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Thanks girls. I am still pretty pissed and DH knows it. I think he is hurt too but he's still talking to her. He stopped by there last night to pick up something and he said she didn't even bring it up. So typical of his family - they never want to talk about the elephant in the room. I'm not pissed that she can't watch her for us but I'm pissed that she couldn't be honest with us about it. She is always begging us to let her babysit and she didn't understand why 11 hours was going to be too much for her when I first went back to work FT and now that she had the opportunity to watch her for just 5 hours, she's saying it's too much for her.
What kills me is that when I started my PT job, she told me like the first week she watched Selin for us that once DH's sister has her baby in Nov, she wouldn't be able to babysit anymore because she'll be helping my SIL everyday (her inlaws live overseas so my MIL is the only one available to help). She thinks my SIL is going to have a c/s because she is huge (she has been gaining weight steadily throughout her PGcy and gained 12 lbs just in the last 4 weeks) so I know she is going to be at my SILs house everyday at least for the first few weeks, if not longer, waiting on her hand and foot when she can't even babysit for us one day/week. My mom drives up twice/week withou complaint to babysit for us and depending on traffic, it can take her anywhere from 50 min to 2 hours.
We're leaving for our trip tomorrow morning and I am super excited to see my aunt in almost 10 years so I'm trying not to dwell on all this drama but I am surprised that she doesn't even want to see Selin before we leave since it's been over a week since she saw her last. I have to leave for work soon and i'll be super busy tonight packing and such so I wish everyone a great weekend! What are we going to do without write access to iV for a whole weekend?!? :-)
Christine- I would be so mad if that was my MIL. Sometimes I am glad my family and the in laws live out of town although it stinks having to get a sitter when we want to go out.
Anyway I think my DH is finally totally on board TTC #2. Not like he wasn't before but he made the comment over the weekend I should find a new OB/GYN so when we have baby #2 it isn't as far of a drive. My last one is a 45 minute drive from our house as we moved when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant so we ended up going there. I do like her but there is a hospital 10 min from our house and she doesn't have privileges there. So, I am going to find a new doctor. I have an appt at the end of October as I am due for my annual anyway and thought it was a good time to do that. We were lucky that I was induced and the weather was OK--since he was born on Dec 5th. Granted the day we brought him home was the first big snow of the year and it took my DH awhile to come get me (he went home at night so he didn't have to sleep on the hospital couch and to feed and spend time with the dog since we don't have any family to watch him. ) So it wasn't an issue going to the hospital but the second time around I may not be so lucky. I know plenty of women drive far to the hospital but it's crazy to drive up there when there is one so close. So, I am glad that he is finally coming around. I think now that David is growing up is part of it. However we aren't planning on TTC any sooner than him being 2 as our original plan. We may end up waiting a few months longer, and we are def not TTC again in March for sure.
David Nicholas 12/5/09Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13
Cassie L - I just tried to email you through your profile - I got another Similac check in the mail today, do you want me to send it to you? I need your mailing address again.
Sandy - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! You don't look 35 to me! Selin has been on table food for the last month or so. She hated rice cereal and jar baby food and would go nuts whenever DH and I would sit down to eat. We mainly give her fruits, veggies, plain yogurt and chicken. I follow a guide from www.wholesomebabyfood.com. I love not having to puree stuff and bring food along. Whenever we go out to eat, we just give her veggies from our entree or get her some fruit. Makes life very easy! She's still EBF as well so she only eats solids 1-2x's/day at the moment. She doesn't have any teeth yet so she's not really digesting a ton of food but more exploring at the moment.
Jen - Sorry to hear being a SAHM hasn't been all it's cracked up to be. You are absolutely right that it's not for everyone. Also, don't feel guilty if you decide to go back to work sooner. Unless your replacement is under some kind of firm contract with dates, you shouldn't have to worry about putting them out of a job. If they're a temp, they're probably used to it.
AFM - My MIL will no longer be watching Selin for us one day/week. Long story short, it is too much for her but instead of being an adult about it and telling us so, she decided to tell everyone that I brought fleas into her house (I'm a dog walker but I do NOT have fleas!!) and said she can't watch the baby anymore. DH tried to talk to her about it over the weekend but she didn't want to see us. Nice. So now Selin will be going back to one of the sitters we were using when I went back to work FT. Selin and I haven't seen my MIL in over a week and I am so pissed at her I don't know when we'll see her next. I never anticipated that my relationship with my in-laws was going to change for the worse once Selin was born, after knowing them for 8 years with no issues.