Finally some time for personals!!
*Sandy- I hope you can find a good solution for David's sleep patterns. But I agree with the other girls, You should be happy with 5-8 hour stretches, when the books say that a 5mo should sleep 12 hours, I think it means a total of 12, counting daytime naps too!. Fede stil wakes up twice during the night for snacks... and he is only a couple of weeks younger than David, so I think what your baby is oging through is quite normal. By the way. he is totally gorgeous!! What a well defined face!!!!
*Ella- Your Eliza is soooo beautiful!! Personally I like my baby being "kinda huge" It makes me feel like he is stronger somewhat. As you see I still have some trauma from his NICU episode!! :) I'm interested in what you said about Eliza taking swimming lessons... Are you taking her somewhere or are you teaching it yourself? I really want to teach Fede to be safe in the water as soon as the weather warms up!
*Cara- I have big baby dust to spare!!! Good luck with the appt.!!!
*Amy- congrats on a good appointment! (except the crying parts!)
*Christine- I see Fede's hair blonde... but DH was a total carrot head as a baby, so he may have some reddish hue that pops out in pictures!I hope you feel better about life in general. I'm sorry that your DH is being bad tempered... Could some of it be cultural? I mean, I know he grew up in Turkey as a muslim, and as I understand childcare is primarily women's duty there. So maybe he can't really relate to baby issues in the same way as a "western guy". I don't know, just and idea. I hope therapy helped. ((hugs))
*Ash- Teddy is so, so cute!!! Also a chubby baby, LOL!! I'm sorry he is giving you such a hard time!! Are you cosleeping? If not, you could (cautiously) consider it. He may go to sleep faster and his waking periods at night might be shorter.
Waving "hi" to everyone else!!
Thanks ladies for your support. I'm feeling a little better today about the DH situation but now I'm more upset about my work situation.
This afternoon, my boss responded to my email from last week about working from home or dropping to 4 days/week and not surprisingly, she said no. Supposedly she talked to HR about it and they said my position is FT and must be done in the office. I don't know if I believe her
Christine - Sorry to hear that you and DH had a fight and that you are feeling so down right now. I hope the break works out well for you guys. Sorry that it sounds like your boss is not wanting to work with you or compromise on your hours, that sucks.
Ash - Sorry about the sleeping issues, but as you can see from my AFM, my little one STTN isn't so good right now. They all have their own issues, don't they?! I hope he starts sleeping at least a little more for you soon though, that's rough. Those pics you posted are so cute, he's getting so chubby. I'm jealous of that!
Sandy - Glad that you've found a method that seems to be working for you guys so far, hopefully he'll be STTN for you soon!
AFM - (x-posted from April EC): We had T's 2 month check up and unfortunately it's even worse than I thought. Not only is she NOT gaining weight, she actually lost some in the last month! She was gaining fine at her last appt at one month, but now five weeks later she lost a few ounces. :( I went to an LC and she had me start taking herbs and she wants me to pump after every feeding and bottle feed her 1 oz. after each feeding. But the really crappy part is she wants me to wake her up after four hours at night! She's been sleeping 8 hour (or more) stretches at night and it's been wonderful. But of course the most important thing is that she starts gaining weight. I had trouble like this with my first and gave up the BFing, but did fine with my second. It's so hard not to feel like a failure and I feel so guilty that I've basically been starving my baby.
Ash - I'm sorry he is still not sleeping longer stretches! I don't have any advice but if it makes you feel better to hear even a great sleeper like Jensen has his nights. The other night he was up every 2 hours because of teething, and while I am far from feeling your pain, I definitely got a taste of what most moms go through. Hang in there and hopefully you guys will find some kind of arrangement that works!
Sandy - Taking out a nap might not work. It might make him overtired and not want to sleep. Jensen sometimes naps at 7 and is up at 8 and still STTN. Give it a shot and let us know how it goes. Glad the CIO is going on ok for you guys!
Christine - How scary about that caller!! I would definitely try that CallTrap or whatever it is and instead of having the number blocked right away, let him call a few more times with the # showing up and go to the police with the frequency of the calls. Chances are this guy does it to more then just you. Also if you use online ads in the future you might want to just include your email, not your number.
Cara - Don't feel guilty! You are doing all you can for her and if she was starving she would be letting you know and not sleeping such long stretches at night. I hope the pumping helps and your supply goes up so she can gain weight!
AFM - Not a whole lot going on right now. I am still exhausted and still no sign of bleeding. I am going to POAS this weekend but I am not expecting anything other then BFN. The 25th cannot get here fast enough! In other news, me and Rob decided once this is all figured out we would wait to TTC until August 2011. We knew we wanted to TTC in 2011 just weren't sure on the month and I think that will be enough time to get our goals met (get our own place, Rob gets a full time job and works it more then 6 months, and get my last hospital bill paid off ($674). I just feel like I don't want to put pressure on us to meet goals and be disappointed because we didn't meet our goals for an earlier TTC date. Plus that puts us closer to Jensen being out of diapers.
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We co-sleep, in fact in the past 11 weeks of his life Teddy has managed to sleep not on or next to me only a handful of times and never at night. We are working on naps away from me right now as I need to get some stuff done and can't always have him in the carrier.
I am so sorry to hear about the weight problem Tenley is having. I am sure things will improve soon and I hope you know that you are not a failure!!! One thing that my midwife (who is also a LC) had me do to help Teddy gain was to pump for 2 minutes before latching Teddy on so that he would get the rich hindmilk right from the beginning. I hope you don't have to wake Tenley for long!!! Is there anyway you can just try and get an extra feed in during the day instead of waking her at night?
Big hugs!!! Just remember this isn't your fault and is something you have no control over.
Ash- I guess I should feel fortunate David has slept well as I see the problems you are having. He was sleeping through the night at 3 months. We are having issues now but I think they go through all kinds of stages. I read some of my books. Some said that they shouldn't need to eat in the middle of the night and others did. I think it depends on the baby. My son has always been a big eater so maybe he is one who will until 9 months or a year. At 9 months they start to eat 3 solid meals a day so maybe by then he will be. Maybe once we do the sleep training he will. I will try giving him less food and if he's waking up more then I know he still needs the night feeding and I'll go back to it. However my goal is if he starts to fall asleep breastfeeding to make sure I put him in his crib while he's still awake. I think at times he used it for comfort and he needs to learn it's for food and not for falling asleep and he needs to learn to sleep on his own. I think he's learning that quickly though.
I want to get him to sleep at least 6-7 hours a night. He has cried a few times but yesterday's nap, early morning feeding and then when I put him to sleep this morning he didn't cry or hardly cried. So I think he's getting the hint. Hopefully soon we won't have any crying at all. It's going a lot better than I expected actually.
David Nicholas 12/5/09Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13
"I need to get some stuff done and can't always have him in the carrier."
Your core muscles must be amazing, that is a lot of weight to constantly carry around!! ;-)