Child Spacing Questionnaire

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Child Spacing Questionnaire
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Wed, 12-08-2010 - 7:15am

So, I was doing a quick internet search to what the "ideal" spacing is between children.

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 12:43pm

I think personality does have a lot more to do with whether your kids will be friends than spacing, at least in my experience. My middle sister, Grace, and I are 2 years apart and we fought like cats and dogs the whole time we were growing up. We had no common interests at all and had trouble playing anything together. We get along great now, but we were never close as children.

My youngest sister, Adrienne, is 8 years younger than me and 6 years younger than Grace. From the beginning, she was like my baby. I wanted to take her everywhere and play with her all the time. She and I had a lot more in common than Grace and I did despite the vast age difference. She and Grace also fought like cats and dogs. Poor Grace, haha.

All three of us get along pretty well now, though there is still occasionally some friction between Grace and Adrienne. I really do think it depends on the kids.

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Registered: 08-24-2005
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 12:07pm
Interesting thing about sibling spacing... In my family it's me, 30; my sister A, 28; my brother E, 27 and my sister S, 22. I agree with Adrienne that it's a mix between spacing and personality. I'm very close in age to my sister, we are close, but not "super close". I'm more outgoing, and she's more reserved. While in our twenties, we shared the same group of friends, and I often would feel judged by her (if I drank too much, or kissed a guy); while she confessed she felt a little like the ugly duckling next to me. We never discussed our "boy problems" during high school, or any intimate issue until we we grown up. Personality is very important. With my younger sister, she was always the baby, only recently we are bonding at a woman-woman level. So spacing does count too. I also think that if you are the opposite sex, even if you are close in age, there will be times when you won't share much. (Like when a girl hits her tweens and a boy is still pretty much a child at that age)

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Registered: 02-21-2008
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 9:29am

Has anyone's doctor gave a recommendation for when your body should be ready for another pregnancy? I haven't seen my OB in over a year now bc of being under the care of the RE, but I would think at least 12 months...

What were your family plans before pregnancy?

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 6:54am

I hope you'll get it sorted soon! :) It will be nice for you to have a date that you can look forward to.

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 6:29am
Hi Anna,

Thanks for checking on me. :-) We're still trying to get the correct quote info from our agent - he keeps sending me incomplete info - so we haven't been able to make a decision yet. Frustrating!!

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Registered: 04-13-2008
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 6:22am

Christine, have you decided on your insurance dilemma yet then? Was there not an option to pay more and add maternity cover on or something?

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 6:20pm

It's great to read everyone's responses. :-)

Has anyone's doctor gave a recommendation for when your body should be ready for another pregnancy? My MW didn't really give me a recommendation, she was just more worried about me getting PG again right away when I went for my 6 week checkup, at which time she suggested the minipill. I am lucky that AF still has NOT returned (going on 10 months now - hopefully I didn't just jinx myself!) Selin is STTN for the most part but she still nurses a lot throughout the day, not sure if that has anything to do with it. I'm trying to figure out how I can go off BC and use FAM when we'll be TTC #2 if AF hasn't returned by then. There are a few women in my LLL group who went over 20 months with no AF!

What were your family plans before pregnancy?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Thu, 12-09-2010 - 3:34pm
I also got AF back 3 months PP but Maxim had night weaned himself by that point so I knew it was a matter of time. Now he`s back to nursing once in the night, dangit (for still having AF, not that he`s night nursing)

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Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:18pm

Ella- In response to what Adrienne said, I was one of the unlucky ones. I was breastfeeding and got my first AF in April. I figured I would go awhile without having to worry about her showing her ugly face, but no such luck. Not sure if it had to do with it, I went on the mini pill. My OB said you can still get pregnant while BF even though it is rare it does happen and I didn't want to take any chances so I went on the mini pill to make sure that it didn't.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Thu, 12-09-2010 - 2:10pm

Has anyone's doctor gave a recommendation for when your body should be ready for another pregnancy?

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