Cosleeping Questions

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Cosleeping Questions
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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 4:33pm

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 4:49pm

For naps, Amos Jr. takes a nap with one of us on the couch, in the recliner, or in the bed.


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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 5:10pm
Depends on which child and when as to what I did for your various questions. With Desmond, I just had him in the bed once he outgrew the in bed co-sleeper. We just kept him up till we went to bed and he went to bed with us, so he wasn't going down till around 11pm or midnight. It worked fine for us and him since I could then sleep in till 9 or 10am and so could he without any issues.

For naps I would just lie down with him and either nap, use the laptop or read, it was a nice way to get a small break and relax during the day. By 10 months or so I was willing to leave him in bed in the mornings after I got up and just get him when he woke up, I used a baby monitor and he was good getting off the bed by himself.

DH, Desmond and I all slept in the same bed, until he was around 15/16 months old when he tended to sleep with DH and I slept solo because I was pregnant with Eloise and DH snores. Our co-sleeping has evolved frequently actually, it was different at 4 months and changed again by 10 months and then by 15ish months, and now at 4 it is very different then it was as a newborn.

I did swaddle both Desmond and Eloise for night time until they started breaking the swaddle somewhere between 3 and 6 months depending on which child we are talking about.

Co-sleeping with Eloise was a bit different then with Desmond since there was the whole Desmond was there thing. DH would normally sleep with Desmond, and I had Eloise in the in bed co-sleeper till she outgrew it around 5 or 6 months when she just started sleeping in the bed. I still went to bed with her, but some nights she went to bed earlier then 11 or 12, and some nights DH just put her up on his back and she slept on his back till he went to bed, so she was normally going down between 9pm and 11pm rather then the later bed time of Desmond.

For naps I would lie with both Desmond and Eloise in bed until they both fell asleep. Once Desmond stopped napping I just wore Eloise on my back for naps, because it was easiest, she gave up naps around 18 months though, very early.


Really co-sleeping evolved based on my needs and baby's needs at that time.



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Registered: 12-04-2007
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 5:34pm

I think a lot of this depends on your particular kid and the kind of sleeper they are, etc. We have an arms reach co sleeper (the full sized one)

With James- James was really good at falling asleep alone, so he mostly slept in how co-sleeper for naps, and at bedtime I would lay in the bed next to him until he fell asleep. Then when he woke up to nurse, I would bring him into the bed, nurse him, and put him back into the cosleeper once he was really asleep. Once James was too big for the cosleeper (he was starting to pull up on things, I think like 6ish months, but it could have been later) I kept him next to our bed but lowered the cosleeper to the play-yard setting (like a pack-n-play), and he would sleep there for naps and in between nursing at night time.

With David- David does not like to sleep by himself. For naps I am sometime able to get him to go down (usually for a short morning nap) in his cosleeper, so we do that. For afternoon nap (during James' nap) I usually lay down with him until he's really out, sometimes for the whole nap (usually on the bed, then I leave him there, I leave him on the side of the bed by the cosleeper so if he were to roll over, he would roll into the cosleeper which is only about a 4 inch drop). He'll also often take a nap in the sling, and every now and then in the swing. At bedtime I try to get him to go to sleep in the cosleeper, this works usually a couple times a week. If he won't go to sleep in there, I just let him stay up until I go to bed, and then he just sleeps with me. (usually falls asleep nursing) Either way, he usually sleeps inthe bed with me and DH from his first wake up time till morning.

David really can't be transferred and does not like to sleep alone, which is pretty different from James, so it kind of just depends on the kid. Most days David takes at least one nap in a sling/moby/mei tei, so if you're having napping troubles you might try doing that. Also for David, white noise really helps him if I'm trying to get him to sleep alone. If I put him down with some white noise playing pretty loud, when he's already sleepy, he'll a lot of times go to sleep, but without the white noise, he's never done it, also if the white noise get's turned off, he'll always wake up.

With James I swadled him until about 4 months, with David, he hated it, so I tried a number of times in the first few months, but I've decided it's not worth it, and have given up on it at this point.

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 5:37pm
Oh, one other thing, have you ever seen a side-car crib? I have some friends that did that and they really liked it. It will last longer than the sidecar co-sleeper, and you can still have them right there. If I had the room, I would probably do something like that. I think most convertible cribs can used as a side-car.
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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:07pm

I'll have to look into the sidecar crib, Grace.

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:37pm
Yeah, James has a crib that converts to a toddler bed (basically all that means is that one side of the crib can be removed) and it would work to sidecar, assuming one of the height settings works with your bed.

David sleeps in bed with us, but he's always in the crook of my arm, and I keep the blankets down below my arms. I know that sort of co-sleeping isn't for everyone, but it works for us...
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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:49pm

I agree that it really does depend on the kid.

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 8:03pm

For naps, Peter sleeps in the swing at daycare, and on me at home. He's actually asleep right now, and has been for around 30 minutes now.

At night, I lay him on his belly on our bed for about an hour while I straighten up. When DH and I go to bed around 9:30, I change him into a night diaper and nurse him back down. He lays on top of me and stays latched on, waking me when he's ready to change sides. Some nights, I can get him to lay next to me for a bit as long as we're in each other's faces.

Since he's on top of me, I (TMI) sleep shirtless and just keep the blanket down low. Since we're in a full-sized bed, this way works. We're shopping for a bigger bed now, so that I can work on transferring him to next to me, and then we'll worry about getting him out of the bed later.

This has been our arrangement since the beginning. The original plan was to have him in the cradle next to our bed, and then the crib in our room. But when breastfeeding turned into such a challenge, I needed to have him close some other way. I find that I don't move at all at night anymore. It kills my back, but it's what Peter needs right now, for sure.Photobucket

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 9:37pm

So interesting to hear other mama's responses!

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Eliza now sleeps in her crib for her nap - I nurse her to sleep and then put her in her crib.

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 10:26pm

With Kaeden, I started out with a bassinett next to the bed. Co-sleeping actually happened by accident. He would wake up for a night feeding and I will give him a bottle and fall asleep before I could put him back in the bassinett. I have almost always slept with him in the crook of my arm, or on my chest. Naps started in my arms, and either ended in his crib, or in my arms, depending on what I needed to get done. The sitter actually got him down for naps in the playpen without holding him or anything. She just lays him down and he falls asleep. This is more than I still can get done. On the weekends now, one of the older boys or DH will get him to sleep on their chest. Now, we are actually pretty well weaned from the co-sleeping. Every night, Daddy and Kaeden go to bed together, and I wait around half an hour for him to fall asleep before I come in and put him in his crib, where he usually spends the rest of the night. Last night, he woke up around 3AM for a cup and spent the rest of the night in bed with us. He has always slept between us in the bed. I think our co-sleeping was less organized. I just went with what worked for me and baby.

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