Daycare questions

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Daycare questions
Tue, 09-20-2011 - 1:57pm

So, I've been planning for a while to send Fede to day care. In fact, it's more a "pre-school" or "kindergarden" if you like. My idea is to send him two or three days a week for 3 hours each time. That would give me some much needed time to run errands, and work when I have a project going on. Also, if I get lucky and get a teaching job, I'd like to have the freedom to take it without worrying about having to find a place in a hurry.

But the main reasons are that I'd like Fede to become more social (he is super clingy to me and DH) and to learn to share and play and entertain himself a little more, before the baby comes next march.

After some research in the area, I think I found the place.


  • -The staff is super friendly, and also flexible with the parents' schedule. I can bring him as many times a week as I want, and for as many hours as I need.
  • -The price is reasonable.
  • -They accept kids in diapers.
  • -They have all the cute "kiddy" activities, like gym, music, book reading, and even a cooking class.


  • -The building is actually an old house, all they've done is paint some art in the walls and stick posters here and there
  • -The toys and furniture is also old and worn. Same with the playground... it has a grass patch and plants, but barely any equipment.
  • -They close in early december and start in early february (christmas/summer break)

I can ignore the "old and worn" part of it. I suppose when you have so many kids and toddlers using the place, you would need to charge a lot to keep replacing everything.

What I'm really thinking is if it is reasonable to start now, given that we will have a big break right in the middle of it. Two months is a lot in a toddler's life, and maybe he will forget all about it and then we will have to do it all over. If I wait until next year, do you think a month and a half (between early feb and my due date in mid march) is enought time for a kid to adapt?? I don't want him to go through the change of starting pre-school and getting a sibling all at once.

(Also... how do you get over the ridiculous fears that they will kidnap your child or abuse him in some way???)


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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 3:29pm
That sounds like a good daycare, if you can get past the old part. I like that they are reasonable and flexible with how much he is there. That is a long break in the winter though, I think it might be tough on him.

One way to feel comfortable with them would be to talk to other parents that go there, and to also drop in with Fede at unexpected times to just see what's going on. It never hurts to do this at any daycare he might attend.

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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 4:14pm

Hey Mari! I'm always surprised with how adaptable Evan is to situations, so you never know how Fede will react. That is a long break though - is that typical of preschools/daycare in your area?

Our daycare staff says a general rule of thumb is it will take at most 3 weeks for a child to fully adapt to a new situation. Some adapt quicker than others. With doing part time though, I think it will be fairly easy for Fede to deal with the change, so 1.5 months would definitely be long enough.

What we found really worked with Evan was easing him into it. So, the first couple of days, we went in to the daycare with him and just hung out for 30-60 minutes. Then, we left him there alone for a couple hours, and then just increased the amount of time he was spending there. We never had any issues, and he loved daycare right from the start (though who knows if it's because of easing him in, or if he's just like that).

About the fears - like Melissa said, you can check in on him at anytime. Call or drop by. If it's a good daycare, they will allow you to do this anytime and as many times as you want.

ETA: Do they have rules about who is allowed to pick him up, who can enter the building, etc.? At Evan's daycare, we have to buzz-in and say who we are before entering the building. We also have a pick-up list (people who are allowed to pick him up). If someone comes to pick a child up that the staff does not know, they a) ask for ID if they are on the list, and/or b) call the parents.

I think it would be great for you to have some time on your own, especially before the baby comes!

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Wed, 09-21-2011 - 9:12pm

I think it sounds like a good place.


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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:28pm

Thanks for the input girls!!!

DH and I decided to wait until february, as you said the break is too long, and a month will be enough for him to adapt (hopefully). I suppose there must be some places where they don't take breaks at all. But since Christmas holidays are in the middle of summer here, most of people take their vacations in late dec. and january. It's also the time for school vacation, so any moms working in schools or studying are also on a brake. Bottom line, there are not enough kids to justify opening the place.

As for my fears, I've talked to a couple of neighbors who sent their kids there and they gave me excellent references. They both thought the same, "the place could use a makover", but they loved the way they treated their kids and how much they seemed to enjoy it.

I will ask about their security measures, and definitely drop by at radom hours. Just to be on the safe side.


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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:57pm

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 3:58pm
I know you already decided:)

But I finally had time to post so I will LOL. I think it might make sense to pop by once or twice a week now and just get him used to being there- as children get older the transition to daycare gets much harder although of course it will still go fine in Feb. Plus he will remember it even if it takes a week or two to adapt again. But at the same time if it feels best for you to wait then you know Fede best and I'm sure that is the best decision for all of you:)

Teddy just started going to a private "day mother" 3 days a week about a month ago and I am SO pleased! He does so well being around the 3 other children and socially I think it has really helped him with concepts like sharing, waiting his turn, etc plus I think it is good for him to have other caregivers besides just DH and I.

I don't worry at all about safety- I felt 100%comfortable with the day mom when I met her, and this is one area in which I think instincts and personal feel are very very important. I also spent the first 2 weeks there with him as that is how it is done here so I knew how she handled different situations and felt totally comfortable leaving Teddy with her.