Baby/Kid Chat - May

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Baby/Kid Chat - May
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Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:44am

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Fri, 06-03-2011 - 9:58am
Oh, sorry Adrienne, I totally forgot you guys were vegans... That totally changes things! :) In any case, the backup bottle in the freezer is a good idea.

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 4:35pm

"It's hard not to worry when the doctor is making it sound like there's a problem. Logic goes out the window. "

This is soooo true! I think I've vented on here about James' weight before. He's a totally happy toddler, and healthy and everything, but everytime I go to the dr. and he's not back on his curve (and he'll never get back on his original curve I don't think...) I get the mommy guilt feelings all over again. Even though I know he's fine and aside from giving him free reign with junk food, there's really nothing I can do that I'm not to get him to grow faster, or be bigger. So yeah, it's definitely hard not to worry, but you really, really shouldn't worry ;-)

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 12:10pm
It's hard not to worry when the doctor is making it sound like there's a problem. Logic goes out the window.
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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 9:56am
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berry81 wrote:
Many MILs (mine included, probably), would have taken that opportunity to give their grandbaby something besides water (to prove a point, to be in control, etc...).

Yeah--mine would have done this. She convinced her brother to let her keep her neice (now 13) when she was 4 months old and EBF. Overnight. WTH? Anyway, Alyssa woke up in the middle of the night and MIL gave her apple juice. She's really proud of that fact, that she got to give A her first taste of juice. I would have gone ballistic.

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 9:48am
bailarina2005 wrote:
Therapy is a great help in life (I did it for 3 years), and I'm sure you'll get stronger with it's help!
ITA!
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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 8:55am
berry81 wrote:
Many MILs (mine included, probably), would have taken that opportunity to give their grandbaby something besides water (to prove a point, to be in control, etc...).

Yeah--mine would have done this. She convinced her brother to let her keep her neice (now 13) when she was 4 months old and EBF. Overnight. WTH? Anyway, Alyssa woke up in the middle of the night and MIL gave her apple juice. She's really proud of that fact, that she got to give A her first taste of juice. I would have gone ballistic.

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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 8:14am
Adrienne, I'm so glad you are working through all that cr@p in therapy now and that you feel good about your progress! You're very smart to do that - many women would just continue to sweep those feelings under the rug.

About your MIL giving james water -- I know you felt bad because he was hungry, I totally understand that guilty feeling (ugh, the mama guilt!!), but I have to give your MIL props for NOT giving him juice or cow's milk or formula (not that she had any, but still...) or something else, to him. Many MILs (mine included, probably), would have taken that opportunity to give their grandbaby something besides water (to prove a point, to be in control, etc...). Especially knowing that you guys are vegan, I think it was good of her to consider that and not overtly go against your wishes (again, I think many MILs would have loved this opportunity, unfortunately!!). I'm just looking at it in a different way as someone who has heard countless stories of MILs giving teeny tiny babies juice, milk, real food, candy, etc... (ahem, but I, of course, have absolutely no firsthand experience with this) when it is against the parents' wishes. Still, I can see why it was upsetting seeing as that you are trying to fatten little James up. But maybe it was worth it since you got to go to therapy by yourself and really focus?



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Thu, 06-02-2011 - 7:38am
Adrienne, i'm glad things worked out in therapy, I knew you had had a bad situation at work a few years ago, but I had no idea it had been so traumatic. Therapy is a great help in life (I did it for 3 years), and I'm sure you'll get stronger with it's help! As for James' hunger... don't feel so bad! Your MIL *could* have given him some cow's milk diluted in water if he was so hungry, so to me it's a) she isn't very smart, or b) at some level she's trying to make you feel guilty for leaving the baby for so long. In any case, I don't know if you have it in the US, but here they sell a "super pasteurized" baby milk in tetrapaks of aprox. 8oz. You don't even need to keep it in the fridge until you open it. So I always made sure I kept one pack and a spare (cheap) bottle at my mom and MIL's homes (they did/do most of the baby sitting for me). So if by any reason I was late, they had something to feed Fede until I got there. (I don't suggest powdered formula, because it only lasts a few weeks after you open the package and each pack is darn expensive!)

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Wed, 06-01-2011 - 10:51pm
Adrenne, Simon had a banana brush that he loved and used all the time. now that he has all his teeth his brushing is a tough point. unless its my tooth brush. go figure!

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