Torn on what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2011
Torn on what to do
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 12:32pm

Hi I'm new here. My DH and I had a wonderful baby boy Feb 2009 but during pregnancy I began experiencing odd symptoms which I knew were not normal. About a month after giving birth I started developing other symptoms. I instinctively knew that something was horribly wrong with my body and that it wouldn't be an easy fix...if it could be fixed at all. When my son turned 5 months old my husband and I had an accident and I thought for certain I was going to end up pregnant. for the next two weeks I was in a panic and would just cry over the thought of going through another pregnancy. I was terrified that another pregnancy would worsen my aches and pains further than they already were. I wasn't pregnant.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 07-13-2011 - 4:25pm
Hi Stacy, welcome to the board! That would be a tough decision for you to make, I hope that you can reach some sort of resolution soon.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Fri, 07-15-2011 - 11:05am

Welcome to the boards. It sounds like you were definitely in a tough position after having your son. I can understand the decision to go with something permanent at that time. I am glad you are doing better now and I hope things continue to go well. If you ever do decide to go through with a VR, I hope that all goes well for your family. The boards are a bit slow now, but there is a lot of information in all the posts on here already. If you have any specific questions, we'll help the best we can.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2011
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 1:04am

Hi Stacy,

VR is a very successful option for trying to have another child. The question is whether that is the right thing for your situation. The best advice I can offer is for you to discuss it with your rheumatologist and obstetrician to see what the risks are and how a future pregnancy might afect your health. Having a baby is a wonderful thing but not at the expense of either your or the child's health.


Phil Werthman, MD

Center for Male Reproductive Medicine & Vasectomy Reversal