RE appointment

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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 7:23pm

So my RE appointment was supposed to be next month, but I got a call yesterday offering me an appointment for tomorrow. I'm so nervous!! Should I write out our entire ttc history and have a checklist of questions? The idea of this consult is making me crazy!

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 7:59pm
Yay for getting moved up!! I'd take a brief history of what you've already done and tried so that you don't have to do the same things over again. Definitely take a list of questions if you have some! Good luck!!
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 12:47pm
How exciting! Definitely write it all out, if you are anything like me you'll forget to ask your most important questions ;) Having your TTC history will help them in knowing how to proceed, it might save you some months of doing things you've tried already. Let us know how it goes!

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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 2:34pm

Gosh, thanks so much Dr. Wilson for never ever explaining SA results to us. Our RE told us right off that our SA results were "horrible" and explained exactly why and what every number on the results meant. He told us that our only chance is IVF with ICSI and that it was a slim one. He said that he wasn't trying to discourage us from doing it, but that he didn't think odds for success were in our favor. I am so terribly embarrassed that I lost my cool. I started crying and had a really hard time keeping control of my emotions. IVF is something that we absolutely cannot afford and is something that I am somewhat morally confused about. I really expected to go in there and asked to do some medicated cycles before we considered IUI. This just blew me out of the water. I'm in really bad shape right now. I don't want to talk to my husband, because just like any other man, he has almost nothing to say. I don't want to have him, after all this time of being at odds about ttc, to now be the cheerleader saying that the doctor is exaggerating and has to be wrong about how bad the count is. I don't want to really share how completely broken I am over this and in a few days or weeks hear that he's frustrated with me because he is "not enough" or that it just being us and the girls is "not enough". This is three years of my life completely devoted to getting pregnant again and then nothing. It's something that he just can't or won't understand. We're supposed to go get a detailed SA and blood work done when this next cycle starts. I'm juggling the "omg that's another $400ish for failure" and "but what if this next SA is awesome and the bloodwork gives us answers". So barring divine intervention for these tests, I'm out. I'm 33 and my fertility is finished.

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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 3:24pm
Big (((HUGS))), I'm so sorry :( I really hope that the next tests results are better, sending you lots of P&PTs.

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 8:02am

So sorry to hear the RE appointment was bad news.

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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:18pm

Whenever I called to make our appointment for labs on Friday, I talked the nurse about Prednisone or Celebrex. Apparently they're very hesitant to prescribe it and Dr. Wilson absolutely will not. We had our repeat SA today that will also check for antibodies. I'm very hopeful it will be better. I looked at our previous SA results and it said that total sperm was over 16 million, but our doctor said that the count was 5 million, which is concentration per milliliter. I know the doctor knows what he's doing, but I'm hoping that he read it wrong. We've prayed really hard about these tests. DH feels good about the SA. I'm nervous about the blood work for myself, of course.

We had a weekend without the girls and we were able to talk about what's going on and how I feel about things, most specifically hurt and frustration. He even encouraged me to the say the horribly hateful thing I wanted to say and I feel like I got it off my chest. I feel a little more peaceful.

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 5:28pm

I'm about to pull my hair out. Still waiting to hear about results for our labs. I'm nervous about the big knot in my arm where they drew blood. Probably the most incompetent phlebotomists I've ever encountered. I've never had so much bruising and swelling. I've still got this knot about the size of a golf ball. Not painful, but it bothers me that it could be a great big clot. I'm super stressed either way the results go. If the SA is better, that's great. I'm worried about my labs, checking egg reserve, egg quality, blood sugar, etc. We did the AMH test and it's supposed to be pretty much right on when it comes to ovarian reserve. We absolutely cannot and will not do IVF, although that is what the RE initially suggested. DH is very opposed and I am something wishy-washy on the idea of donor sperm. Even if my labs are great and the SA is vastly improved, I'm very nervous about the cost of medications and procedures. I'm a homeschooling stay-at-home mother. There isn't much extra money. All I can hope for is maybe trying a combination of oral medications to induce ovulation and hope that the sperm count is high enough to make a difference.

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Mon, 03-26-2012 - 3:09pm

Any news?

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Sat, 03-31-2012 - 4:24pm

I've been trying to deal with the results all week. DH's new count was 36 million total, 9 million per mL, 44% progressive, 6% normal. My testosterone was high, FSH, LH,

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Tue, 04-03-2012 - 6:42pm
I'm sorry your doctor seems to have given up. I can only imagine how horrible that feels. Could you possibly talk with your regular doctor about trying the meds?

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