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Wed, 08-17-2011 - 2:39pm

Do you ever just feel like a big fat failure as a mother?

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Registered: 10-15-2001
In reply to: erica812
Sun, 08-21-2011 - 1:13pm
Thank you, all. So much. Your words helped a lot. Yesterday, we took the whole family to Sea World in Orlando, and we had a fabulous day. The boys were well behaved. Charlotte was content in her Sleepy Wrap, and DH & I took turns wearing her. It's hard to believe that these are the same children!

I do think that I'm a good mom, but sometimes I can tell myself some pretty horrible things!
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In reply to: erica812
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 3:07am
Hugs Erica! I know exactly how you feel... Well not quite as I'm one kid short ;-)
I had one of those days too yesterday where everything that could go wrong, would go wrong; and the smallest things put me on the verge of tears. Thankfully those days come and go! I'm glad you got some "time off" walking the dog, and that you got some cooking done :)

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In reply to: erica812
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 1:27am

(((HUGS))) Erica!! You are most certainly not a failure and are just going through an incredibly challenging time right now. I'm sure the boys are still adjusting to the new surroundings and Charlotte's just being a baby!

I had a day like that today, had to give Selin her first time out, and two of them at that! It was simply putting her in her crib for a few minutes and closing the door because she was driving me crazy. Deliberately getting into stuff I asked her to move away from while looking right at me and saying NO! She was really pushing it today.

Have you found a church and LLL group to join? I think having other moms IRL to hang with might help too and maybe you'll be able to send the boys on some playdates so you can just have Charlotte to care for?

Hope you have a better day today! :-D

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In reply to: erica812
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 10:51pm

Aww, I'm sorry Erica.






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In reply to: erica812
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 4:07pm

((((HUGS))) Erica.

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In reply to: erica812
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 3:58pm

Oh, Erica, I'm sorry you had such a hard day!!! Just like everyone said, there are awful days in every mom's life.

In my case, The first 5 mnths of Fede's life are a confusing blur, I'm sure my brain is trying to bury the memories deeeeeep down!!!. All I remember is that he could cry fo hours and hours, and I had no idea what to do!!! Honestly, sometimes I think that without DH I would have gone totally crazy....

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In reply to: erica812
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 8:25am
Thanks, everyone. The day did get a bit better. When DH got home, I took our dog for a walk, and Charlotte cooperated long enough for me to make dinner. Cooking always make me feel normal and content.

Andi...I might have given them cereal, but we were out of milk! One thing after another! LOL
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Registered: 02-27-2011
In reply to: erica812
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 6:40pm
Big hugs!! Girls are a whole different kettle of fish then boys are. In my experience boys tend to be more laid back and girls more high maintenance (I know there are exceptions to the rules).

Is it possible to pump and then go take a girls day minus the kids for awhile? Do something fun and relaxing? It's got to be a big adjustment adding in a third kid, as I am sure I will find out when the twins get here, so just gonna send you lots of patience and happiness vibes!

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In reply to: erica812
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 5:52pm
((hugs)) We've all had days like that.
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In reply to: erica812
Wed, 08-17-2011 - 4:08pm

Oh geez Erica, what a day you poor thing!! Well the one thing you do NOT strike me as, is an out of control kind of mom. You guys have had lots of adjustments to make lately, and with three kids at totally different developmental levels... well, I'd say you're probably in for more challenging days over the next year. I bet you'll handle them all great, just like you did this one. Giving yourself that time out to just breathe sounds perfect. Hey, you're only human. And geez, after that kind of outing, I probably would pour my kids a bowl of cereal for lunch and lock myself in another room for an hour.

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