BTDT Moms - Newborn Advice!

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BTDT Moms - Newborn Advice!
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Thu, 07-19-2012 - 3:48pm

What is your best tip for a new mom on staying sane with a newborn?

I wouldn't have survived those early days with a newborn without taking a shower every morning and getting dressed.  Not only did it wake me up to start the day, but it also made me feel a bit more human. 

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Mon, 07-30-2012 - 10:43am
Liz, don't worry, Fede's molars were a non-issue!

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Sun, 07-29-2012 - 2:09pm
thesunshinekid wrote:

Drink TONS of water. I mean TONS. Your skin will clear up faster. Your body will start working better.


Agreed!!!  If you are nursing the BASIC MINIMUM requirement is a GALLON per day (baby drinks 24-30 ozs plus normal 64 oz rec per day).  It is very hard to drink a gallon per day when you are nursing and trying to take care of a new baby, but it makes a world of difference in how you feel/think/operate.  One good tip is to sit down with a big glass when-ever you nurse and try to finish it by the time the baby is done nursing.  A lot of time the letdown reflex will make you thirsty anyway--it is giving you the signal to drink water for a reason!  

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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 7:44pm
Some of the best advice that I have been given is not to move too much until it feels natural. With my first, I really felt like I had to do it all (and I basically did) and I delayed my healing BY MONTHS. The dust and the dirt will wait until you feel better. If you don't have to move to take care of you or the baby - don't.
Drink TONS of water. I mean TONS. Your skin will clear up faster. Your body will start working better.
It's ok to insulate and isolate for a while. You don't have share your baby with the world just because you happened to give birth. If you just want to sit in your living room and stare at your baby, do! They literally change before your eyes.
I agree what many PP have said. Not every stage is awesome. And just remember that it isn't always the same stage with each kid. DS was colicky. DD was a miserable sleeper. Who knows what my newest will pull out!!
There is no perfect way to parent. Just find what works and improve where you can if you feel the need. Like others have said - get your filter ready. Smile and say "I'm so glad that you gave me that advice. I'll keep it in mind for when I need it."

Jules - Happily married and Momma to DS, DD and expecting our Caboose Baby 11/24/2012


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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 4:37pm
I was like ash. David was colicky and he is such a better toddler than he was baby. Hoping #2 is better. Also he was born in December so we had limited options going out. It was so cold and snowy. I was pretty much stuck in the house after his baptism at christmas until march. This one will be better it will be mid to late march.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 11:49am
So far I have liked parenting more and more as Teddy gets older- who knows what I will think when he hits three though LOL.

I just love being able to "do stuff" with him and really interact with him and that just isn't possible with a baby :smileyhappy:
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 9:52am
I get it, Adrienne. We have one canine left too. Then we get 2 year molars at the same time as having a newborn. O.M.G.

I will say that Peter was an easy baby. I just prefer the interaction of an older baby/toddler. :smileyhappy:
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 9:06am
Oh my goodness...I totally love the newborn phase. But that is probably because I had three very easy babies. As long as they were nursed (pretty much all the time!), they were happy.

I also love the 1-2 age. THREE is HARD!
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 12:54am

And yeah, I agree that everyone has different ages/stages that they enjoy and/or DO NOT ENJOY the most and some of it is you and some of it is the unique baby you are blessed with.

For me I LOVED the first few months--I had an easy baby and even though it was tough with the nursing/food allergies at first, he slept often and easy, including a 4-6 hour stretch overnight from the beginning, hardly cried, and was very content to be held, be in his swing, or do anything at all I wanted to do.  I LOVED that age!

Meanwhile he was/is also an AWFUL AWFUL teether--he was/is fussy and in pain almost 24/7 from 6 months until now (nearly 21 months) with occasional breaks of a month or two.  I have to have motrin and tylenol as part of his diet basically, which was very stressful with such a tiny baby especially . . . he would literally spike fevers constantly from teething and it would affect every aspect of his sleep/eating/behavior.  

He was also an early and fast crawler that was immediately into everything in our (at the time) very messsy and cluttered house--all this translated into me ABSOLUTELY HATING the 6-12 month period.  But then things improved (a lot of it due to me finally babyproofing our house, him eating more food and being less dependent on me, starting to walk so that I simply had to hold his hand instead of carry him everywhere) and as he gets older now I'm loving it more and more.  I REALLY love the 18 mos-3 age group but the fact that he is STILL TEETHING affects how much I love it.  But we're one canine away from a break, and then I only have to survive the 2 year old molars and I'm DONE!!!  I will have a party.

So I think a lot of it is the personality of your kid, of you, of your situation/circumstances at the time.  But long story short, it's normal/okay/totally expected that you have overwhelming moments where you need to put the crying baby down and walk away and/or go cry yourself in another room or outside for awhile.  It doesn't make you a bad Mom--it just makes you a normal Mom.  

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 12:37am

One thing that helped a ton after I had James was to have a "baby box" that I kept with me throughout the day.  It had a water bottle, some snacks like granola bars or fruit bars, pacifier, pump, my "milkies", my nipple cream, my lilypadz (the little times I wasn't wearing them) . . . my cell phone, my camera.  Basically anything I would want/need at an arms length while nursing and/or holding the baby when it wasn't convenient to get up.  Anywhere I went with the baby I brought my box and whether I was in bed or on the couch or whatever, everything I needed was right there.  I highly recommend this!!!  Especially when DH goes back to work and/or on the days when you don't have someone basically feeding you and watering you constantly it's almost impossible to eat and drink enough when you are exclusively nursing.  Prepare to be STARVING and PARCHED for most of the day and refill the box with lots of goodies every time the baby naps or gives you a free few minutes!  

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