Ugh, my friend wants me to throw her a baby shower!

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Registered: 06-29-2011
Ugh, my friend wants me to throw her a baby shower!
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Fri, 02-01-2013 - 3:24pm

A close friend of mine just found out she's pregnant (of course by accident).    After telling me about the pregnancy, she mentioned that she was very excited at the prospect of me hosting her baby shower.  Granted, I haven't mentioned to her that I'm ttc myself, so she wouldn't think anything of the request, but I'm just unsure what to do.  I was noncommital when responding, because I'm just not sure if I'll be able to handle it if I'm still not pregnant in sixth months or so.  On the other hand, what if I am?  I don't want to hurt her feelings, I am happy for her just sad for myself.   What would you do?

 

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Registered: 01-16-2013

I was just lurking and saw your post.  I can relate to how you are feeling so I hope you don't mind that I reply.

That's a tough one.  It took me over a year of TTC and I know it was painful to read about/hear about friends and family members who were pregnant (especially if it was an accident).  I did back out of going to a baby shower when I was just having a horrible month, but she wasn't one of my closest friends so I didn't feel too guilty.  If it were me, I think I'd tell your close friend just what you've told us. If she is one of your close friends, she'll totally understand.  Maybe you could tell her that you aren't up to planning the entire thing, but maybe you could lend a hand when the time gets closer?  It's a tough situation for sure. My fingers are crossed for you that you see your BFP long before the baby shower.  HUGS!

~ Ashley ~

~ Expecting Our First in SEPTEMBER! ~