Anyone else?

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Anyone else?
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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 10:27pm

I will try my best to put this into words as I have tried 3 times to post, but can't seem to get the right words- we'll see how it goes.

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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 9:04am
I know what you mean about wanting to have another child but don't want to be pregnant again. I hated being pregnant - the morning sickness, the overwhelming tiredness, not being able to eat, feeling huge, etc.. It scares me that Evan came early, and then we had a really rough start with him being in the hospital for two weeks out of his first month. Then the first four months were not very much fun. I am so not ready to even think about going through all of that again.

I'm not so worried about the sex of the next kid (if we decide to have one). I'd be totally happy with a boy or a girl. But, I can see how you'd feel that way if you really want a girl.

(((hugs))) I hope everything works out for you, and you have an easy pregnancy and get your girl (or get a boy and still feel your family is complete).




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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 10:31am

I am feeling the same way as well. I had a perfect pregnancy with David (no morning sickness, not many other issues until I had back pain at the very end). I am so worried this time it is going to be total hell and how am I going to deal with all of that and a toddler running around. I could be wrong but it is just my theory since my first one was so great.

This is going to be our last as many of you know since I've had a hard time convincing DH to have two. If it was up to him, we'd just have David but I don't want him to be an only child.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 1:16pm

I can totally relate to your feelings. It's what was going on inside my head before we got pregnant this time.

My last pregnancy was good if not great (except the m/s wich SUCKED), but I just couldn't "find myself" as a pregnant woman. I felt weird. On top of that, the newborn stage was hellish for us, so I was really scared.

In the end, I suppose my (our) desire to have another child was stronger. As I see it, there are things that you can't avoid, and you just have to close your eyes and make the jump, KWIM?

Oh, and btw, just because you had a great pgcy last time doesn't mean you 'll have a hard one next. Quite the contrary I think. Also, the second time around, you have a small child, and that keeps you distracted from some things. In my case, the m/s might be harder because I need to keep doing stuff, but emotionally, I'm much more stable than last time.

If you really thinkabout it, even in a bad pregnancy, it's not all bad. There are weeks of m/s, yes, but then you can feel your baby move from the inside wich is pretty awesome, and people keep pampering you, and then you have your child.

In the long run, the pregnancy and newborn months are blur and the relationship with you kid is all worht it!

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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 1:59pm
Just remember every pregnancy is different, and you might actually LOVE it this time. You just never know. Hugs to you and I hope you can make a decision you guys are both happy with!

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Tue, 08-30-2011 - 2:58pm
Just what Amy said... keep in mind every pregnancy is different.

We had been hoping our #2 would be a girl, but he had another boy... so now we're talking about #3 and I simply don't know what I would do if #3 is a boy as well. ((hugs))
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Thu, 09-01-2011 - 12:21am

Elyse,

No real advice for you - I had a fairly easy pgcy and loved being pg for the most part - but just wanted to say I think we'll be TTC buddies! DH and I are planning to start TTC #2 sometime this fall, Oct/Nov. I keep going back and forth between being scared and excited to be pg again just because Selin has become such a handful. She was definitely easier as a baby, lol!

GL!