Elimination Communication?

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Elimination Communication?
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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 8:16pm

I was just wondering if anyone has tried doing Elimination Communication (aka infant potty training or "diaper free babies."

I was intrigued by the idea so, a couple weeks ago, I started making cuing sounds when Benjamin pees or poops on the change table (which he does a lot because we try to give him a good 10-20 minutes of diaper free time with most changes). This week I bought him a little potty and I've started to hold him over it once a day at times I think he might go.

I was just starting to wonder if there was any point to doing this until, low and behold, he actually pooped in the potty today!

I would be really interested in hearing the experiences of others who have tried it, and how it went for you!


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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 11:33am

"I really don't see how EC would work if a child is in daycare."

Me neither!! I definitely think it is a SAHM/D-only sort of situation. And honestly, like I said, I'm not going to be crazy about it, but I think it is an interesting concept and something I'll be trying to pay attention to and sort of see how it goes.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 11:04am

<< But each kid and each parent and each situation is different, so obviously every parent does what is best for their family.>>

Oh for sure Adrienne. I really don't see how EC would work if a child is in daycare. You would have to find a provider that is down with doing this, and I think the chances would be slim on that. You also have to have like minded parents on the subject. My XH was home w/ Ray for his first year, and even if I wanted to do EC I know there is no way my XH would have been up for that while I was at work.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 10:02am

It sounds like you and I have pretty similar approaches. I also couldn't commit to a mostly diaper-free baby, but I guess I'm planning on trying to track his wet/dirty diapers from the beginning, just to see what his pattern is, and while I am changing him, if he happens to pee or poo, I will make the cue noise. I will try to pay attention to if he has the "I'm pooping" look on his face, and make the cue noise then . . . and I hope that with minimal effort, I can start to get him to go over the potty by cuing him during common peeing and pooing times. We'll see how it goes though!

Kate--In many parts of the world, elimination communication is the standard (for instance, in the Babies movie, the Namibian baby is diaper-free). And, in fact, even 50 years ago when all of America was using cloth diapers, it was much more common for babies to get potty-trained earlier.

My therapist (who is probably in her 60's), told me that when she was a baby, the standard potty-training age was 12 months, and if your baby was 18 months and not potty-trained, you started to get funny looks from other Moms wondering what you were doing wrong with your kid. That sounds like elimination communication to me!

I think the 2.5-3.5 year old age of potty-training in America is a symptom of diapers being "too good", kids can't tell when they are wet because the diaper doesn't feel wet and doesn't bother them--this is an unnatural situation--in the history of man, elimination communication (or a soft version of it), is much more the standard than having your kid in diapers until they are 3.

But each kid and each parent and each situation is different, so obviously every parent does what is best for their family.

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Tue, 08-31-2010 - 12:33am

Sarah - Thanks for sharing your experience. If I could have that kind of success with it, I would be very happy - just to be able to catch some of the pees and poos and get him familiar with the potty. I'm glad to hear that you've been able to have good success without going to the extent of having Eloise diaper-free most of the time. I really couldn't commit to that.

Adrienne - Any thoughts on when you would like to try EC and how you will approach it?

Kate - I guess I see this as a way of following Benjamin's lead in terms of understanding when he needs to go and meeting that need without him having to go in a diaper all the time...much like I've been following his cues for when he needs to eat and sleep, from the day he was born. I would never do anything that I thought would "push" him or make him uncomfortable. For example, he "told me" right away that he didn't like sitting on the potty, so I just hold him over it. I totally get that it's not for everyone, though.


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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 2:49pm
Personally I am not a fan of elimination communication. I think it's one of those things that is just pushing baby too far to soon. Not to mention everyone who cares for the baby (dad, caregiver, grandparents, sitter, etc) needs to be on the same page and trying for the same goal. Like weaning, walking, etc I think the transition to using the potty should be child lead. IMO there is no rush and they will not go to college wearing diapers.

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 2:29pm

Cassie,

I'm planning on seeing if this works--just trying to make the cue noise if I know the baby is peeing or pooing, and trying to track when they usually go to see if I can help them go on a schedule/over the potty.

We'll see how it goes, but I've heard it can work really well if you are diligent with it. KUP on how Benjamin is doing!

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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 10:24am
I am not doing anything major, but I have been putting Eloise on the potty when she first wakes up and right after her nap for about 6 months now, and she normally goes when she is put on. I also will put her on when she looks like she is ready to poop and she will go then as well sometimes. She actually asks to sit on the potty now and some days goes more often then Desmond the never going to potty train child.



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