BTDT- Weaning

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BTDT- Weaning
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 9:48am
So, I feel the time has come for me to wean Fede. (The main reason is that he STILL wants to BF at night, and I reeeeally want to get mi nights back!!) Any advice to make this transition easier???

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 9:07pm

Mari, most things I have heard about weaning is that it is easier on the Mom and Baby if it happens gradually.

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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 10:20pm

My first question is are you looking to night wean or to wean completely?

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 4:59pm
At 9 months I night weaned. Multiple people including our doctor told me he didn't need anything at night anymore since he was eating well during the day and at 9 months I finally felt comfortable letting the midnight feeding go.

I think it only took 1 or 2 days for him to stop waking up in the middle of the night. When he did wake I just went in, rocked him a little bit, and then laid him back down.

I still nurse in the morning when he wakes, and once or twice during the day, but that is because I don't want to give it up completely. At least not yet:)
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Registered: 01-08-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 8:39pm

I guess I am kind of lucky I never had to worry about weaning since my son decided to wean himself. He didn't want to breastfeed anymore and I couldn't pump more than 1 oz so I decided it was time to quit. However, I think you got some great advice from the other ladies. Good luck in your decision.

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Registered: 03-19-2007
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 7:53pm

For night weaning I cut back on how long Barrett was nursing when I nursed him at night (cutting back a minute every few days). Then DH would go in if it had been less than a good 3-4 hours since the last time he nursed (he would nurse 1-2x a night at this point). And finally I went away for a weekend, and Barrett completely night weaned! He stayed with my ILs the first night, and when he woke up they just cuddled with him in bed, and then next two nights DH just comforted him. After that weekend it worked to send DH in if he woke in the middle of the night. We did this at 14 months, and it worked well and helped Barrett sleep better at night (not always through the night, but better). And there were actually a couple times when he was sick after he night weaned when I did nurse him at night, but he never regressed to wanting to nurse regularly at night. Barrett was night weaned for 5 months before he was completely weaned.

As for completely weaning, getting pg worked out great for me!

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 9:32pm
I have no advice just wanted to wish you luck and hope it goes smoothly! Some days I cant imagine quitting and other days it feels like I'm on a countdown...bittersweet for sure. Hugs to Mama and Fede!!

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 1:09pm
Thanks girls for all the replies.I think you deserve a better explanation of our situation. At first, reading some of the posts, I agreed with those of you who suggested only night-weaning. I truly love to BF Fede, and it only bothers me at night. BUT............. I still didn't get my periods back, my OB told me that some moms don't get them back until they totally wean, and since we want to start TTC in Feb-March, I suppose I will have to wean him. During the day, Fede gets only 3 nursing sessions. His morning feed (when he wakes up), another one for his big nap (around 14:00) and the last one before he goes to bed at night. During the nights... (sigh!) that's hard to answer. He sleeps in his own room now. I go to bed to my room with DH. At some point during the night he wakes up, calls me. I go to his bed and nurse him.... The HUGE problem is that I always fall asleep there. In fact, most of the times I can't recall going to his bedroom at all, it's like I sleep walk or something!!!! I'm so tired of waking up in his bed all cramped up, besides, if he has unlimited access to the breast all night, it will be extremely hard to diminish my supply. And also, since I don't realize getting up and going to his bedroom at nights, I'm not sure I'll be able to use the techniques suggested to night wean a child (shortening sessions, specially). So those are the 2 main reasons for completely weaning him.

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Mon, 01-31-2011 - 10:19pm

No advice for you, I just have to say I am totally with you on the sleepwalking thing!! Sometimes the next morning I have absolutely no memory of going into Avery's room and getting her from her crib. In the early days when I was getting up every two hours or so, I'd always remember. Now it's like I get just enough sleep to fall into a really deep sleep coma and not even remember waking up at all. Ha! (Good luck with the weaning, btw! :)

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 8:12am

I think it is fine to completely wean now! I am always in awe of all you mamas still waking up multiple times in the night to nurse. When Teddy wakes up once or twice in the night due to illness or teething I feel a bit sleep deprived and crazy in the morning, and I am not even nursing him just rocking him a few seconds and putting him back down!!

I would just have DH go in when he wakes up at night, and during the day maybe offer him a bottle/cup of milk for his morning and night feed and just completely drop milk after the big nap and wait until his first snack or meal afterward to give him milk or water, unless he is thirsty.

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 1:12pm

Mari, considering how infrequently you are BFing during the day, I wouldn't be surprised if AF returned just from nightweaning.

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