Help! I'm going BATTY!

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Help! I'm going BATTY!
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 12:36pm

I don't know if I'm cut out to be a SAHM. Seriously, managing 120 fifteen year olds was easier.

I know that sounds horrible, but lately (last month or so) all Lucy does is walk around the house and whine! And pull at my legs. And cry. She seriously wants to be in my lap ALL DAY every day. The sound of her whiney grates on my nerves SO bad. I'm almost wondering if I need an anti-anxiety pill. Or anti-depressant. Or a job. I don't know. Part of me wants to go back to teaching and the other part really really likes being at home.

Right now she's crying on the floor under my chair and I'm just tired of sitting here with her all day. I can't even start a load of laundry without her following me around and crying.

I don't know what to do. I really thought that at 1 she would play a little more independently, you know? Is that unreasonable? Am I expecting too much from a 14 month old?

Does anyone follow a schedule with their toddler...with certain "activities" (outside swing, water play, video, lunch, etc) every day? I just wonder if she would benefit from a more predictable day? And not be so whiney? Or bored, maybe?

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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 7:47am
I shower in the evening. It's never woken Evan up, and if it does, DH is there to get him back to sleep! LOL!




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Tue, 06-14-2011 - 8:01am
I think especially if you are new to staying at home full time that it can take awhile to adjust but give yourself a few months before deciding anything:)

I shower in the morning and Teddy plays in the bathroom while I do. Right now he likes to take makeup out of one bag and put it in another. I also sometimes let him play in the bathtub with a bit of water while I shower (the shower is enclosed by glass so I can see him the whole time).

I also think having a bit of a schedule makes a big difference! They come to know what to expect and that helps them a lot too.
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Thu, 06-16-2011 - 2:58pm
Heather, you are not alone! Fede is just the same, if I am playing with him he is all smiles, but if I'm doing anything without him, the clinginess begins. I don't mean stuff like doing the dishes or making the beds. He's fine with that, and follows me around happily. The problems is when he sees I'm having fun WITHOUT HIM, like posting here, or reading a book and such. I suppose at this age they still believe they "own" their mamas, and they should be with them and for them all the time. So it's hard to realize that they have "competition". Sometimes I wonder if this is something that only firstborns (or only child) go through. Maybe for other kids its easier, since they've had to share their moms since birth. Anyways... it gets slowly better. My boy is much better now at 18 mos than what he was at 14mos. As the girls have said, a routine helps a lot. A favorite TVshow helps too (Fede is crazy about Handy Manny), and also going outside... I can go outside and read a book for 1/2 hour while Fede is happily exploring the backyard. Oh! Something else that helps is to create fun from everyday stuff. fi, I have this silly song I sing when I'm putting the living room in order, and I do all this funny faces and voices, and Fede really thinks we are playing instead of doing chores. And in any case, when I feel like I can't stand the situation anymore, I try to think what my mom said once "Enjoy it, before you know they are teens and can't wait to get away from you!"

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Fri, 06-17-2011 - 11:30pm

Thanks again everyone!

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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 12:11pm

I guess I should feel lucky after reading all these other posts. David is great at entertaining himself and has been so for several months. Of course he is a bit older than most of your kids (18 months) but even when he was younger. He has tons of toys to play with and can play with stuff for quite awhile. He also helps me load the dishwasher, do the laundry, vacuum.

And he is great going out to eat.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Sat, 06-18-2011 - 1:55pm
Wow! That is awesome that David is so good at entertaining himself!

I think some of it is just temperament- my mom said I was completely different at Teddy's age, able to play with books or cars or blocks for 20+minutes, able to sit nicely at a restaurant and just play with the crayons, etc. But I also wasn't able to climb the way Teddy can until I was about 2 1/2 and I didn't get into everything like he does.

I think having me time is so important whether you are a SAHM or working mom or whatever- it's great that you get it Sandy:)
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