as worst case scenario it is possible that we could lose our jobs if everyone found out and even if that didn't happen I just don't want everyone to know that we are TTC.

Any suggestions would be very much appreciated :)

Jane

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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 3:18pm


I always say that I'm finishing up a course of medication that doesn't mix well with alcohol. No one's question that.

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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 3:46pm
No advice really but I just went through this last weekend! My FIL was in town and we were out to dinner sitting at a bar waiting for our table. He orders wine, and says to me "you're not getting a drink?" Dammit! So I ordered a glass and pretended to drink/take very small sips for the next 45 minutes. Thankfully my FIL goes to the restroom and I beg my DH (who hates the taste of wine) to drink half the glass. He did and I left just a little bit at the bottom. But when he asked me if I was having a drink, my mind went blank, I need a good excuse too!
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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 4:59pm
I agree with Andrea. I have used the whole on meds thing. You could use that you are trying to lose weight so you dont want the extra calories. Or when you get to the resturant talk to the waiter and tell them you will order a jack and coke..but hold the jack. so you will get it in the small glass and everything..but it will just be coke. I have done that one :) The waiter looks at you weird but i told them i was pg but didnt want ppl to know yet. lol. SO it totally worked. I hope that helps! If i think of anything else I will let you know :)
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 1:10am
The ladies have said what I was going to say! The medication thing is good (unless anyone around you is a nurse...a problem I've run into) and I like the virgin drink idea. I'm not a big drinker either, but in social situations I've had martinis that are actually mixers only. "I just don't feel like it" works too, just be prepared for peer pressure. :o)
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 4:54am

Thanks for the suggestions everyone!

The medication thing is a good one but unfortunately I can't use that as I have to report any medications I am on to the captain.

I thought about getting the waiter in on it but we won't be in an English speaking country and I am nervous about trying to explain the situation in my broken Italian/Spanish or whatever is spoken in the place we happen to be at the time and then the waiter not completely understanding what is going on and dropping off a drink with a big wink wink this one is for you which would completely blow it.

I am feeling like I am getting a cold at the moment so I may be able to use the I am sick so not drinking excuse. I might also try the diet one and say I am doing a cleanse. We'll see how it goes. There is for sure going to be a lot of peer pressure because we have all been stuck on this boat working out butts of for the past 2 months and all anyone wants to do now is go out and party so they won't easily accept that I am not drinking. I might also try the order a drink and then make my husband drink it when nobody is looking one.

It makes it so much harder because everyone is so involved in the personal lives of everyone else so it makes it really tough to keep any secrets when you live/work/eat/socialize with the same group of 10 or so people all the time. I am more than happy to have this problem though as it means that we are finally TTC!

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 4:11pm

Hi Jane

Great suggestion Ashlee - I'll remember that one :). The excuse that I use is that I don't really like it...will its more the truth than an excuse :) people still look at me stangely :).

Maybe try the excuse that you think you're getting a headache and don't want to aggravate it...

If you find any other good ones - let us know.

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 7:50pm
If you can't use the meds excuse, I'd say go ahead and get a drink, and as others have said just sip it slowly. When I had my first RE visit he asked if I used alcohol, and I said no. He said 'never?'. I said not really...it seems like I'm always in the 2ww. He said a drink or two won't hurt you, don't miss out on life while TTC. So if the experts say a bit of alcohol is ok while TTC I wouldn't worry too much. It's not like you're downing a bottle of wine every night. A few sips won't hurt anything. Do you like cranberry juice? Ask for that with a splash of vodka. Ask for a small glass so even if you sip a little it looks like a lot is gone. Or ask the bartender to put your drink into a tall narrow glass, for the same reason. That's a hard situation. Sounds like a fun job. Good luck!
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:14pm

I'm going to have this issue in a few months, when we go to 3 weddings in a month! Luckily DH doesn't drink, and I don't really either, but I have been known to succumb to peer pressure. I'm hoping (HOPING!) that I'll be pregnant by then so I'll know for sure. However, if I am pregnant by then, I don't want to tell people yet because I don't want to be that girl who ruins the bride's day by announcing she's pregnant. So I will definitely be using these excuses!

Right now, my issue is medication. I get migraines and I'm trying not to take anything for them. When AF came last time, I figured, what the heck - so I let myself take OTC medication. Now I'm hoping to have a reason to stop, but it's hard!

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 12:12am

Great ideas!

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 11:13am

At weddings, I ask for cranberry juice mixed with sprite -- no one knows it's non-alcoholic but the bartender! Or I just dance my ass off the whole time, with no room for a drink in my hand.


At dinner parties with smaller groups of friends, I pour myself

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