BTDT - TTC #2

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BTDT - TTC #2
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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 12:44pm

DH and I keep talking about TTC#2....if we do end up moving up our timeline to this summer and I wondering how it works with TTC#2 while still nursing #1. I know that AF will return at some point, but I am up to 7


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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 12:50pm
Hi Jessica! I just wanted to let you know that the ladies over at TTC & Breastfeeding might have some good advice for you: http://forums.ivillage.com/ivillage/?category.id=iv-ppttcbf.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 1:10pm
I didn't start TTCing until Desmond was over 1. I didn't TTC #3 at all, though I was keeping track and miscounted, but realized almost immediately, and Eloise was over 1 as well.

With nursing you could get your period back anytime now. With Desmond I got mine back around 7 months postpartum, with Eloise it was closer to 9 months. That being said, once it came back it was regular and I was able to track, though I have never charted/temped just watched my body to know when I was Oing. I do know some people go 14+ months before getting back AF though, so it may not come back that soon.

I do like waiting a year before TTCing, but part of that is they are a bit older when the newbie arrives. The first 6 months are tough regardless, but I like giving my body a bit of a rest between pregnancies and I prefer a toddler who might listen to a baby who is unlikely to when I have the next one. That being said I do like my 2 year age gap between them, since they are close enough to play together, but old enough to have some different interests and the older one is better at listening at least some what.

I did have a reduction in supply when I was pregnant. Desmond did not wean during my pregnancy with Eloise, and won't have weaned during this one either, except I did gentle parent led weaning because I couldn't deal with 2 nursing and being pregnant. Eloise self-weaned around 22 months. I was hoping she would continue since a nursing toddler is the best engorgement stopping method ever, but she decided she was done. I am guessing she won't have if there had been milk, but since there wasn't she stopped. She was still happily nursing at 18 months though, it was only later when the milk was completely gone she stopped. Some people do not have supply dips when pregnant, but most people do have at least a bit of a dip. You should be able to make it to 18 months nursing if you get pregnant after she is a year old though. If you get pregnant before that you may not. Another note about nursing when pregnant, it is not always comfortable, a lot of the times it felt like nails on a chalkboard when Desmond nursed while I was pregnant. I pushed through it, but a lot of Mom's can't. So if you really want to make sure you make it to 18 months you may not want to start TTCing before that point. If you are okay weaning a bit before that then starting earlier isn't a big deal, since you may not have an issue.



Thank you for the sig Mary

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 1:24pm

Melissa - Thanks I Posted over there as well.

Sarah - Thanks for your experience. I really appreciate it. I figured you would post :) All things I have to think about and talk through. I have a feeling we will be waiting until she is at least a year.I really can't imagine having one sooner than that and I would really love to make it 18 months but my main goal has been a year. She is still nursing like a champ, so I don't want to ruin that for her, or rush her a long you know? I do want to enjoy her baby stage as well.


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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 9:25pm
I found that AF returned at 7.5 months PP--about a month and a half after introducing solids. My cycles were pretty regular, though the first 2 were very short for me and my LP was too short for conception to even occur. I started taking chasteberry/vitex, which evened out my cycle and gave me a longer LP. I didn't want to go back on BC so we used NFP, which helped me learn my cycles. I didn't temp (Evan was a tough sleeper and woke up at different times each morning), but relied on CM, and CP to figure things out (CP--especially its texture was the biggest sign for me that I Oed).

We started TTC this baby during last summer when Evan was 14 months old. He was still nursing 4X per day at that point. I bought some OPKs to check when I was Oing (since CP only told me after I'd Oed). The 1st 2 months of TTC, I had 2 chemical pregnancies in a row. I know every woman is different but I found I couldn't get pregnant again until he was down to 2 feedings. I also started using progesterone cream, so that probably helped as well.

Once I was pregnant, I'm not sure if my supply suffered or not because Evan didn't really nurse less or act like there was less milk. He was only nursing before nap and bedtime anyway, so it wasn't a huge part of his diet. I slowly started to wean him, mostly because I found BFing to be really painful (at least for me it was) once I was PG. I just cut down the amount of time he BFed. and I guess he was developmentally ready to go to sleep on his own, so it wasn't very difficult. He weaned at 19 months, with no problem. I dried up almost immediately after, but that could have been due to the pregnancy or to the fact the he was only BFing for 20 minutes total each day before completely weaning.
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Thu, 03-24-2011 - 10:08pm
Jess - I've been wondering the same things you asked. I'm 13 months PP and still no AF. I'd like to go off BCP and go back to FAM before we actively start TTC but without AF to track, I can't risk getting PG right now due to our insurance. So far I haven't been able to get a straight answer from the FAM board on how to practice FAM while BFing.

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Registered: 02-27-2008
Sat, 03-26-2011 - 8:05am
I am curious about this as well! I'm 16 months PP and still no AF - I'm actually not hoping for her to come b/c we aren't planning on TTC soon, but I'm starting to wonder if she'll ever come back, lol! I didn't know there was a TTC while BFing board...maybe I'll check it out and see if many other women go this long w/o AF? My mom didn't get AF back between me and my brother and she got pg with him when I was 22 months old, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised...

(sorry to highjack your thread, Jess!)

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Sat, 03-26-2011 - 10:22pm
I got AF back right before Barrett's 1st birthday. My first cycle was really long (for me - two months). My second cycle was a bit longer than normal but I think my luteal phase was short (I wasn't really charting, just sort of watching my fertility signs in a half-hearted attempt to wait a few more months to try). And then my third cycle probably would have been down to it's normal, pre-pregnancy length but we got pg.

Barrett was still waking at night (but not nursing) when I got pg. I could get a reliable temp when I had gotten a decent amount of sleep after getting up, so temping is always worth a shot.

Barrett weaned at 19 months. He was losing interest and nursing between 0-3 times a day, and after he skipped a couple days of nursing my supply seemed to completely disappear. At that point I think he tried to nurse twice and was so disappointed with the lack of milk that he lost all interest.

Nursing him was hard in the first trimester but once we got into the second trimester it didn't bother me so much.
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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 11:01am
Ella and Christine- I'm with you... Still no signs of AF!!! But now I'm really worried, it's been almost a month since I stopped BF and I think she should be back... I *think* I saw signs of ovulation the 10th and 11th of this month, so that means I should get AF this weekend... Again, no signs whatsoever... The only times we had unprotected sex was during the vacation, more than a month ago, and I POAS about a week ago, and it was negative... What the heck is going on???

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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 6:15pm
We've done Natural Family Planning for our whole marriage (except the first three months). We'll celebrate 10 years this summer!! With the birth of each child and during each breastfeeding experience, I had to sort of learn the "new normal" for my body. So things like CM and CP were vastly different after Fletcher was born and then again after Jonah was born. I've never been very consistent about body temp. Mostly because we didn't wean between babies and we won't this time either (unless Jonah has other ideas in the next 14 weeks), and I was/am up at night several times. I think I wrote in another thread that some women see a solid temp pattern even without consistent sleep, but I wasn't so lucky.

Anyway...it wouldn't hurt to start temping to get a sense of what is normal for you. As soon as we were interested in sex post partum, I started charting CM. AF returned when Fletcher was 9 months old, and AF returned when Jonah was 15 months old. My cycles were very long for quite awhile, but I was able to reliably pin point O with only CM and CP. We got pregnant with Jonah and #3 using these signs only.

Good luck!
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Thu, 03-31-2011 - 1:17pm

Thanks ladies. DH and I talked more about it since I posted and we are going to probably go off the BC in August and not try super hard and just see how things go...it will be nice to not have to worry about BC again...


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