Alternative possibilities?

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Registered: 04-09-2012
Alternative possibilities?
Mon, 04-09-2012 - 4:09pm

Hello, my name is Roy and I am married to a Filipina 24 years younger than me, we have a wonderful relationship and everything is going great in our lives. Recently my wife's period was late and so I got her a pregnancy test kit, it was negative.

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Registered: 11-09-2011
Tue, 04-10-2012 - 2:36pm

Hi Roy!

Basically what I got from your post is that you want some stranger to impregnate your wife. :/

Creating a child is extremely emotional and having your wife have sex with some guy...

You're looking at a ton of issues aside from emotional ones: legal issues as this guy would be the father of the baby and safety issues - the person would need to be thoroughly screened for all STDs and blood tested and so on.

Honestly, it would be 'cheaper' in the long run to go to a reputable sperm bank and do an at home insemination should you choose not to do the reversal.

Good luck to you!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 04-10-2012 - 3:57pm
Hi Roy, welcome to the board! Although it sounds easier, I think that having your wife impregnated naturally by another man could raise many issues that could affect your marriage in a negative way. I agree with the previous poster that using sperm from a reputable sperm bank a much better option.

The fathers on here that do go through a vasectomy reversal do so because they want another biological child with their partner. Many times it's a new marriage, such as in your case, or they had the vasectomy without realizing that they would want another child together down the road.

I haven't run across this topic much on this channel, but the Love & Sex channels has boards that might give you some advice on how this could affect your marriage, such as Problem Solving for Couples:

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 6:04pm
I agree with the other ladies about the possibly negative effects of having another man have sex with your wife to impregnate her. What if it takes months for her to get pregnant? Would you really want he having sex regularly with someone else waiting for it to happen.

Look into sperm banks and home insemination, that would probably be the best way to go if you don't want a reversal.