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Don't know where else to post maybe ya'll can point me in the right direction
Sun, 11-13-2011 - 5:19pm

Hi my name is Krystle,

I'll give you a little bit of a background. I'm 29 years old, and I have 3 wonderful kids. 8,7, and 3. Getting pregnant with them was easy, but staying pregnant with them wasn't. When I was pregnant with our oldest my pregnancy was picture perfect til 30 wks then I went into labor the day I turned 30 wks. I didn't know I was in labor, I had no contractions, I just couldn't get comfortable so my husband took me to the hospital and I was 5 cm and 80% e-faced. They were able to stop my contractions with Terbutaline and Magnesium Sulfate. I remained on hospitalized bedrest til I had him at 35wks.

15 months later I gave birth to our second child heres that story in a nut shell

Our Second child I went into labor at 24 wks (scary!!) when I got to the hospital I was 4cm and 50% efaced. They were able to stop it (had a harder time doing so this time around) I was in the hospital for a month, then they sent me home because by some miricle my cervix closed to 2cm. (probably all the time I spent in trendelenburg) I was sent home til I have him via c-section at 34wks.

4 years later I gave birth to our 3rd child

This time I was referred to a Maternal Fetal Medicine dr. from the beginning, I saw that dr once a week to keep an eye on my cervix because they were unsure of WHY I went into preterm labor, but ruled out incompetent cervix. They put me on extra progestorne, since it had shown signs of helping people stay pregnant that don't have an incompetent cervix, and it worked for me...They keep you on it til 35 weeks then have you get off of it cause they don't want it in your system when you deliver. 1 wk later I gave birth.

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I don't think you are being selfish at all for wanting another child. Who can judge how many children is right for a family? If you have the ability to get a TR, then do it. It sounds like you have a great team of professionals who helped you have three beautiful's completely reasonable to expect that you will be able to successfully have a fourth, fifth, sixth...however many is right for you and your family.

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Registered: 11-13-2008

Hi Krystle, welcome to the board!

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Registered: 01-28-2005

:) Congrats on the 3 you have - they each are a miracle! And from former Marine wife, to Marine wife - thank you for all you do each day to support your Marine :) As for your TR delima - only you and DH know how many is right for YOU. DH and I have 2 - 1 boy and 1 girl, 15 months apart. As you know, they are a handful, but now that DD is 4 and DS is 5, all we have thought about the last 2 years is how hasty our "only having 2" decision was - and we really wish we had another. Heck, I think sometimes I'm crazy - but it just feels if you have carefully considered, just do what is right for you and who cares what everyone else thinks!!! :) 4 is a perfect number! Even's out the sibling rivalry balance

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Registered: 08-27-2011

It took two years for my husband and I to finally decide to go ahead with the reversal.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Welcome to the boards! I agree with the others that this is something that's really up to you and your husband. While I can understand worrying about what others think/say, it's really none of their business. You have to do what's best for your family.

I hope everything works out for you and your family. Good luck!
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Registered: 12-18-2011

Hi Krystle. My name is Nicki and i'm not sure if I can help you or not but I will tell you you are not alone in your feelings. I too have 3 children ages 5,4,and almost 3 and after our 3rd I felt pressured by my Drs to have my tubal done mainly because of how young I was (22 then)