Child Spacing Questionnaire

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Child Spacing Questionnaire
Wed, 12-08-2010 - 7:15am

So, I was doing a quick internet search to what the "ideal" spacing is between children.

-Suzie :)




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Registered: 02-21-2008
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 9:29am

Has anyone's doctor gave a recommendation for when your body should be ready for another pregnancy? I haven't seen my OB in over a year now bc of being under the care of the RE, but I would think at least 12 months...

What were your family plans before pregnancy?

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 12:07pm
Interesting thing about sibling spacing... In my family it's me, 30; my sister A, 28; my brother E, 27 and my sister S, 22. I agree with Adrienne that it's a mix between spacing and personality. I'm very close in age to my sister, we are close, but not "super close". I'm more outgoing, and she's more reserved. While in our twenties, we shared the same group of friends, and I often would feel judged by her (if I drank too much, or kissed a guy); while she confessed she felt a little like the ugly duckling next to me. We never discussed our "boy problems" during high school, or any intimate issue until we we grown up. Personality is very important. With my younger sister, she was always the baby, only recently we are bonding at a woman-woman level. So spacing does count too. I also think that if you are the opposite sex, even if you are close in age, there will be times when you won't share much. (Like when a girl hits her tweens and a boy is still pretty much a child at that age)


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Registered: 01-17-2007
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 12:43pm

I think personality does have a lot more to do with whether your kids will be friends than spacing, at least in my experience. My middle sister, Grace, and I are 2 years apart and we fought like cats and dogs the whole time we were growing up. We had no common interests at all and had trouble playing anything together. We get along great now, but we were never close as children.

My youngest sister, Adrienne, is 8 years younger than me and 6 years younger than Grace. From the beginning, she was like my baby. I wanted to take her everywhere and play with her all the time. She and I had a lot more in common than Grace and I did despite the vast age difference. She and Grace also fought like cats and dogs. Poor Grace, haha.

All three of us get along pretty well now, though there is still occasionally some friction between Grace and Adrienne. I really do think it depends on the kids.