Delivering the News?!

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Delivering the News?!
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 9:34pm


Seems like the first question I posed got some fun responses, so here's some more:

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?

2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news?

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 9:41pm

1. How will I tell DP about the BFP? Well, I like to think that if I POAS and he is here that I won't just have a total freak out and scream and not get to make it a good delivery. Since he travels so much, there is a good chance he won't be home for it, so I need to think of two ways to tell him- one if he is here, one if he isn't. If he is here, I bought a Boston Red Sox baby bib a long time ago (back when I thought it wouldn't take me so long to get pg- now I'm scared I jinxed myself!) because he's native to that area and was born into the Red Sox Nation of fandom. So somehow I am going to put that somewhere for him to find.
If he isn't here, I'm not sure yet- I'm thinking of a way to deliver the message in a fun way over Skype. Still working on that one...

2. Who will I tell next, and when and how? I am a high risk for an ectopic pregnancy, so if I get a BFP I have to go get betas done every other day until it gets to a certain level, then they will do an u/s to determine if it is viable or not. I will definitely not tell anyone until then, and I suspect I will wait at least til I get to 8 weeks. My dad is the first person I will tell. I'll call and ask him what he is doing in the month that I am due. We do a lot of long term planning for visits between my town and his (just an hour and 45 minutes away), so I am hoping he'll think I have some activity in mind. Once he says "not much, why?" I'll say something like, "well, I'm hoping you can come and meet your new grandchild then" or something like that.

Oooh, I get shivers thinking about it! I've been so negative about TTC and sometimes I forget to keep a positive spirit about it all. Thinking about these kinds of questions makes it seem possible and makes me hopeful again. I hope it is having the same effect on the rest of you!

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 9:43pm

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?

IF we got it this cycle, my due date would be just a day before DH's birthday! So I have plans to make a cake, and put "Happy Birthday DH and baby!" hopefully DH get's it :)

2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news?

Probably first off I will tell my good friend Cadie. We actually met on this Ivillage web site, we scheduled a meeting, and met for dinner with our DH's we hit it off great and have been friends ever since (over 5 years) I will probably just text her a picture of my positive :)

And then we are not telling anyone else until I am over my 12 weeks. And once we make it, we are going to order a bag of M&M's on line, you can customize them, and we are going to get pink and blue ones, and one them we are putting "Its a baby" and "due 4/25/2011" Hopefully my father in law doesn't eat them all before he reads them! LOL

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 9:44pm

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP? I thought I might tell him that he needs to take me out for dinner on that day, maybe somewhere we don't normally go and surprise him over the meal. He is not going to make a big deal out of it, so I could do it anywhere.

2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news? My parents will probably be the first (and I'm not going to wait, as soon as I know they will too). I had two ideas: 1. When DH proposed, he secretly drove to their house and dropped in unannounced to ask them permission to propose. They were totally shocked, but then were excited to be in on the surprise. We live an hour and 15 minutes away, they would totally not expect us to just show up. Or 2. I want to invite them to our house for a "surprise home cooked meal". When they come in, I'll have a scavenger hunt with some clues set up. The last clue will take them to the oven, where there will be a uncooked brown and serve roll sitting inside. When they get confused, I'll tell them that's the surprise meal, a bun in the oven. It will depend on the circumstance what happens.



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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 9:56pm

Love the questions!


DH is a huge fan of the show scrubs. On one of his favorite episodes Dr. Cox's son asks him where babies come from, and he replies,

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:19pm

Hey ladies,


1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?


If I get a bfp before my beta I was thinking about buying a baby related item before hand and placing it somewhere weird

Me - (Amanda 27) My dh-- 26 We have been ttc # 1 for 3yrs 5mths My dh has severe oligospermia, Ivf with icsi is our only option. Ivf # 1--- failed Ivf # 2--- failed Ivf # 3-- hopefully in March 2013 at a new clinic!

 

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 10:35pm

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?

DH works from home, so I plan to surprise him with something in his office. I haven't exactly planned what it will be yet. That is, of course, if he isn't right next to me while I poas...

2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news?

I would really like to wait to tell until 12wks just to be safe. We just moved across the country from all friends and family, so nothing will be in person. Throughout college, my mom really enjoyed sending care packages full of goodies for every holiday. I'm going to take her idea to a new level. Our parents will be getting packages of baby items themed for the holiday closest to the due date. My best friend is next on the list. I haven't decided exactly how to tell her, but she is the only one who knows we are TTC (not even our families!) so it will be special. I know a lot of my friends have posted a clever message on Facebook, but I don't know how much I will want to advertise the news to everybody like that.

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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 7:23am

Fun Questions!

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?

Since last time was a mess (Honey I am preggers, it is not going well and they say I am going to need surgery) I am going to make it fun, maybe get a t-shirt for my fur baby that says big brother DH would think that was funny.

2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news?

I will tell one of my sisters right away she has an idea we are trying and they rest of the families / friends can wait until I am showing.


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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 8:14am

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?


Well first I will tell you how I did it the first time. I woke up at 4 am after traveling for almost 24 hours and couldnt fall back asleep because I was a day late at that point. So I took a test, it said 'pregnant' and i RAN full speed into the bedroom and told him that i was pg. He kinda sort woke up, grunted, so i said it again. and he said, 'dont lie to me' (cuz i would lie about this?) lol. But then I jumped around and freaked. lol O and didn't sleep till that night but it was my birthday so i could do what i wanted

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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:05am

1. How will you tell DH/DP/DB/DF when you get a BFP?


When I got pg last fall, I POAS with him right outside the bathroom door. Then we covered up the test (it was digital) and danced around not looking for five minutes -- we were both giddy. It was a "don't-look-don't-look-don't-look" dance.

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 1:48am

1. How will you tell DH when you get a BFP?


For both of my BFP's, I told DH right away. It's kind of hard to keep a secret when he's so involved in the process. He always asks where I'm at in the cycle, how I'm feeling and if I've poas yet, so trying to surprise him is somewhat difficult. I don't foresee myself keeping it from him, especially because of the risk/fear of another m/c. There's no way I could keep it from him. I daydream about doing the cute bib or little "Daddy" trinket of some sort, but I really don't want to do any of that until we're out of the first trimester at least.


2. Who will you tell first, (aside from your Sperminator!) and how long will you wait to tell them? How will you deliver the news?


I'll tell my mom and sister probably right away. I will want them on my side knowing what's going on. It was really hard keeping this last cycle from them, but I really wanted to be able to surprise them when I go back to visit next week. Having to then deliver the m/c news is even harder, so I'll definitely tell them right away. We won't tell anyone else until after at least the first trimester.

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