BTDT-tearing vs. episiotomy

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Registered: 08-24-2005
BTDT-tearing vs. episiotomy
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Tue, 09-20-2011 - 11:11am

I know it's really early, since I'm only 13 weeks, but I have trouble making up my mind, and so I can't even discuss it with my Dr.

I had an epi with Fede and although things are back to normal by now, I really hated it. A stitch opened wich bled a lot, totally freaked me out, and as a result, I had truble going #2 for months. DTD was painful for several months too.

On the other hand, a close friend had a 3rd degree tear with her first (granted it was a 9 p. baby) and from what she tells me, my episiotomy discomfort was a walk in the park compared tot he healing of her tear.

Anyways...

1- Did you tear/had an episiotomy during delivery?

2- (If you tore) How bad was it?

3- (both)Did you heal well?

4-If you didn't suffer either, what do you think was the reason?

5-What would you do next time?

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Registered: 12-30-2007
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 10:02am

1- Did you tear/had an episiotomy during delivery?

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:48pm

Oh gosh... I don't know what to think now!

I've been watching birth videos online, and although the epis (some of them had it done) are ugly, they are not as bad as I thought... and I'm thinking most of my discomfort afterwards must have been undiagnosed hemorroids (internal???).

Specially after reading Brita's comment that DTD probably hurt because of breastfeeding and not because of the epi.

Don't get me wrong. I still HATE the idea of getting cut when there is no need. But I see the point if it is to avoid a 3rd or 4rth tearing.

grrrr.... I hate it when there is no clear answer!!!

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Registered: 02-16-2008
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 3:35pm
Mari--

The issue is that just cutting an epi doesn't stop a tear, and can in fact make it worse. So a 2nd degree cut could turn into a 4th degree cut/tear. Think about a t-shirt. It's hard to tear with your bare hands, but you might could rip a small spot. If you cut a small spot and then pulled, you could rip it much easier. Does that make sense?
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Registered: 08-24-2005
Sun, 09-25-2011 - 11:32am

Well girls, if there is one great thing about this board is that we can be totally honest...

When I started this thread I was sure I would get lot's of evidence to present my "case" to my new Dr. and convince him not to perform an episiotomy, no matter the situation (if he routinely does, I don't know, haven't asked yet).

To be true, after reading all your answers, I discovered three things:

First, that I'm officially a wimp! LOL! No, seriously, there I was complaining about my horrible postpartum, and it seems it was no more or less

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