Week-ends are the worst!

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Week-ends are the worst!
Sat, 09-04-2010 - 1:08am

Don't get me wrong- I love week-ends! I'm a professor, so the week-ends mean not worrying about lectures being ready, office hours being kept, deadlines being met. And now week-ends mean college football (go Razorbacks!), better weather for walks and grilling out, a new season for baking and cooking. But for some reason, being childless and not pregnant hits me hard on the week-end.

I know some parents would say something like, "enjoy having your freedom while you can," but I don't want this freedom anymore. I want my week-ends to mean play dates and taking pictures of my baby at the park, and experimenting with homemade baby food making, and catching up on laundry, and stocking up on diapers, and relaxing with DP and baby.

I think the TTC boards are a little slower too, so I can't feed my obsession, and on week-ends like this with DP gone, I find myself more restless and more painfully unpregnant and childless. Does anyone else have a particular time of the week/month/season that being not-pregnant and without child seems particularly hard? What are your strategies to deal with it?

I've planned on baking bread tomorrow, and I am trying out a new recipe for a berry pie. The walnut oat bread is very "fall" and the berry pie is very "summer" to me, so I am using the recipes to mark the end of summer and beginning of fall. I will also take the dogs for an extra long walk, and I head to my hometown on Sunday to spend time with my family. It doesn't replace me wanting to be pg or with a baby, but I guess it is better than sitting around reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility for the hundredth time!

Have a great week-end ladies!


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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 4:35am


When my husband and I first met he was working on a rotation schedule so he was away from home for between 3-6 months at a time and then home for the same amount of time and when he was away the weekends were absolutely horrible for me. I actually used to ask my bosses if I could work sometimes just so I wouldn't be at home thinking and missing him for the whole weekend. I haven't been TTC for very long but both my husband and I have been ready for ages and just waiting to try and the times when I am not working are the worst because you have so much more time to focus on it. I'm sure this weekend is especially bad for you because DH is away also.

I don't really have any advice on how to make it better but I just wanted to say hello and hopefully this entertained you for a few minutes.

PS - the bread and pie sounds delicious.


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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 10:03am

Andrea I totally know what you mean! I love the weekends because that means DH is actually home. I get to actually see him and spend time with him. But I wish we had a baby so we could go to the park, or skype with family back home. Also most military families have at least one child..so we are left out of a lot of things. i hate it! But i just wanted you to know that you aren't alone :) Im usually here on the weekends. I thought I wouldn't be this weekend...but with BFNs and dh who is still sleeping I have nothing else to do..lol.

O I know what you mean about the boards being slower. That KILLS me. I need something to distract me... :(


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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 10:46am

I find weekends very hard too. The worst for me is holidays. Every family gathering I think how wonderful it would be tell everyone. It's especially hard with the baby boom that seems to be going on in my family. I'm excited for everyone, but I want to be a part of it all to! The fall is my favorite time of year so I'm looking forward to that, hopefully it will help keep my mind off things for a while. I'm not holding my breath though.

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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 1:07pm
I can also relate.


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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 2:39pm

I agree!

I usually try to stay busy with chores, taking the dogs to the dog park (something about watching them run around and play with the other dogs always puts a smile on my face) and catching up on tv but it's hard.

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Sat, 09-04-2010 - 10:32pm
You are right the weekends are pretty slow on the boards. I think around Thanksgiving (close to my b-day) and Christmas will be hard because I should still be PG. I was excited to put baby items on my b-day and X-mas list but now it isn't needed. I really hope I can get PG again which I can try in November. That would ease the pain a bit.
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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 1:38am

I'm with you on this. It gets progressively more difficult dealing with being babyless, especially with the prospect of a very long uphill battle ahead of us. I can't think of a time in particular that makes it more difficult to deal with, especially since I live in a military community where pg ladies are waddling around everywhere! I feel ancient at 27 without kids here.

I'm dreading the next few months because I get to deal with my sister finding out the sex of her baby, something I would be doing too. I can't even go on her FB page without being reminded that we should be experiencing our pregnancies together.

I know the board has been a bit slower, but I am working behind the scenes to try increasing traffic. If you have any ideas on how we can attract more members, or have ideas for new threads or games just let me know...or you can definitely start them up! TTCYFC is my saving grace and I love when there's lots of activity so I'm open to anything.

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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 11:05pm

Oh boy, I feel EVERYONE'S pain here. It is certainly harder to deal with being childless when DH isn't around. And when I'm bored, that's when my obsessing begins. But the hardest time for me is definitely family gatherings -- I have three obnoxiously fertile older sisters who keep breeding like bunnies. I love them fiercely, as well as my perfect nieces and nephews. And I'm the "fun" aunt who isn't distracted by my own little one to worry about....yet whenever I'm holding someone else's baby, I am crying on the inside.

Recently, oddly enough, I went to the wedding of a high school friend, and held a friend's 6-week-old baby. Normally I would expect that to make me bitter and unhappy, and would avoid it at all costs........but all I felt was peace. I long for that peace to be snoozing in a co-sleeper next to my bed. Especially late at night when I can't sleep (like right now.)


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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 1:04am

"And I'm the "fun" aunt who isn't distracted by my own little one to worry about....yet whenever I'm holding someone else's baby, I am crying on the inside."

This exactly



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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 6:22pm
I can completely feel your pain on this!