is this common?

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Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:10pm

Logan will not let me sit down to rock him to sleep. I have to stand up and moving for him to fall asleep or even to stop crying. Are any of your babies like this? We have a wonderful, very comfy rocker that I use to nursery but to try to get him to sleep - it's not even an option. He is getting better about me being able to put him down in his crib almost asleep and fall asleep on his own or he whimpers for a few minutes and then doses off but sometimes I would like to use the rocker instead of having to stand. Is Logan the only one like this? And he knows if I sit down :)

Next thing is when Logan wakes up from a nap he is so upset. I think a lot of times he is still tired and sometimes I can get him to fall back asleep but usually not. So then I try nursing him, you know the whole sleep, eat, play routine, well then while I am nursing he pretty much is sleeping. He is sucking some but I feel like he isn't getting any milk. This sometimes continues for an hour or more. I know I shouldn't do that but I can't get him to wake up or eat faster. He is such a slow nurser anyways, somedays I feel like he is on my boob all day! Any suggestions on how to make him nurse faster? Is this common for younger babies and eventually it gets better? And do your babies wake up upset? Don't get me wrong he does have his play time and isn't really nursing all day. I have noticed that the night time feeding is getting shorter, so that's something.

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In reply to: tngirl_83
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 4:47pm
I have no advice on the BFing because Elena never did it, but I totally remember the days when she refused to be rocked in the rocking chair! And like you said, she knew when I sat down. I don't know how many evenings I spent pacing back and forth in the living room with her when she was being fussy. She used to wake up from naps cranky a lot too in the earlier months, and still occasionally now. I think it's somewhat normal - my bf's 3.5 yo twins often wake up from their naps cranky!
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Registered: 02-27-2008
In reply to: tngirl_83
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 5:04pm

Hi Ashley - it's good to hear from you! It sounds like Logan is a VERY normal baby - loooves the boob :) Eliza was (and still is, to some degree) the same way in terms of nursing at the boob for quite a while before and after falling asleep. Logan is still so little, that's probably just what he needs right now; try not to feel bad giving it to him! I used to find it really hard when people/books would advise what you "should" and "shouldn't" do in terms of sleeping/nursing/*everything*... but I think what helped me was to just not worry about what they say, and do WHATEVER WORKS!

About the rocking: Eliza is the EXACT same way! I've never heard of any other babies who hate rocking, but Eliza does too. She didn't mind it before about 5 months old, but now she doesn't like it anymore. She totally knows when I sit down in the rocker to rock her to sleep, and she hates it. She prefers a standing and bouncing motion, which is hard on the knees :/ DH is really good at getting her to sleep quickly by bouncing her, but I usually just resort to nursing her to sleep instead. ;)


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Registered: 03-19-2007
In reply to: tngirl_83
Thu, 05-20-2010 - 8:50pm

Barrett still doesn't like me rocking him to sleep but he lets just about everyone else. I kind of thought it happened as he got bigger, he couldn't get comfy with me sitting since I'm a shorty (or maybe he just likes me walking). He's gotten better about letting me rock but he falls asleep faster if I'm standing!

If you are trying to get Logan to fall back asleep by nursing him, maybe try gently removing him (without moving him) when his nursing really slows. If you are trying to get a good meal in to him, maybe do a few activities (diaper change, room change, etc) before trying to nurse him. By about 6 weeks Barrett would take less than 10 minutes to nurse during the daytime, but could nurse for 30+ minutes when falling asleep!

Logan sounds like he is doing great! Keep up the good work!

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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: tngirl_83
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 9:22am
Thanks Kelly! I remember when I worked at the daycare the babies loved being rocked and would fall asleep while rocking. I didn't know any other babies that didn't like being rocked. I am definitely getting a thigh workout from the bouncing :) I am glad to hear that maybe he will out grow being cranky when he wakes up from a nap.

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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: tngirl_83
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 9:34am

Hi Ella! I have been a daily lurker just can't ever get to posting. Hopefully now that I am out of school I will have more time.

Oh yes, he does love the boob! Which I am so glad especially since he doesn't mind taking a bottle either. I guess since finishing school I have had the two full weeks with him that I haven't had since he was 3weeks old and didn't realize how much I would be nursing. On the weekends while I was in school I didn't really notice it. I don't mind it at all I just didn't realize how much time I would spend nursing. Of course, like you said, everything I read is telling me something different and what not to do.

I also just always thought babies liked to be rocked. I was a little sad that he wouldn't let me sit down and cuddle and rock him to sleep. Logan too likes the bouncing and swaying motion. It is very hard on the knees but I guess I am getting a good thigh workout.

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Registered: 10-09-2006
In reply to: tngirl_83
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 9:40am

Thanks Brita for the response! I am glad to know that Logan is not the only baby that doesn't liked to be rocked.

I will try getting him more awake after a nap before feeding him. He usually wakes up so upset I just want to start nursing to calm him down, but I do think that is why he falls back to sleep and nurses for so long. 10 mins would be wonderful...maybe one day :)

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Registered: 10-11-2005
In reply to: tngirl_83
Fri, 05-21-2010 - 11:26am

Ashley I still nurse Eloise to sleep and I nursed Desmond to sleep till he was 15 months old or so for bed and 2 1/2 for naps. He goes to bed fine now without nursing.

That being said, a great tool for babies that like to be bounced instead of rocked is an exercise ball. I needed one with Eloise till she was around 5 or 6 months old and still sometimes use it. She likes to be worn in a carrier and bounced when she is going to take a nap/go to sleep for the night. A ball was nice since I could sit on it with her and bounce without wearing out my legs too much. They are fairly inexpensive and available everywhere. I also use mine as a desk chair half the time.












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Registered: 05-24-2007
In reply to: tngirl_83
Sat, 05-22-2010 - 5:07pm
No advice on the BF issue, but popping in to say you are so not alone on the rocking issue! I have to hold and bounce/sway Ethan to get him to stop crying, calm down, and go to sleep. If he's really worked up, I can't just gently bounce, I have to do full squats, going up and down quickly. Of course then my thighs burn! :D I can only sit down to rock him once he's pretty much asleep, which is silly to do because once he's asleep, I just put him in the crib. I really only sit in the nice glider we have to feed him.
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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: tngirl_83
Wed, 05-26-2010 - 11:37pm

Ashley,


Selin is the same way and has been since day 1. She RARELY lets us rock her to sleep sitting down unless she is super tired. Sometimes she'll let me burp her over my shoulder while I'm sitting but most of the time I have to either rock her standing up if I'm trying to get her to sleep (unless she falls asleep while nursing then I just move her to her bed after a few minutes).


She can pretty much go down for a nap fully awake but nighttime is still a work in progress. I keep trying to put her down earlier and earlier in hopes that one day, I can put her to bed fully awake.


As for waking up from naps upset, Selin does that every once in awhile (I wonder if they've had a bad dream?) but most of the time she just starts talking, well, cooing. :-)


If Selin falls asleep while nursing, if she doesn't pop off herself, then I take her off after her sucking has slowed down to once every few minutes or so. The longest she will nurse is 30 min. but most of the time it is 5-10 min. Some babies have to be stripped naked and held in an upright position (for the "dolls eye" reflex to work).


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In reply to: tngirl_83
Fri, 05-28-2010 - 5:46pm

You may want to try an exercise ball to sit and bounce him on. He's moving and your legs get a rest. And of course marketing people make a fancy looking baby one:
http://www.amazon.com/Luna-Lullaby-Bounce-Bye-Around/dp/B000UZVKPY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=baby-products&qid=1275082961&sr=1-1-spell

Gideon was one that woke up upset from naps and in the morning. I know he was over a year old before he would wake up happy. Z seems to be the same way already.

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