BTDTs: traveling with baby

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BTDTs: traveling with baby
Fri, 04-06-2012 - 7:40pm

Hey mommas!


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Fri, 04-06-2012 - 9:05pm
We made a trip from one side of Nebraska to the other when DD was a few weeks old. I made a solo trip when she was a month from Nebraska to Texas (650 miles). You'll know so much more about Anu's nursing habits after the first month - but driving is totally doable. I think you can even manage the one night stop as opposed to two nights if you get an early enough start. We made a plan and stopped only when we needed to feed or change the baby. Each stop was only long enough to take care of business. I think we averaged a stop every 2.5-3.5 hours, but my girl was only about five weeks old on her second long car trip! It was nice to drive because we could take EVERYTHING we thought we might even possibly maybe should sort of need. It's tiring, but it's doable! You're likely to be tired regardless! Make sure you have a day or two for when you get home to get caught up and a little bit of rest.

Jules - Happily married and Momma to DS, DD and expecting our Caboose Baby 11/24/2012

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Fri, 04-06-2012 - 10:18pm

Hi Ruthie!

Great question. Oh and if you look back through the baby section, you will find a few more posts regarding traveling with baby. ;-)

We did a 17 hour road trip to Canada to visit my family when Selin was about 3 months old. Overall it went well. To give you some perspective, it used to take just DH & I about 12-13 hours to get there but with Selin along we did have to stop more frequently. I have done the "nurse over the car seat" thing before but my state just passed back seat seatbelt laws this year so I don't think I'll be doing that with the next baby. I remember I brought along a pumped bottle of milk to give her at her first feeding to buy us some time and had a bottle warmer/car charger thing that I borrow from a friend but Selin wanted nothing to do with the bottle.

Some tips for driving:

Try to start your drive at night when baby is already asleep/sleepy, but make sure you and DH are well rested. Last summer when we were driving home from Canada, we made the mistake of hitting the road at Selin's bedtime, thinking she would fall asleep in the car and one of us could also sleep while the other drove. WRONG! She woke every hour and neither of us got much sleep. We ended up pulling into a rest area in the morning and catching an hour or two of sleep parked there. We will never hit the road with no sleep again. Going to Canada, I think we left our house around midnight and she slept until the sun came up so we got a good (quiet) start on our drive. Keep everything you need in the car with you, not in the trunk, so that if there's a diaper blowout, etc., you have everything in arms reach. Bring lots of snacks for yourself too!

Our first flight with Selin was when she was about 7 months old. We again were traveling to Canada and had a layover on the way there. I think we left in the morning so she slept most of the way there. I am still nursing so that was a great tool to have at takeoff to help with the pressure in the ears and get her to nap quickly. I usually got her situated to nurse as we were taxiing for takeoff.

We have done the long distance drive with her twice now, I have flown with her twice by myself (with layovers both times), flown once domestically with her and DH, and all three of us flew to Turkey last summer (10-12 hour non-stop flight) and every trip was never as bad as I fear it will be. We travel a lot so I now keep a packing list on my phone so I don't forget anything. I think the younger they are, the easier it is to travel because they are so portable and just want to eat and sleep! When they become toddlers, it becomes much more challenging to keep them entertained.

Again, comb the past threads for more tips on traveling with baby. I know Sarah and Ash have both written a great deal about this topic.

GL! ;-)

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 6:32am

With a baby that age I would drive. It is nice to be able to bring everything you think you might need- especially as first time parents, and to not worry about bothering someone if the baby is fussy. Plus you can sing loudly, turn up the music, open windows, etc to help distract/drown out LOL the baby.

By 2 months nursing will also be going quickly for the most part and a stop every 3-4 hours for 15 minutes is healthy anyway:)

I've flown way too much with Teddy (seriously no kid his age should be such a world traveler LOL) and even though we always get through it, etc I still hate it with a passion and would rather do almost anything then fly with him- and he is a pretty decent traveler (no problems with ears, gets whiny but is never the kid just screaming or crying hysterically for an hour, is charming with the other passengers, etc). However he also really likes riding in the car so of course that plays a role as well.

Either way you should know that whatever you decide to do, with you and Bijon and a 2 month old, it will really go fine!!! Traveling with a child of any age really isn't bad if you are prepared, try not to get stressed out, and have company:)

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 7:45am
I think at that age it is easier than an older child.. We drove to Ohio for David's baptism and he was only 3 wks and went great. On the other hand we drove to florida when he was 15 months and not sure how we did it. Next trip to see my in laws in Florida we are flying.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 9:30am
I would honestly wait and see, every kid is different. Driving is nice since you can take everything with you and not have to worry about a carseat, things getting lost, etc... but at the same time at that age Teddy was still nursing for 45 minutes or better at a time, and if you have a nurser like that it could add a lot of time to your trip.

Is it possible if you and the baby fly out, and DH takes the car and meets you there?
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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 2:37pm
I've done 20 hour road trips when my boys were infants, and it's very doable. I think it's easier at that age then when they are toddlers! You'll have to make some more stops, but you'll have all of your stuff and won't have to deal with airline schedules.

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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 6:50pm

Honestly, in my experience, traveling with a young baby is far easier than traveling with a baby a few months old... not to mention a toddler!!!
Since they sleep most of the times anyways, it's not so hard for them to sleep most of the trip... Unless you are unfortunate and have one of those babies who hate car seats!! I would make sure to make nursing stops every 2 hours or so, and so besides feeding the baby, you can help by changing positions or giving a little massage.

I'm faced with a similar dilemma... A cousin's wedding next october. Except than in my case Julia will be 6 months and Fede almost 3 yo... I still don't know what we are going to do!


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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 2:23pm
I would wait and see. Both of my kids hated the car with a passion until they were over 8 months old (Anna is still not a fan, but tolerates it way better than she used to). I flew with my son at 2 months and it was a breeze. The hardest part was getting through security (I was by myself and had the stroller and infant seat with me to gate check)--but the plane noise helped him sleep. But every baby is different...
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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 7:56am
Oh that's a good point Mari... I had one of those babies that hated (still does) his carseat and traveling... I think that might have shaded my answer as well.
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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 9:27am
Every baby is so different. Charlotte absolutely hated the car/carseat until she was about 5 months old. She screamed non-stop no matter what we did. Then rather suddenly she stopped hating the seat...just in time for our drive from Florida to Pennsylvania for Christmas. That trip went very well.

On the flip side, Charlotte flew from PA to FL at 4 weeks old with absolutely no trouble, and she flew from FL to PA and back again when she was 8 months with no trouble.

When Charlotte was very small, she nursed every hour and each feeding lasted at least 45 minutes. At that rate, any drive was a Looooonnnnggg haul. That's why she, my mom, and I flew to Florida while the rest of the family drove down.