BTDT - Babies and Pets?

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 8:56pm

Hi again ladies!

If you have pets, how did they react when you brought your LO home? How does your baby interact with your pet(s), if at all?

We have two cats. One is not supper cuddly, and doesn't sleep with us, but she likes to be petted. The other one is basically a momma's boy, and has to be around me all the time. It's fine now, but can see how it might be a problem once the LO arrives. DH is also worried about them (specifically the male) jumping into the crib and trying to snuggle with the baby! LOL

Also, we want to get a puppy eventually. Now that we know we are PG, we'll wait a bit, but I'd really like to get one for next Christmas. We want a larger dog (a husky hopefully). I'm just wondering if anyone has experience with a baby and a puppy in the house?

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 9:29pm

We just have one cat, and she's more towards the less-cuddly end of the spectrum. She was pretty dubious when we brought Patrick home, and then hid in the back hall (where her food/litter are) for the first three weeks. Then she started coming out slowly and only really started being cuddly/friendly again around the six month mark.

The trick we used and seems to have worked wrt the crib was to set it up a month or two ahead of time and then put tin foil in it. Then we left the room open so she could get used to it, but she learned that the crib wasn't a place she wanted to go. She's never gone in it, and definitely not when the baby's in it. Though, she still gives him a pretty wide berth anyway, so I don't know if that actually made the difference...

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 9:56pm

Ahh, good question... I read up on this issue before DS because I know it can be a problem if you're not prepared.

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Mon, 12-07-2009 - 10:32pm

Hey Alyssa - we have two cats, and they sound similar to the temperaments you described in your cats. We have a female who is not *super* cuddly, but can be when she wants to be, and then we have our big softie, our 18 lb lover boy who DEMANDS our attention, our cuddles, our laps, etc... quite frequently. He would also sleep in our bed with us before we brought Eliza home. We were most worried about him and how he would react to the lack of attention and to not being able to be in our room with us at night (Eliza sleeps with us and we obviously don't want the cats near her when we're sleeping). As for our female, we were afraid that Eliza would send her into seclusion. When we brought Eliza home, we took her out of her car seat and I held her near the cats. They were very curious - they both came up and sniffed her. Our female cat ran away, and our male just sauntered off towards DH and was like "hey! you're back! now you may pet me." So really, it didn't phase him one little bit. He's pretty chill with her, which is great. The only thing that really makes him mad is being shut out of our bedroom at night, and he makes sure we know how mad it makes him by rattling the door knob and meowing outside our room each nigh. Poor little (big) guy! Our female cat still doesn't love her, but Eliza's arrival hasn't seemed to upset her daily life at all. She is still aloof as ever, and is still cuddly when she wants to be. Unfortunately, sometimes she wants cuddles when I'm nursing, and I feel bad that I have to turn her away!

So that's our experience - I imagine it is really different for everyone, and I think it depends on your cats' personalities more than anything else (like how you introduce them). HTH!


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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 11:30am

not a BTDT, obviously, but i'm glad you posted this! we have three furballs and want to get a puppy at some point too (we're thinking when baby is about a year old). our furballs have similar temperaments to yours, except that there's two demanding ones (female) and one VERY demanding one (male), lol.

i seem to remember you saying you're delivering at a hospital, right? one thing i wanted to suggest that others have told me is to have your DH bring home a blanket or cap of the baby's while you're still at the hospital with baby, so the kitties can sniff it and have it around, and they'll at least be exposed to baby's smell when you bring baby home, if not used to it. (i don't know how your hospital does it, but mine gives me 48 hours after delivery before they kick me out, lol, so that would be a full day of SOMETHING with the baby...blanket, cap, onesie, whatever...then a full day of that at home with the kitties so they can get used to the smell.)

if you try the foil trick, definitely post how it works for you. i tried putting foil on an upholstered footstool that one of the female kitties decided made a good litterbox when she was having tummy troubles, and it didn't work at all. (in fact, the male cat thought it was great fun. he was biting and shredding it and jumping on it to make it crinkle, lol.)








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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 12:07pm

Hi Alyssa

We've got a dog so I was a little worried about that before I had Teddy. I read up on a few things but with dogs it's hard to "pre-train" them as it's all about smells.
So when we got home with baby we just called Molly and let her smell him. Thankfully (in a way) he scared the hell out of her and she wouldn't come even remotely close to him in the first few weeks! She slowly got used to him, though she still finds him a bit spooky, bless her. Teddy absolutely adores her and will always go up to her and pet her. I think you just have to teach them (babies that is) from very early on how they can touch pets and how they shouldn't be too rough etc.
One word of advice though; I don't want to sound patronising but as you mentioned you'd ideally like to get a husky - you are aware that this is a very high maintenance breed? They need 3-4hours of exercise daily, which is very demanding if you've got a small baby to look after. Personally I would chose a larger breed with a lower level of energy, as they will be likely to be more tolerant and patient with a baby. Again, I didn't mean to be rude or interfering, but I do care a lot about dogs and I think it's important to check if that breed you choose fits into your everyday life.

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 12:13pm
We never had any trouble with our former dog and the babies.

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 12:38pm
I agree with Anna: Make sure the breed fits your lifestyle. A friend of mine has a husky, and she doesn't mix well with her kids at all. Granted, this is one husky out of a million, and they had the dog before having kids. It may be totally different having a child and introducing a puppy to the mix. But definitely be aware of what you're getting into and make sure the breed is known to be child-friendly. :)

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 12:54pm

I had a cat from before I met DH.She was always very needy but got worse when DH moved in.

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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 12:58pm

Thanks to everyone for their thoughts and suggestions so far!

One of our problems is that we won't be moving into a new house until 1-2 months before the baby is born. So, we won't have the furniture/room/etc. set up until then. But, that should give us enough time to try and prepare the cats! LOL

Lorien - I think our female cat will respond similarly to yours. I can see her just hiding out and avoiding the situation. I'll definitely try the tinfoil thing.

Julie - thanks for the tip about dogs. I know having a puppy can be a ton of work. We've been waiting for YEARS to get one (we're in an apartment now, and didn't want the lack of space to be bad for the dog). I think we might have to wait until the baby is older, but it will depend on how much time I get off work, and what DH will do with his work hours too.

Ella - your cats sound very much like ours. We don't plan on having our baby sleep with us, so that will be a little easier (our boy sleeps with us - right by my head - every night). We just don't want them crawling into the crib with the baby at night to cuddle! LOL

To solve that, I think what we'll do when we move into the new house is *immediately* make the baby's room off limits to them by either closing the door or putting tin foil on the floor. We'll also make sure they have their own spot in the house that's off limits to the baby, so they can get away when need be.

Carly - I'm pretty sure we'll be delivering at a hospital, but everything is up in the air right now (I won't find out if I get a M/W until end of Dec./beginning of Jan.). So, I'm not sure about the overnight stay and such. Using the smell is a great idea though!

Anna - you're not the first person to tell us that about Huskies. For some reason everyone feels the need to tell us that :D I guess there are a lot of people who get big dogs without thinking about it? We've put a lot of thought into it, which is why we have waited years to get one, and will only get one once we have a big yard and are settled (including baby). We also want to make sure that the puppy will "fit" into the house with us, a baby, and two cats (hence we need lots of room!). We are also considering getting a German Shepard or a Shepard/Husky cross, as they are less energetic. Luckily one of my good friends trains Huskies (she had 3 at one point), so if we do get one she'll be a great resource.

Melissa - thanks for your comments! It seems that pets just kind of know to get out of the way of the baby :)

Erin - thanks! See my responses to Julie and Anna :)

This has been so incredibly helpful so far. Thanks everyone! I think we'll play it by ear on the dog situation. Like I mentioned above to Julie and Anna, we actually have put a lot of thought into it (we're not just going to get a Husky on a whim! LOL). We really want to make sure that we'll have the time and energy for a puppy. So we'll have to see how things are going with the baby, how the cats are handling the situation (because we don't want to introduce them to a new house, a baby, and a puppy one right after the other and have them go berserk!) and how much time we both have.





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Tue, 12-08-2009 - 1:01pm

Hi Dee - our posts must have crossed. Thank you for your thoughts. I'm sorry that you had to give away your cat - I really hope it doesn't come to that, but you never know I guess.

I hear ya (and everyone else) on the dog thing.

LOL Okay everyone (**waves white flag**), DON'T WORRY! I won't get a puppy!! LOLOL





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