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|Thu, 11-03-2011 - 6:03am|
I'd really like to hear from mums of other older toddlers...
When Bo was born, DH started to help a lot more with Teddy. He did his bedtime routine (dinner, bath and story) and in the mornings got him washed and dressed and gave him his breakfast.
Then it slowly started that when Teddy heard me coming out of our bedroom (after I'd just put Bo to bed) he would call me in to say goodnight and maybe have another story. Soon he started asking for me to read his story after DH had got him into bed and if I was already "done" I would do it. Then DH got into a very busy phase at work and started coming home late, so I had to get both boys to bed simultaneously which actually worked quite well as they love bath time together! But ever since, Teddy now only wants me to put him to bed. He doesn't even want DH to help (like he dries Teddy after the bath and helps him into his PJs while I do Bo in the same room). He keeps saying things like "Daddy go away", "Daddy go downstairs I want to stay with Mummy", and even "Daddy you're not suposed to be here/you shouldn't be at home".
The other night, DH was home early so I asked him to bath Teddy etc as Bo needed an early night (he was very cranky) and I didn't want to wait for Teddy. Well, that was just a disaster. Teddy was crying the entire time, proper sobbing his heart out, not the put-on tantrum crying. He kept crying "I want my Mummy!". It was heartbreaking. In the end I gave in and came out (with Bo in my arms who was still awake) to put Teddy to bed.
Now Teddy even refuses to have breakfast with Daddy in the mornings. Apart from the fact it's not great that DH can't help out more, it's also heartbreaking for my poor DH as he feels so rejected. Especially when Teddy tells him he doesn't even want him in the house. I have no idea where all this comes from - he's had Mummy phases before, but not so pronounced. And it's not like he's jealous of Bo, because he wants him there too, and wants to help with his routine (washing him in the bath, putting cream on him after his bath). You'd think DH did horrible things to him as Teddy really recoils and doesn't even want DH near him in these situations. I am at a loss what to do!
Anyone experienced anything like this?> What can we do?