Help! She never stops screaming!

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Help! She never stops screaming!
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 12:26pm

X-posted from the April board:

Unless she is being held she is never happy. It's so awful and I don't know what to do with her. It doesn't matter if I put her down awake or sound asleep in the crib, bassinet, bouncer or swing. She is screaming within minutes. She is like this around the clock, I have to sleep with her to get her to sleep at all. Last night I didn't get to eat dinner, brush my teeth or even change out of my clothes into PJs because I was feeding her and she fell asleep and I didn't dare put her down because I wanted to sleep so badly. Is anyone else having this problem? This is #3 for me, you'd think I'd know what to do but I am at a total loss and going completely insane because I can't do anything unless I put her down and listen to her scream the whole time I'm doing it. She's in her swing screaming as I type this. I've tried letting her go for a while to see if she'll eventually tire out, but she doesn't seem to. HELP!!

I feed her every two hours from start to start for like a half hour each time, so it's like every hour and a half. I have two other kids that I am supposed to be taking care of and I can't even take care of myself!

ETA: I have a Moby wrap that I've tried a few times and it only works for her for like a half hour. I just really need to be able to put her down sometimes!!

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Edited 4/18/2010 12:42 pm ET by cara_l

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:08pm
Yeah Teddy also has many of the symptoms of silent reflux but my doctor didn't seem concerned and wouldn't give us anything for it unfortunately:(
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Registered: 12-18-2007
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:14pm

Cara, I'm not a BTDT mom...I'm a BTDT screamer.

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 12:33pm

Oooohhhh I so feel your pain! Except you have other children, so it must be even harder!

Rylan screamed all day for the first 6-8 weeks unless he had a boob, a bottle, or one of our fingers in his mouth. He wouldn't take a pacifier, he HATED the swing, he HATED being worn, he HATED his bassinet, he HATED laying down on a blanket on the floor alone, or in our bed, or in the Boppy etc. He slept only in small spurts and hardly at all at night. I carried him in my arms pretty much 24/7 and co-slept just to get a few non-contiguous hours of sleep each day. Friends would tell me to just let him CIO, but he would literally scream for 7+ hours without stopping. Other friends would just keep repeating the 5 S's to me like they were the 10 Commandments, and I kept saying, "But I'm doing all of that and he's still screaming all the time!"

Eventually, we learned he had reflux and food allergies so he was probably in pain, and we're learning now that he probably has ASD and/or a sensory disorder which makes some normal sensory info really painful, unpleasant, or scary for him, which explains why he hated being worn and why normally pleasant textures and sensations were troubling to him.

If you're already practicing the 5 S's, I would say take her to pedi and get her checked for reflux or other medical issues. Are her dirty diapers normal for her age and diet? Green, watery diarrhea was our first indication that Ry had food allergies.

Lots of hugs! I hope you can figure out what makes her tick and how to get her (and you and the rest of your family) to a happier place!

-Megan

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Registered: 01-02-2009
Thu, 04-22-2010 - 3:20pm

Hey Cara,

I know what you mean this is my 3rd as well and Jaylen was the same way. He is getting better, but for the most part he always wants to be held. I found that he did have gas and I got him gripe water to help with that. He did develop a umbilical hernia which probably contributed to his fussiness a couple weeks ago (apparently the hernia is more common in African American babies). You may want to try getting her some gas drops or gripe water. I too had sleep with him in order to get sleep and I too feel some guilt for not being able to take care of my girls like I would like to.

They say that the baby doesn't know the difference in your routine but your older kids do so we should try to continue doing our normal routine with them. Easier said than done.

It is so funny I sometimes get Jayla (because Jaslyn doesn't care) to help me keep him occupied. She will sing to him or give him his pacifier (something I didn't give to them but had to with him) in order for me to use the bathroom sometimes. I put him in his swing and it works for a little bit, but not for too long. I did put him in my the carrier and took a short walk with him and the girls and he liked it.

Of course you will need to keep trying different things. I also started back swaddling him nice and tight and putting the pacifier in his mouth. He actually slept really well and so did I. He woke up I fed him, changed his diaper and wrapped him up again and placed him in his co-sleeper awake and he went back to sleep.

Good luck!!
Jay

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Wed, 04-28-2010 - 6:47pm

I hope

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